Perez Hilton says theirs a video of Tom Daley w/ a minor

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2 minutes ago, ADVENTURE said:

I feel like I’m gonna regret saying this but... if you keep dating people that are 16 and you yourself were dating guys that were a lot older when you were that age then that’s kind of the point. You are interested in the same “inappropriate” relationships that you were in at that age. Almost kind of stunts your growth. 

i have the opposite problem. Older guys were interested in me from a very young age, like 13 (really freaks me out when I think about it now) and I like much older men now as a result.

There is a reason that legal ages exist. It’s not to be a buzz kill. But to protect people who might not be able to protect themselves.

not a judgement. Sorry if that comes off rude. I really don’t mean for it to 

It did not come off rude don't worry I totally get what you're saying and there might be truth in it, I admit. The dynamic of a relationship with an age gap interests me as I believe there is a lot that the "younger" and the "older" can learn from one another. Different lives, different perspectives. But in my case it's not like I ultimately look for it. It just happens. Before this I was dating a guy who was my age. Because there were feelings and that's what matters the most to me. My point was that all situations are different and people shouldn't generalize and say that a 16 year is automatically being taken advantage of when dating someone older. Some stuff said here triggered me as they were basically categorizing me as a "predator" and other guys I've dated as "predators" too, when there was none of that. It was... love you know. 

Now, to say that for a teenager dating someone older might change their way of seeing romantic and sexual relationships is not false. But it doesn't mean it changes it negatively. That's what I meant. 

 

And obviously, when you're 13, this is creepy. Hell I was still looking like a child at that age... but do you really think this is the only reason why you like older men now? (I'm an open book and don't mind talking about these things out in the open but if you don't want to answer you really don't have to ) 

 

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6 minutes ago, FunkYou said:

It did not come off rude don't worry I totally get what you're saying and there might be truth in it, I admit. The dynamic of a relationship with an age gap interests me as I believe there is a lot that the "younger" and the "older" can learn from one another. Different lives, different perspectives. But in my case it's not like I ultimately look for it. It just happens. Before this I was dating a guy who was my age. Because there were feelings and that's what matters the most to me. My point was that all situations are different and people shouldn't generalize and say that a 16 year is automatically being taken advantage of when dating someone older. Some stuff said here triggered me as they were basically categorizing me as a "predator" and other guys I've dated as "predators" too, when there was none of that. It was... love you know. 

Now, to say that for a teenager dating someone older might change their way of seeing romantic and sexual relationships is not false. But it doesn't mean it changes it negatively. That's what I meant. 

 

And obviously, when you're 13, this is creepy. Hell I was still looking like a child at that age... but do you really think this is the only reason why you like older men now? (I'm an open book and don't mind talking about these things out in the open but if you don't want to answer you really don't have to ) 

 

Yeah I mean nothing is that black and white as much as humans want it to be. And just from reading a few replies on here from those who were in relationships with older men at 16 they don’t seem like it scarred them or something (that they realize at least). 

for me, it’s hard to say if that’s the only reason I go for older guys. BUT I do think it shaped me in a way that hasn’t always been healthy. I have a tendency to need to please older guys in whatever they want regardless if it’s good for me. And I think that goes back to my first interactions with men. When you are so young and trying to figure out what sex even is and then you have someone much older than you guide you through the experience it can leave you extremely vulnerable. And I kind of am where I am now I guess lol.

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20 hours ago, Blue Lagoon said:

Why does that matter what does a 25 year old want to have sex with a 16 yo

I can confirm that I would have loved to spend some time with Mr. Daley when I was 16 lol it's not that big of a deal imo 

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3 minutes ago, ADVENTURE said:

Yeah I mean nothing is that black and white as much as humans want it to be. And just from reading a few replies on here from those who were in relationships with older men at 16 they don’t seem like it scarred them or something (that they realize at least). 

for me, it’s hard to say if that’s the only reason I go for older guys. BUT I do think it shaped me in a way that hasn’t always been healthy. I have a tendency to need to please older guys in whatever they want regardless if it’s good for me. And I think that goes back to my first interactions with men. When you are so young and trying to figure out what sex even is and then you have someone much older than you guide you through the experience it can leave you extremely vulnerable. And I kind of am where I am now I guess lol.

