Demi changed pronouns on IG to they/them/she/her

[Tinnitus15 51,156]

So we can call them,”her” again?

[Nathan 2,079]

[Bling 31,288]

2 minutes ago, pachinko said:

So should I just call everyone “they/them” to be safe? 

Great question! I think this is a great idea! As a culture it makes sense for us to shift to a more gender "neutral" way of speaking. I make mistakes in certain situations too but most non-binary/trans people will appreciate the effort that you are trying. 

I'm a cis gay male but just trying to do my best to educate myself and have the uncomfortable conversations we need to have so non-binary and trans folks don't have to. 

 

[ThisGuyTony 29,607]

Those past Demi threads aged poorly.

[Bling 31,288]

Y'alls negativity never ceases to amaze me

 

[hoeslay 4,155]

21 minutes ago, pachinko said:

So should I just call everyone “they/them” to be safe? 

Yes! Unless you know their pronouns. Not all nb people use they/them for example.

 

Also for everyone else - most people who use multiple pronouns prefer you use them interchangeably and mix it up unless they state they have a preference or state otherwise. Defaulting to ONLY USING she can still be potentially transphobic even if that's not your intent. Demi's pronouns are not SHE/HER. They are they/them AND she/her. Use both like I did in my previous post.

 

Example: "Wow, I'm proud of Demi for following their truth. I hope she's living her best life." 

[Cameltoe Chariot 15,056]

20 minutes ago, pachinko said:

So should I just call everyone “they/them” to be safe? 

I would say 99% of the time you can safely assume pronouns and be correct. The internet creates an echo chamber for all demographics, and the LGBTQ+ community isn't any different. We're all on here thinking pronouns are one of the biggest social issues but in reality we're the smallest percentage of western society 

If you use the wrong pronouns, the person you're speaking to will (or should) correct you. Then it's on you from that moment forward to respect their pronouns and use them.

If you're really worried about it, you can always ask what pronouns a person prefers from the jump - but I will warn you that a lot of trans folks find it offensive when they're asked this, especially after transitioning. Many trans folks still adhere to a binary approach to gender, and to them having someone "question" their gender is harmful. Same with automatically using they/them.

[thatfoxyfeeling 12,924]

Wait how does she have that many followers on Instagram. 

[Cameltoe Chariot 15,056]

1 minute ago, thatfoxyfeeling said:

Wait how does she have that many followers on Instagram. 

Money, honey 

[Magic Mike 2,684]

I've never understood why, if we're in a post-gender era ideally, people continue to worry so much about ****ing pronouns. everyone should speak about themselves by both the feminine and the masculine (Romance languages) or by "they"; that is, ideally. I sure don't care. but I respect those who go with a certain pronoun. Although making it a fight is so superficial that it feels primitive and reductive 

[SharGaga 2,906]

I hope this means no permanent warning points will be issued for slipping up and using 'her'. Even if English isn't my first language and I'm naturally more used to using 'they' when referring to 2 or more people. Still it amazes me how some people just assume you're discriminating just because... Also my comment got deleted with no explanation so reposting in case I deleted by mistake!

[Wolf Boy 3,183]

They and Her? It literally makes no sense.

That’s like me saying i’m gay/straight…..

[MACATL 1,297]

58 minutes ago, flyaway said:

She made an entire tantrum about it, all the yogurt and the cookies, and at the end she went back to her/hers as well 

Good for u I guess

Saw this coming a mile away TBH.  🙄

[Runway 27,876]

Good for her

[JanStan 574]

33 minutes ago, CameltoeKween said:

I would say 99% of the time you can safely assume pronouns and be correct. The internet creates an echo chamber for all demographics, and the LGBTQ+ community isn't any different. We're all on here thinking pronouns are one of the biggest social issues but in reality we're the smallest percentage of western society 

If you use the wrong pronouns, the person you're speaking to will (or should) correct you. Then it's on you from that moment forward to respect their pronouns and use them.

If you're really worried about it, you can always ask what pronouns a person prefers from the jump - but I will warn you that a lot of trans folks find it offensive when they're asked this, especially after transitioning. Many trans folks still adhere to a binary approach to gender, and to them having someone "question" their gender is harmful. Same with automatically using they/them.

Serious question. If a person is non-binary how are they also gender specific? And if they identify as both why does it matter which of those pronouns is used? I seriously can’t wrap my head around the concept no matter how hard I try.