How to respond when someone calls you a f*g

[PEZ 6,181]

23 minutes ago, Delulu Rogers said:

« Beatrice » on a name tag and asked us who the hell would name their child « beat rice »

Lmao, “ya I’m a f*g, I beat up the bussy while you beat rice”

[Zak 309]

I don't really care what people say to me tbh. I call my own self a f*g  all the time. I laugh at people that say it. I honestly don't care anymore...

[Chic 20,830]

"Sis this is no way to react to a rejection on Grindr, stop obsessing over me"

[Butters Stotch 5,364]

This happened to me. I felt horrible at the moment, because my family knew nothing about me, but they had suspicions. My older sister and I were fighting and she said everybody knew I was a f*g, and I felt terrified, I instantly froze and the only thing I did was scream to her and insult her.

I think about it now and I truly feel bad, and I wish it had not happened, but I can't change the past... our relationship somehow has got better since then, but this scars will never go away, because if they had suspicions about my sexual orientation, I don't get why she had to use that against me, as if it was something bad or to be ashamed of. When they finally found out about my sexual orientation they all said it was ok, and I know deep down they feel proud of me and the way I've handled my life, but I can't help but think that there's some homophobia inside of them, and that I was raised with that inside of me too.

I'm working on it, though. I think that once you accept yourself, with time you start to understand that the only person that matters is you, if you feel ok with what you are, there's nothing or no one that can make you feel bad. It takes time, but I deeply believe it's true. It's a daily process, though, but when you start living your life through self acceptance, some people see it, and they start respecting you for your bravery, and you just stop caring about those who don't.

[Big Reputation 797]

Nobody really does cause I’ve mostly just dated girls. The rare time I date a guy it catches people off guard 🤣 That being said I wouldn’t really care, I don’t find it offensive

[Butters Stotch 5,364]

I think some people here are missing the point. When someone random says this to me as a joke or something, I honestly don't care, it doesn't offend me at all. The point is when someone from your own family says this knowing you probably are gay, and they say this knowing they might hurt your feelings. It's not the word itself that's hurting you, it's the intention behind it that breaks your heart. I know how you feel, I've been there. The same exact thing happened to me, as I stated previously, so I get it. The only thing I can say is you learn to deal with this things with time, but the first step is accepting who you are, because when you feel no shame about your reality, no one can use your reality to offend you or hurt you.

[INNA 3,558]

This is gonna sound dumb, but I think you should talk to him one on one when both of y’all have calmed down. It is super wrong of him to be referring to you or anyone like that, but I would say it seems better to not instigate him if he is willing to just throw you under the bus in front of your family.

I think you should find out why he is feeling so hateful and also tell him that that **** really hurts. It’s hard enough for parents to not accept you how you are, and to feel 100% alone in your own home is terrible. It is easier for siblings to understand or at least try to understand...

I know he’s a little sh*t but maybe if you show him some love and patience, and try to get to the bottom of his anger, it might help. Just an idea, you’d be surprised how far an offering of peace can get you. Also, remember, hurt people hurt people. Good luck with everything  

[CautiousLurker 17,716]

Kick him in the nuts 

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in Minecraft 

 

[Midnightrush891 727]

Takes one to know one!

 

lm just kidding, but I am sorry he did that to you.

[Healed My Heart 39,510]

When someone lashes out, I like to say something along the lines of "I know you only said that because you're hurting." It defuses the situation a bit, rather than escalating tensions with a comeback. It usually takes people aback, especially when they're expecting a insult or something harsh in return and can make them stop and think about what they're saying.

I'm sorry for how you were treated 

[hELXIG 42,030]

Usually I'd just blankly stare back and say "Yeah, and?". They want you to have a reaction and be offended, but if you don't act offended at all they get no satisfaction.

But considering you're in the closet idk... just say "if I'm the *** then how come I caught you sucking d*ck the other week?" and make up a detailed, realistic story 

[Stupid Oreo 14,210]

Punch them in the stomach

[PartySick 148,549]

1 hour ago, Healed My Heart said:

When someone lashes out, I like to say something along the lines of "I know you only said that because you're hurting."

I do this on occasion when I'm insulted but I take it to an entirely stupid level just to f*ck with them

"I know you're just projecting. It's ok, we're here for you". Something like this trips them up, then you sprinkle in some "mmhmm and how does that make you feel?" lines and watch their brains scramble for answers

[TimisaMonster 31,073]

"You say that like it's a bad thing...Okay breeder" 

[GAYHEMikey 7,572]

3 hours ago, Delulu Rogers said:

Lmaoo if we were young that may have worked but we’re over 20. He’s super money hungry and works 24/7 and is very mean and miserable. He’s not the smartest either. Once he read the name « Beatrice » on a name tag and asked us who the hell would name their child « beat rice » and he was dead serious. We make fun of him for that ally he time but that’s all good harmless stuff. I just want a good comeback that could also work for other people too. 

Say something like: stfu and go beat ur meat... or beat ur rice whatever lol