Letmelivemylife 8,715 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 24 minutes ago, CrazyMonster said: That's such a bad thing to say, they should be free to share the joy that a pregnancy brings. It's like saying you can't drive your Lamborghini cause there are poor people and it could make them sad. Anything baby-related tends to make child-bearing age women go a little nutty. It took several visits to the fertility clinic to get pregnant with my daughter and it felt like salt in an open wound everytime I got a baby shower invitation in the mail or a friend announced her pregnancy. In all honesty, it made me irrational and nutty that maybe kids just weren't in the cards for me. When I finally did get pregant, I realized that those people's intents were never to make me uncomfortable. They just wanted to share their joy. It was incredibly selfish of me to expect them not to share their joy just because it made ME uncomfortable. Like I said babies can make women a lil nutty I love you monsters. I'd be unfixably broken without you Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kattys 4,319 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 32 minutes ago, Bette Davis said: I have to say, most of the celebrity pregnancy photoshoots are so cringe-worthy Generally most of pregnancy pics are pure cringe, specially painting on belly But as I girl I imagine it's unique experience so you wanna have 100000+ pictures of every moment cause it won't last long. I just hope I won't make such a ridiculous photos when I'm pregnant but who knows Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seeka 12,372 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 I think it depends on the people. Like as some have mentioned before, even regular suburban moms go crazy when they're pregnant. Then there are other women who are very subtle and don't bring attention to themselves. This goes for celebrities as well. Where there is a celebrity like Beyonce, there's another celebrity who hides her pregnancy until like months six or seven, even after that, she manages to keep herself hidden for a while usually, if she wants to. Those pics are incredibly beautiful though. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Child 18,997 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 32 minutes ago, Letmelivemylife said: Anything baby-related tends to make child-bearing age women go a little nutty. It took several visits to the fertility clinic to get pregnant with my daughter and it felt like salt in an open wound everytime I got a baby shower invitation in the mail or a friend announced her pregnancy. In all honesty, it made me irrational and nutty that maybe kids just weren't in the cards for me. When I finally did get pregant, I realized that those people's intents were never to make me uncomfortable. They just wanted to share their joy. It was incredibly selfish of me to expect them not to share their joy just because it made ME uncomfortable. Like I said babies can make women a lil nutty I always love your posts and how you're so open with your personal life. Thanks for being who you are and thanks for sharing this to me. ‘If religion be the cause of disunity, then irreligion is surely to be preferred.’ ‘Abdu’l-Bahá Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Letmelivemylife 8,715 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 1 minute ago, CrazyMonster said: I always love your posts and how you're so open with your personal life. Thanks for being who you are and thanks for sharing this to me. Awww thank u!!! . If I'm ever TMI just let me know. Once I became a mom, my "don't say this out loud because people may find it innappropriate" filter quit working . That's why I love my gf so much. She comes from a family of doctors and nurses so holidays are always fun lol. There's no such thing as TMI in that house lol I love you monsters. I'd be unfixably broken without you Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Child 18,997 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Just now, Letmelivemylife said: Awww thank u!!! . If I'm ever TMI just let me know. Once I became a mom, my "don't say this out loud because people may find it innappropriate" filter quit working . That's why I love my gf so much. She comes from a family of doctors and nurses so holidays are always fun lol. There's no such thing as TMI in that house lol Of all the members I don't think I'm the one who complains about TMI. I don't even care honestly, you share as much as you want to share. Don't censor yourself. ‘If religion be the cause of disunity, then irreligion is surely to be preferred.’ ‘Abdu’l-Bahá Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chic 20,830 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Pregnancy in general is overrated. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
PartySick 160,792 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 1 hour ago, Bette Davis said: I have to say, most of the pregnancy photoshoots are so cringe-worthy Lemme just fix that for you Though in all actuality, they're creating a human being. It's not exactly a small task and it'll change their life forever so they get a pass You're stinky Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrawberryBlond 14,882 Posted February 13, 2017 Author Share Posted February 13, 2017 On 11/02/2017 at 11:55 PM, CrazyMonster said: That's such a bad thing to say, they should be free to share the joy that a pregnancy brings. It's like saying you can't drive your Lamborghini cause there are poor people and it could make them sad. I'm not trying to be mean about it, just saying that it's going a bit far. Thing is, the joy of a pregnancy should be reserved purely for the parents and close family. For everyone else, why do they care? So, why should they be made to feel like they should care? It's all very well to spill your joy onto those closest to you but why extend it to strangers? I don't feel anything when a stranger tells me they're pregnant. So, why should celebrities think we care about them that much as pregnant strangers? And no, while you should be allowed to drive an expensive car wherever you want, it wouldn't be wise to drive it in a poor area where it'll look like you're making a pretentious statement and if you leave it in the street, it could get vandalised or stolen. I think you always have to be mindful of your audience at any time and know what behaviour is welcome. Infertile women are reminded constantly of the joys of motherhood everywhere they turn - they don't need to see celebrities rubbing it on their faces too. I must also add that it's odd that Jay isn't in any of the pictures. Considering she made the baby with him, where's he? Oh, is it because Beyonce wanted a photogenic moment all to herself (and occasional glimpses of the previous child she had birthed)? When I look at the photos, I don't see the joy of motherhood, I just see narcissism. I also think that if any celebrity with less credibility did this, they'd be widely mocked. Can you imagine if Kim K did these exact photos? She'd be laughed at even more than her 'break the internet' shoot. Because there's