Buzzfeed: Want to have s*x with a celeb? Sign an NDA

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It was 3 a.m., and the house party in LA was about to be shut down.

This is way too early, Cassie said to her friend.

She began weaving through the crowd to see if someone else was hosting a party. That’s when the A-list heartthrob approached her.

You wanna come to my place? he asked.

Of course I’m going to go to his place, she thought.

Cassie and her friend got in his car, and he drove them a few miles to his house. It was huge and modern on the outside, and on the inside, it looked like an upscale bachelor pad: furnished with black leather couches and adorned with superhero posters and various art.

He and his friends began smoking weed, and he did some lines of coke with Cassie’s friend.

“He seemed really into her, all over her, talking with her, flirting with her,” she told me in a phone interview in April. Cassie said she was really drunk by this time, but she had turned down the cocaine.

Later that night, Cassie’s friend said, “I just really want to go home.” She called an Uber, and Cassie planned on going with her. “I’m not going to ruin the night for you. Just stay,” her friend told her.

So Cassie stayed. And the handsome, tanned actor’s attention turned to her.

Do you want to go upstairs? he asked her.

She said yes.

They smoked more weed, and then he offered her coke again. Although she didn’t like cocaine, as the movie star’s strikingly blue eyes gazed at her expectantly, she found herself agreeing.

I’ll just do a few lines, she said.

You seem really nice, and I really like you, she remembered him saying next.

Well, you were kind of all over my friend before, so I didn’t think you liked me, she said she replied.

No, I really like you. Do you wanna make out?

OK, she said.

I'm gonna have to have you sign this piece of paper first, he said, handing her a nondisclosure agreement on formal letterhead.

Cassie said she remembered asking, What the hell is this?

It’s just standard. Everybody asks for them. It’s just to make sure you don’t talk about anything that happened tonight and talk about it to the press, he said.

The two-page NDA also stipulated that she couldn’t talk about the agreement itself.

“I thought it was weird he asked for it after we’d been doing drugs and getting wasted, like, 'This is the moment you ask for an NDA?'” she told me.

“I tried to read it, even though I was super wasted, just to try to make sure what it was talking about,” she said. “Then I said, ‘What’s the worst that could happen? I’ll just sign it.’”

Cassie’s experience isn’t unique.It seems to be more and more common to be asked to sign NDAs before one-night stands or romantic relationships with celebrities and other prominent people, according to four entertainment lawyers I spoke to — including Gloria Allred and Dinah Perez — as well as publicists Jeremy Lemur and Michael Whiteacre, and women who’ve been asked to sign them. And it’s not just men who are doing the asking.

Some women celebrities have also been asking for signed NDAs before sex. On an episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta that aired in January, star Kandi Burruss claimed she requires NDAs before threesomes. In a Bravo video, Real Housewives of Potomac star Gizelle Bryant said, “I think it’s an excellent idea, and it made me think, like, ‘Kandi, I might want to throw myself into your threesome because I know no one’s going to find out.’”

It’s hard to determine just how pervasive the use of NDAs is because some of them, like the one Cassie signed, require people to completely deny their existence. The few places people freely talk about them are on anonymous gossip sites or social media pages, like Instagram’s deuxmoi, where I first found out about them, and sex worker message boards.

Because many NDAs are secret, rumors about them abound. While reporting for this article, I was told of an A-list pop star who brought his PR person to hand out NDAs at clubs to men he wanted to sleep with, an actor who used these agreements in his pursuit of teenage boys, and an NFL player who requires all his girlfriends, even celebs, to sign them. Confirming an NDA’s existence, however, is extremely difficult.

NDAs are only revealed when someone leaks them to the media, as a person allegedly did with Charlie Sheen’s presex NDA in 2015. (When asked for comment, Sheen’s representative told BuzzFeed News that “Charlie doesn’t require NDAs.”) Or they are revealed during lawsuits, such as one of the 22 against Texans quarterback Deshaun Watson, in which masseuses alleged that he sexually assaulted them. In court documents, one masseuse said he refused to pay her until she signed one.

Perhaps the most famous sex-related NDA controversy happened a decade after the alleged sexual encounter between Stormy Daniels and Donald Trump. Trump, using the pseudonym David Dennison, paid Daniels $130,000 two weeks before the election in 2016 “in exchange for her silence on information designated as confidential,” according to Jeffrey Steven Gordon in an article that appeared in the Alabama Law Review last year. The 17-page NDA said the confidential information included “any of his alleged sexual partners, alleged sexual actions or alleged sexual conduct.” If she violated the agreement, she could be fined $1 million for each breach.

