Kayla 7,595 Posted April 16, 2015 Share Posted April 16, 2015 10 years would be the limit too, I think. Me personally, I'd prefer 5 years, but I'm open to the standards of others that are in a 10 year frame. But any more than 10 years is entering a new generation and with that comes different expectations. Having family who were mostly born around the 50's/60's, I've witnessed how big of a role s-xism and racism still survives under the surface due to how they were brought up. I don't want to date someone who could still be harbouring those ideals. And having a family of such an advanced age has also showed me how men and women change as they get older. My mum and aunts on both sides all have husbands in their 40's/50's/60's who are stubborn about one thing or another and are getting increasingly grumpy and irritable. I witness it so much that sometimes I feel like one of the long suffering wives at the grand old age of 25. There's no way I'm dealing with that stage of a man's life at my young age. I'd rather go through my "change of life" at the same time my man is. I sometimes think women who like to date older men have never really witnessed many older men growing up and have this fantasy of them being sauve gentlemen. In reality, dealing with a grumpy old man is one of the biggest gripes women have once they reach a certain age. I can't imagine what is must be like expecting your lover to go years before you. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night with worry. There's too much uncertainty and as someone who's naturally very anxious, I like security. About procreation, I'm not encouraging every couple to have children, I'm actually suggesting that people with big age gaps refrain from it. I think it's downright irresponsible and unfair on the child and don't see why anyone would want to do this in the first place. My parents are 64 and 65 (had me later in life) and I'm very aware of their mortality these days. I'd be extra worried if one of them was 65 and the other was 85. After seeing my grandmother die recently at 89, it's really hit me how we don't have long on this earth. You need to spend it wisely with someone who can follow you right through life. Oh, I wish I could get attention like that from young guys. Men online (and always the American ones!) are the only ones who seem to like me but in real life, it doesn't go beyond friendship. Sometimes feel like I was born on the wrong continent as all the interest comes from across the pond. So, it's pretty frustrating when a man old enough to be my dad starts ogling me. Ironic considering my feelings about it all. You WANT attention like that from guys?! If I could give it to you, I would. I find it annoying. I don't like being honked at- like ****, I'm just tryin' to catch the bus and now everyone is looking over at me because of the car horn, I've just been yelled at, and the **** does anyone get out of that encounter? I've also had the whole thing where guys walk past me, turn their head to watch my ass as I pass by, and loud enough for me to hear say "Daaaamn...." I appreciate the compliment aspect, but it makes me uncomfortable. On the flipside, I've had men introduce themselves and compliment me and I actually like that. One guy exchanged smiles, held his hand out, shook mine, and said "Hi, I'm (whatever his name was)!" then he waited for me to respond before saying "You have a beautiful smile!" I appreciate that ****. I appreciate being treated like a human being when someone is flirting with me, like they actually care about how I feel about their attention. Then there's the guys who insist on badgering me at the bar and when I show them my engagement/wedding ring literally tell me, "Whatever, that's a '**** You' ring!" and keep trying to ask me if I'm interested. :roll:Or the guy who pulled me onto his lap at a football game and told me he was going to rape me. That was fun. Or the ones who walk up and instantly put their arm around my shoulders, or pass me a drink when we haven't even spoken yet then insist I drink it and talk to them even though I've politely declined usually with "I don't mean to seem rude, but I don't take drinks from people I don't know." - Apparently that concept isn't acceptable to them. Or a friend of mine who was on dating sites and if she turned a guy down (not even rudely, just a simple "Thank you, but I'm not interested" and gets the whole "You're fat anyways," "Guess I dodged a bullet, b---h!" And some of the messages she gets from interested parties are disgusting too. Yeah, I'd gladly give that **** up if I could. I've found men older than me (like 30s+) tend to be more respectful and don't move on me unless I indicate I'm attracted to them. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
HANZ 4,380 Posted April 16, 2015 Share Posted April 16, 2015 "Madonna kisses Drake on stage (and he liked it)" and he liked it and he liked it and he liked it ................... ....... My Favs = Lady Gaga, Janet Jackson, Ricky Martin, AKB48 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
LORD GAGA 1,271 Posted April 16, 2015 Share Posted April 16, 2015 That doesn't look like the face of someone who 'liked it' Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrawberryBlond 14,829 Posted April 16, 2015 Share Posted April 16, 2015 Mary: I don't consider the age and life expectancy of my partner to be important. I am able to be in a fulfilling relationship regardless of my partners age. Sue: I consider the age and life expectancy of my partner to be important. I am only able to be in a fulfilling relationship if my partner is similar in age. Sue and Mary hold different but equally valid criteria for their prospective partners. Sue's relationship is not any more fulfilling then Mary's relationship.They are just different. I have met people in intergenerational relationships that are content and fulfilled. I have met people in same-age relationships that are content and fulfilled. Both exist. Both are valid. I'm sure you are a lovely person StrawberryBlond, but right now you are being judgmental and narrow minded. I have explain myself thoroughly, but you seem to be lacking the empathetic intelligence to understand or care. So this my last reply. There are lots of examples of successful intergenerational relationships in art and culture, check them out if you are interested in expanding your point of view. Don't get me wrong, I mostly take the "you're adults, you can make your own choices" line. Though I usually say it just to be diplomatic. Well, thank you for still thinking of me as a nice person. I like to think I am. I'm normally a very open-minded person in general. But I have limitations, which I think makes me not so much close-minded but human. To bring up nature again, I don't think it's natural to be 100% non-judgemental. We're not robots and we can't be expected to accept everything. There's some things that are just a little harder to process than others. I've decided that as long as whatever it is isn't hurting anyone, then I just have to accept it...but that doesn't mean I won't speak up about my disapproval, albeit respectfully. I do a lot of my speaking up out of concern for others. I don't want to see them make mistakes and hurt