HotLikeMexico 5,240 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 57 minutes ago, PinkPop said: i was talking about the whole 'coming out' situation in general. do you know what's peculiar? i know EXACTLY how you feel. When I was in school, I was the camp 'girly' gay one and I wasn't even out. Everyone took the mick out of me and I got bullied for not even being gay, but just acting camp. My situation wasn't as severe as yours but for me, this guy who was friends with me went to the 'cool group' and joined in with the gay jokes. That same guy told me was gay two years ago and he was applauded for it. All of his homophobic friends who teased and bullied me and used to say 'go on, let's hear you talk' because apparently i spoke like a female were fully supportive. now i'm glad they are no longer homophobic, because i don't want homophobic people around, PERIOD. but there's that part of me, that young boy that remembers how i felt when i was isolated and i had no one fending for me but now it's all of a sudden okay to be gay. i confronted the guy and he completely denies ever being homophobic. I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm sorry it happened to me, but we have a story to tell and when we tell our story - it's our voice that is hopefully one day gonna have some effect to eventually make some significant change; so no one has to feel like this. Thanks for sharing your story. I really really appreciate it! I misunderstood what you meant and thought you were referring to his initial video where he was offended. It triggered that sad part of my teenage years thinking about that guy who bullied me and how he would react in a horrible way for being called gay even tho he was gay and a complete bully. And years later getting sympathy and love when I didn't get that at 15 when I came out. I'm older now and it makes me feel bad for still thinking about teenage me getting mad at someone that is getting sympathy for their horrible reaction video to being called gay when they were horrible to other people . It's wrong of me because everyone goes through coming out differently and not everyone is that guy. I have to learn to eventually forgive. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ikvs 2,576 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 The typical youtuber *sigh* in the first second of the video... lol Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
davflz 3,293 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 can y'all stop being so condescending? coming out can be a very difficult and emotionally overwhelming process; for some more than others. Many need time and for him it is only now that he feels comfortable being honest about himself. Y'alls "wE bEeN kNeW" comments are just kind of disrespectful and also not appropriate at this time and place Call me a sensitive bitch, but having gone trough similar **** I find it beautiful how he has finally come to terms with himself and even if it was "obvious", it's still nice to appreciate someone's growth Spoiler Also if you watched the video you wouldn't be saying **** ijs Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElectricKing 9,405 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 2 minutes ago, HotLikeMexico said: Thanks for sharing your story. I really really appreciate it! I misunderstood what you meant and thought you were referring to his initial video where he was offended. It triggered that sad part of my teenage years thinking about that guy who bullied me and how he would react in a horrible way for being called gay even tho he was gay and a complete bully. And years later getting sympathy and love when I didn't get that at 15 when I came out. I'm older now and it makes me feel bad for still thinking about teenage me getting mad at someone that is getting sympathy for their horrible reaction video to being called gay when they were horrible to other people . It's wrong of me because everyone goes through coming out differently and not everyone is that guy. I have to learn to eventually forgive. the only person that is holding you back by being angry is you, that anger may never go away - but do it for yourself. that bully, he don't care. them guys who bullied me, they don't care either. so why should we? i've learnt the only person holding me back is me. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harris Walz 2024 1,451 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 Hmm literally how could you not know Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipthistea 21,099 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 So he took 45 min to basically say he's gay It's 2019, it's not a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
DelusionalGaga 29,589 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 I'm so happy that he's become more comfortable with talking about his sexuality. And it's really cute how he called Phil his soulmate Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
davflz 3,293 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 2 minutes ago, sipthistea said: So he took 45 min to basically say he's gay It's 2019, it's not a big deal. sure, cause homophobia is cured, internalized self-hatred doesn't exist,harassment doesn't happen and unaccepting families aren't real /s no offense, but that statement reeks of ignorance and privilege. Please recognize that people have gone through different things and just because you perceive something of not being a big deal, doesn't mean it isn't to others. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeMo 3,889 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 21 minutes ago, davflz said: can y'all stop being so condescending? coming out can be a very difficult and emotionally overwhelming process; for some more than others. Many need time and for him it is only now that he feels comfortable being honest about himself. Y'alls "wE bEeN kNeW" comments are just kind of disrespectful and also not appropriate at this time and place Call me a sensitive bitch, but having gone trough similar **** I find it beautiful how he has finally come to terms with himself and even if it was "obvious", it's still nice to appreciate someone's growth Reveal hidden contents Also if you watched the video you wouldn't be saying **** ijs Couldn’t agree more, I personally can not STAND it when people say **** to me like “I knew you were gay before you knew yourself” “it was obvious” etc its just obnoxious... www.youtube.com/jmremixes Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElectricKing 9,405 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 'i wanted to see myself represented in the media and maybe i wouldn't have been so alone' - is it just me or anyone else never felt that way? to me, having someone like gaga (a talented kind powerful woman) means more to me than having a gay man represented. anyone else? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke78619 23,409 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 I always thought he was known for being gay, did I miss something insta: good_lukeing | I have nothing else to promote Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimmo 81,082 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 11 minutes ago, Queenofpeace said: ok .cool not going to be rather rude but why is this news? it's actually completely normal now not a big deal imo Have you been to Texas? Gay has never been normal here so take a few steps back... and congratulations to you for living such a free life... Hottie Detector Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElectricKing 9,405 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 Just now, Kimmo said: Have you been to Texas? Gay has never been normal here so take a few steps back... and congratulations to you for living such a free life... @Queenofpeace i know what you mean - like in the entertainment world it's accepted? but entertainment goes out to everyone in the world, so news like this is important imo because it will eventually normalize it for those people who think being gay is 'unnatural' Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ElectricKing 9,405 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 Just now, Queenofpeace said: ok . i,m sorry i never have ever been in a position of a gay man and the recent positive news and legalisation of their rights since 2016 really made me thought it was now the norm . i,m sorry . i just personally thought it would be surprising if a coming out story comes from a developing world where the concept of a man and a woman still exist rather then from a developed nation i get you but there's still a lot of homophobia in western nations too sometimes, especially on places like GGD where it's very gay friendly (obvs) - it can feel very safe (thank god) and you start thinking everyone is accepting, at least i did. then you go out into the real world again and you realise just how homophobic some people/societies/religions etc. are and you realise our work isn't done. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKANK 14,288 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 It's disappointing when a forum comprised mostly of queer people doesn't understand how rude it is to trivialize one of the most stressful and difficult moments in a gay persons life with the "you lisp so much, of course we knew you were gay" bullshit, or act like because it's 2019 people are no longer allowed to feel shame or struggle with their identity. Happy Pride GGD. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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