Daniels explained why she signed the NDA in her book Full Disclosure."This was about putting all this behind me confidentially and never having to worry about Trump coming after me or my family," she wrote. “I signed something that gave me a paltry amount when I could have made millions of dollars … I used the money to buy a new horse trailer.” In 2018, Daniels sued to invalidate the agreement, but Trump’s lawyer later wrote a letter to the court saying he wouldn’t enforce it, and the case was never litigated. (Trump has never said he was involved in an NDA with Daniels.)

It seems people who have signed these NDAs, like Cassie, haven’t necessarily read them closely and didn’t have a lawyer look at them, and that’s largely by design. Presex NDAs are meant to protect the celebrity, not the person signing them.

I spoke to lawyer Gloria Allred, who represents people who are alleged victims of celebrities, about why there has been an increase in these types of NDAs, and she attributed them in part to social media. Before iPhones, Twitter, and Instagram, celebrities could keep their trysts with groupies and fans fairly secret. Now, with one click, a fan can tell their story to the world. Another lawyer I spoke to, Dinah Perez, who drafts NDAs for celebrities, blames both social media and “the advent of media outlets like TMZ where people can call and just tattle on somebody, you know? And if it's so easy to get an NDA, then why not do it?”

Did Cassie violate her NDA by speaking to me? Probably not. Allred told me presex NDAs probably can’t be enforceable because a contract has to provide value for the person signing it, which in legal terms is called “consideration.” And according to Allred, sex can’t be the “consideration” in a contract. Frequently the consideration in a more typical business NDA is money in exchange for silence — often to protect trade secrets. She suggested consulting with a lawyer because, “Maybe it's enforceable. Maybe it's not. Maybe it's enforceable in part, but not other parts.”

As “Enty,” an entertainment lawyer who runs the gossip blog Crazy Days and Nights, told me, “You go work for some big company, and they say, ‘Here's a nondisclosure agreement.’ Generally, they'll give you some cash … And that's your consideration for not disclosing.” But in a presex NDA the consideration isn’t money. “The [celebrity] may say: ‘This is consideration. I wouldn't have had sex with you if you hadn't signed it.’ That's not sufficient,” Allred said.

Enty told me, “It’s against the law to pay for sex, so is it [valuable because] you're getting to have sex with a celebrity? I can't see a court saying that's valuable. It would be valuable if you could tell somebody about it. But you sign something that says you can't.” He added that he has written the kinds of NDAs that are routinely passed out at celeb parties, usually before someone walks in the door. According to him, these are probably not enforceable either.

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there's not a celebrity that i want to have sex with enough to deal with all that ****.

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Just now, Agunimon said:

there's not a celebrity that i want to have sex with enough to deal with all that ****.

The only celebs I would sign an NDA for is zayn & wonho 

 

[RAMROD 107,520]

Never knew Ursula is so way ahead of her time

[PlastiscGuy 20,870]

Chris Evans and Henry Cavill here I come

[A Fried Egg 8,317]

I would sign one for Lady Gaga. Just so I can smell her bedroom.

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5 minutes ago, iku said:

I would sign one for Lady Gaga. Just so I can smell her bedroom.

I read bacon at first  

[chromatic puzea 10,083]

omg but like imagine having sex with the hottest celeb and then not even being able to tell your friends afterwards

i guess they wouldn't even believe you though

[ToxicHot 6,444]

I'm up for it.

[Aloe 1,199]

So moral of the story is u can sign it and tell everyone about it the next day since the nda is not enforceable? 

[TimisaMonster 31,073]

When sex literally becomes a business contract/transaction...its a turn off and ruins the mood

[AJRocketMan 2,684]

I think non-disclosure agreements are unconstitutional and should be completely outlawed. NDA’s without end points are especially unconstitutional! At least ones with a time limit I can condone.

[ladygagafan1234 700]

1 hour ago, TimisaMonster said:

When sex literally becomes a business contract/transaction...its a turn off and ruins the mood

Have you heard of sex workers?

[Aphasic 4,033]

Moral of the story "I wanted to have sex with a celebrity but then how could I brag about it if I signed NDA?”

This reeks of attention seeking. I don't think any of us would like the idea of having our sexual encounters out there for everyone to judge even less when the sexual act was consensual (the girl clearly states that she wanted to go to his house). 

You can't trust anyone anymore.

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4 minutes ago, Aphasic said:

Moral of the story "I wanted to have sex with a celebrity but then how could I brag about it if I signed NDA?”

This reeks of attention seeking. I don't think any of us would like the idea of having our sexual encounters out there for everyone to judge even less when the sexual act was consensual (the girl clearly states that she wanted to go to his house). 

You can't trust anyone anymore.

People are entitled for freedom of speech. Don’t want people to talk about your sexual escapades? Either be chaste or be careful who you sleep with. 🤷🏼‍♂️