I'm sorry your experience has been like this... I totally understand where you're coming from. It should not be overlooked, but as you say, nothing is ever all black or all white. 

 

You seem to see where you are clearly and who you are, sounds like you have the key to go towards something that would be healthier for you and I wish you'll unlock it all! sending love

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3 hours ago, FunkYou said:

I totally disagree with everybody saying a 16 year old is DEFINITELY taken advantage of when in a relationship with let's say, a 25 year old. Sure, it happens, but the opposite happens too. When I was 16 I had a relationship with a 37 year old. I knew damn right what I was doing

You were a teenager he was an adult. That's the definition of pedophilia, consensual or not, it's pedophilia.

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19 minutes ago, MJHolland said:

I can confirm that I would have loved to spend some time with Mr. Daley when I was 16 lol it's not that big of a deal imo 

Baffles me that this is the consensus here on GGD. Do gay men think it's okay to date teenagers? Where do you draw the line, at 15? 14? 13? But 16 is okay? You guys need to do a lot of reflection during this quarantine

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3 minutes ago, KyaneWest said:

Baffles me that this is the consensus here on GGD. Do gay men think it's okay to date teenagers? Where do you draw the line, at 15? 14? 13? But 16 is okay? You guys need to do a lot of reflection during this quarantine

Ggd users defending incest & minor/adult relationships 

*pretends to be shocked*

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1 minute ago, Blue Lagoon said:

Ggd users defending incest & minor/adult relationships 

*pretends to be shocked*

I am shocked but maybe I shouldnt have been 

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3 hours ago, Cody James said:

I think it is important to note WHEN the video was filmed. Tom has looked the same age for years. Perks of having a baby face. Not defending anyone, because I feel the source of this is unreliable and hasn’t done research. It’s a shame that this source likes to being down those that help build up our community. 

And not to mention, why would Perez get this video and not the authorities to begin with? Seems very fishy. 

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2 minutes ago, Blue Lagoon said:

Ggd users defending incest & minor/adult relationships 

*pretends to be shocked*

Gay relationships have been historically taboo and hidden. So while if a man and a 16 year old girl started dating, many would be outraged. But with gay men/boys, it has been able to stay hidden. I’d imagine it’s actually pretty prevalent. I do believe it will get better with time though  at least I hope so. 

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1 minute ago, Cody James said:

And not to mention, why would Perez get this video and not the authorities to begin with? Seems very fishy. 

Oh Perez is a piece of sh**. That I think we can all agree on.

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Ya'll an adult kissing with a 16 year old is NOT pedophilia. If you think that, you obviously have no idea what pedophilia is, you're sounding like a fool. 

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2 minutes ago, Cody James said:

And not to mention, why would Perez get this video and not the authorities to begin with? Seems very fishy. 

The same reason scandalous videos always get sent to bloggers. The sender hopes to get something back ( money, attention, etc.) 

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Everyone stating “16 is age of consent so suck it up, you’re sexually mature then” is missing a big point. In almost every state 16 may be age of consent but there is still a rule regarding age gaps. Generally you still can’t be more than 4 years older than the age of consent. So max difference we’d be looking at is 16 and 20. Why do you think that is? Because the larger the age gap the larger the gap in life experiences. 
I definitely thought I was super smart and aware at 16. But that’s just part of being young. You look back later in life and realize just how young and vulnerable you were. 

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19 minutes ago, KyaneWest said:

You were a teenager he was an adult. That's the definition of pedophilia, consensual or not, it's pedophilia.

And if it had happen a year and a half later when I turned 18 it would suddenly have been okay?

and it is not the definition of pedophilia where I live. there is a thing called sexual majority