and advise on the right path. Yes, there are successful age gap relationships, but as far as I've seen, they are extremely rare. All the solid, long-lasting, most loving relationships I've ever seen are the ones that are close in age. It's just what my research points to and in my mind, it's the laws of nature that this should be so. But like I said, I don't cast out anyone who is like this. But I use my right to be critical. You WANT attention like that from guys?! If I could give it to you, I would. I find it annoying. I don't like being honked at- like ****, I'm just tryin' to catch the bus and now everyone is looking over at me because of the car horn, I've just been yelled at, and the **** does anyone get out of that encounter? I've also had the whole thing where guys walk past me, turn their head to watch my ass as I pass by, and loud enough for me to hear say "Daaaamn...." I appreciate the compliment aspect, but it makes me uncomfortable. On the flipside, I've had men introduce themselves and compliment me and I actually like that. One guy exchanged smiles, held his hand out, shook mine, and said "Hi, I'm (whatever his name was)!" then he waited for me to respond before saying "You have a beautiful smile!" I appreciate that ****. I appreciate being treated like a human being when someone is flirting with me, like they actually care about how I feel about their attention. Then there's the guys who insist on badgering me at the bar and when I show them my engagement/wedding ring literally tell me, "Whatever, that's a '**** You' ring!" and keep trying to ask me if I'm interested. :roll:Or the guy who pulled me onto his lap at a football game and told me he was going to rape me. That was fun. Or the ones who walk up and instantly put their arm around my shoulders, or pass me a drink when we haven't even spoken yet then insist I drink it and talk to them even though I've politely declined usually with "I don't mean to seem rude, but I don't take drinks from people I don't know." - Apparently that concept isn't acceptable to them. Or a friend of mine who was on dating sites and if she turned a guy down (not even rudely, just a simple "Thank you, but I'm not interested" and gets the whole "You're fat anyways," "Guess I dodged a bullet, b---h!" And some of the messages she gets from interested parties are disgusting too. Yeah, I'd gladly give that **** up if I could. I've found men older than me (like 30s+) tend to be more respectful and don't move on me unless I indicate I'm attracted to them. Maybe it's just because I seldom get compliments from men to the point where I find any compliment makes me putty in their hands. At least a s-xual comment conveys that someone out there looks at me in such a light (don't know why, but a lot of people tend to treat me like I'm much younger than I am and don't view me as a s-xual being). So, where most girls are so turned off by wolf whistling and all that, I find it a welcome change. Goes against my feminist principles, but then again, not all feminists adhere to all principles. Granted, that kind of stuff can feel horrible. If what's said is really disgusting, that's unacceptable. And if there's actual groping, that's definitely unacceptable. What happened to you at the football match is ridiculous (did you report him?) There is some really uncouth people out there that make you wonder if the grass is greener on the other side, I guess. Yeah, some older men can seem much better in comparison, but it's just an initial thing, I find. Differences start to occur as time goes on. I've found that older men can be just as disrespectful as younger men, myself. At least younger men have been raised in a generation where they know deep down that treating women disrespectfully is wrong. For the old school set, though, they can view women in a very different way. The way I hear older men complain about their wives makes me really angry. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yanko 9,860 Posted April 18, 2015 Author Share Posted April 18, 2015 That doesn't look like the face of someone who 'liked it' "Madonna kisses Drake on stage (and he liked it)" and he liked it and he liked it and he liked it ................... ....... can u guys read? https://instagram.com/p/1cJL_IjQPW/?taken-by=champagnepapi Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
HANZ 4,380 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 can u guys read? https://instagram.com/p/1cJL_IjQPW/?taken-by=champagnepapi do you have common sense? it's not like he is going to say he was disgusting by being kissed by an almost 60 year old woman do you honestly think he like/loved it? LOL My Favs = Lady Gaga, Janet Jackson, Ricky Martin, AKB48 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yanko 9,860 Posted April 18, 2015 Author Share Posted April 18, 2015 do you have common sense? it's not like he is going to say he was disgusting by being kissed by an almost 60 year old woman do you honestly think he like/loved it? LOL thats just your opinion he said he liked it that means he liked it Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
HANZ 4,380 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 thats just your opinion he said he liked it that means he liked it sure jan My Favs = Lady Gaga, Janet Jackson, Ricky Martin, AKB48 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Psychedelic 1,098 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 do you have common sense? it's not like he is going to say he was disgusting by being kissed by an almost 60 year old woman, who looks younger, beautiful and is in better shape than most 20 yo's do you honestly think he like/loved it? LOL fixed Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
BULATIO 1,635 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Queen without a crown fighting buryat Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
lego 44,165 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 fixed She does not look younger than most or any 20 year old, sorry. And her skin is aging faster than normally, there are 56 year old women with tighter and nicer skin. Beauty is subjective so, whatever. Whatever she looks like, if her breath was smelling the kiss was bound to be a disaster. FreePalestine Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psychedelic 1,098 Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 She does not look younger than most or any 20 year old, sorry. And her skin is aging faster than normally, there are 56 year old women with tighter and nicer skin. Beauty is subjective so, whatever. Whatever she looks like, if her breath was smelling the kiss was bound to be a disaster. I meant she looked younger than 56, and is in better shape than most 20 yo's. Her skin ages fast because she is way to white. And how would you know her breath was bad? Save some delusion! At least you could be a straight up hater like daviddarko, bitter and other members, at least they have the balls to admit it. But I guess bashing Madge behind the 'my opinion' excuse helps you sleep at night. So go on and have some tight sleep, she's horrible, ridiculous and talentless! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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