a very unfair classism that runs throughout the way that the public treat celebrity pregnancies. If it's a royal or a really talented artist, the pregnancy is met with great joy. If it's a pop puppet or a trashy reality star, the pregnancy is jeered at and jokes are made. It's pretty disgusting. On 12/02/2017 at 0:01 AM, Ooolong said: The photoshoots are more often than not cringey, but there's nothing wrong with 'em. If you're a celebrity and you can afford to go all out, why not? Most of the suburban moms in my town went far and above a photoshoot. Especially if you're famous, like, I'd personally rather have a more exciting announcement then hiding for months or having them find out because a paparazzi took pictures of me in sweatpants with my belly bigger than Jupiter. Pregnancy is an exciting thing. But the question is indeed: why? Publicity. It's cashing in on a pregnancy and is a narcissistic thing. It's not about the baby, it's about the woman carrying it. And why would you want an exciting announcement? Why must pregnancy involve a big "look at me" moment? If anything, a private, intimate moment is more meaningful. I have respect for celebrities who keep it hidden until late on. Pink didn't reveal anything until she was about 7/8 months gone and she announced it with a photo of her bump covered in a long white dress (no tacky naked shoot) and she's been quiet ever since the birth. Just like a civilian. More celebrities could take a leaf out of her book. Pregnancy's exciting, yes, but only for the mother and those closest to her. And that should be reflected in how the mother conducts herself during the pregnancy, i.e. only indulging in it with those closest to her. On 12/02/2017 at 0:18 AM, Letmelivemylife said: *sheepishly raises hand* lol that was so me. From the moment I saw those 2 pink lines, I had to tell everyone in the whole ****ing world lol. My now ex gf and I were so excited. Lol we got a lot of strange looks since we're lesbians and apparently the thought of using a sperm donor didn't even cross people's minds. I have a scrapbook of all of my ultrasounds that hangs on my daughter's wall. I did the belly casts, photo shoots, etc. idk what it is but when ur pregnant, you feel like the only one on planet earth that is. Yes, but all that stuff still sounds very private. You can go all out with the photoshoots and the belly casts and suchlike but the idea is to keep it all to yourself. I wouldn't expect people who barely knew me to be interested. At the end of the day, no one really cares about anyone's kids except their own, so baby joy shouldn't be forced on people. For my mum, knowing that she was pregnant was the greatest feeling and she didn't need anyone else to know. Every little kick was a private moment and she never went in for baby showers or anything like that. It was just her and me and the rest of the world didn't matter. That's how I view pregnancy ideally, not the commercialised party its become now. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas P 18,479 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 K no sweetie. People like it because babies are joyful, and they bring light into the world, dont try and make them a negative thing please and thank you. I’m a simple guy to please, if you like Melodrama, we chill. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle 2,056 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 On 2/11/2017 at 5:18 PM, Chic said: Pregnancy in general is overrated. This. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ooolong 4,440 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 53 minutes ago, StrawberryBlond said: But the question is indeed: why? Publicity. It's cashing in on a pregnancy and is a narcissistic thing. It's not about the baby, it's about the woman carrying it. And why would you want an exciting announcement? Why must pregnancy involve a big "look at me" moment? If anything, a private, intimate moment is more meaningful. I have respect for celebrities who keep it hidden until late on. Pink didn't reveal anything until she was about 7/8 months gone and she announced it with a photo of her bump covered in a long white dress (no tacky naked shoot) and she's been quiet ever since the birth. Just like a civilian. More celebrities could take a leaf out of her book. Pregnancy's exciting, yes, but only for the mother and those closest to her. And that should be reflected in how the mother conducts herself during the pregnancy, i.e. only indulging in it with those closest to her. Why wouldn't you want an exciting announcement? It's purely subjective and we all find joy in doing things differently. I respect celebrities who decide to do a big reveal and those who decide to keep it a secret. I'd argue that pregnancy isn't only exciting for the mother and such, especially in the case of big names such as Bey. A lot of fans find happiness in knowing things like this; I'd probably be ecstatic to know Gaga was pregnant. But yes, in most situations the mother is the most excited; in which case she should reveal it in any way she deem fit. Meaning is subjective as well, I don't consider a large reveal to be less meaningful; although I'll give it to you that it's perhaps less intimate. Although, in the case of celebrities, they likely share it with their very close friends and family ahead of time and experience that same intimacy. When they're revealing it to their fans and the public, how intimate can you really get? A lot of it is subjective, really. If you don't like these big pregnancy reveals it's fine, there's a lot who share that opinion with you. But there's also many who do enjoy it, or at least don't see any issue with it. The Unbannable Chanteuse Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
River 117,355 Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 Yes... and no.. in general pregnancy is a big announcement, photoshoot and stuff and then it's over and everyone starts to be angry and impatient because they want a new album.. Beyonce is having twins, which is like rare and more amazing, because twins, it's like 2 babies in one shot and like they are maybe gays omg, and everyone is like "jay z is a horse" so it's more exciting.. And then there's Adele who told us **** you I'm pregnant give me a vacation for 5 years and then she came back suddenly to snatch all the Grammys again.. So sploosh your juice all over me you Riverboy Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLuna 12,732 Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 I just hate when celebrities make a spectacle of their pregnancy and use it for publicity. Beyoncé is a prime example. And then they go out and complain about their lack of privacy But yeah, it's not just a celebrity thing. Moms in general have to let the entire world know that their man put his penis in her vagina and that his sperm got to the egg And social media enables them to inflict their offspring on everyone. It's like, it's okay to be happy, but betch don't act like you're the first woman on the planet to have a baby Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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