Wives Of Deplorables

[RAMROD 117,318]

Carole Catherine did not know her husband, Tim, supported Donald Trump until the day after Hillary Clinton lost the 2016 election. She called him the next morning crying.

"And he was like, 'Yeah, of course she lost. She is an awful human being,' " she said. 

"It was like a light went off for me. And I thought, 'Oh boy, we're going to have trouble.' "

 

For the next three years, Catherine felt like she was living an alternate reality. Her husband was her high school sweetheart. A rekindled love after a first marriage, children and divorce. They barely fought for the first 11 years of their marriage. And now they were working through major ideological differences.

"I didn't know that he's anti-abortion. I didn't know that he is so emotional about immigration," Catherine said. "Both of us never really fleshed out those issues."

 

The same is true for many of the wives who are now part of the private Facebook group Catherine founded last year. The group is called "Wives of the Deplorables," a play on the now infamous comment Clinton made about some of Trump's supporters during her 2016 presidential campaign. 

Catherine started the group in October 2019 in an effort to try to figure out how to talk to her husband about politics -- without it ending in a yelling match. The group is made up of wives across the United States who are Democrats, whose spouses are Republicans; many of them Trump supporters.

"So many of them join the group and go, 'Thank God you guys are here,' " Catherine said. "'I'm so glad that I found this place where I can be me and I don't feel like I'm crazy.'"

Members mainly congregate on its Facebook page, where they post personal frustrations.

One post reads: "There is a big wall between us like never before ... We've been married 45 years and I adore him. Except this. I have GOP friends and I love them. But it's hard to be married to a man who I thought shared the same values."

And another: "I am not interested in surviving my marriage. I do not admire sticking it out with a person who is unable to empathize with others. Maybe I am bitter ... but missing out on an intimate part of marriage, like deep conversations and unity just sounds hollow to me. I want a partner to march with, to resist with and one who shared my ridiculously idealistic views!"

 

Either way, the past four years has given her a crash course in political consciousness. And she has no intention of giving that up. 

"He wants things to be pre-politics. But that's the thing. Your relationship has changed forever. For good and for bad. And, you know, there's a little of both."

 

Full article:

https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/29/politics/wives-of-the-deplorables-support-group/index.html

 

Meanwhile some privileged celebrity was so easy to call for people to bury the hatchet for family members who are Trumpsters, in most cases, things are not that simple in real life.

 

[alsemanche 97,820]

I genuinely don't understand how two people can get married without knowing each others' political views tbh. Like have they never discussed any of these matters??? not even in passing conversations?? 

[MonsterMom 12,647]

Sometimes people change though...I was once a conservative republican 

[Supersonic 49,376]

1 hour ago, alsemanche said:

I genuinely don't understand how two people can get married without knowing each others' political views tbh. Like have they never discussed any of these matters??? not even in passing conversations?? 

Being a LGBTQ+ person is a political statement, whether you like it or not because straight people have made it that way. Being "straight" on the other hand is not political in any sort of way, which is why thinks like that happen all the time.

Straight people don't have to think about politics all the time, because politics doesn't impact their life the way it does ours. They don't have to worry about losing jobs, being refused housing or basic services just because of their sexual or gender idendity or whether the supreme courts around the world suddenly caving in to conservative voices that say that gay marriage is unconstitutional. 

[Suuus 5,632]

10 minutes ago, Supersonic said:

Being a LGBTQ+ person is a political statement, whether you like it or not because straight people have made it that way. Being "straight" on the other hand is not political in any sort of way, which is why thinks like that happen all the time.

Straight people don't have to think about politics all the time, because politics doesn't impact their life the way it does ours. They don't have to worry about losing jobs, being refused housing or basic services just because of their sexual or gender idendity or whether the supreme courts around the world suddenly caving in to conservative voices that say that gay marriage is unconstitutional. 

Except when they are black then it does affect them

[alsemanche 97,820]

11 minutes ago, Supersonic said:

Being a LGBTQ+ person is a political statement, whether you like it or not because straight people have made it that way. Being "straight" on the other hand is not political in any sort of way, which is why thinks like that happen all the time.

Straight people don't have to think about politics all the time, because politics doesn't impact their life the way it does ours. They don't have to worry about losing jobs, being refused housing or basic services just because of their sexual or gender idendity or whether the supreme courts around the world suddenly caving in to conservative voices that say that gay marriage is unconstitutional. 

I understand that but also politics are literally engrained in everyone's every day life like??? How can someone live with someone for a long time and date for a while before that and not realize that they have at least conservative and right-wing tendencies? It really confuses me.