Perez Hilton says theirs a video of Tom Daley w/ a minor

[JustaMonster 4,909]

Just now, FunkYou said:

And if it had happen a year and a half later when I turned 18 it would suddenly have been okay?

and it is not the definition of pedophilia where I live. there is a thing called sexual majority 

Yes you have to draw a line somewhere. You're saying this is fine because hes 16. Would you be okay with this if he was 15? If so why would it have suddenly been okay after only one year?

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2 hours ago, Queen Bitch said:

Ya'll an adult kissing with a 16 year old is NOT pedophilia. If you think that, you obviously have no idea what pedophilia is, you're sounding like a fool. 

Same energy

[FunkYou 352]

11 minutes ago, JustaMonster said:

Yes you have to draw a line somewhere. You're saying this is fine because hes 16. Would you be okay with this if he was 15? If so why would it have suddenly been okay after only one year?

Well, then same here. I draw the line at 16 you draw it at 18.

If you wonder why, it's simple. It's how the law is where I live so I grew up with it and from my own experiences there was nothing negative in it, or "predatory". 

We can agree to disagree. I'm not trying to change your minds or your moral stands, my point is that it is not okay to generalize everything, and call people pedophiles when they're not. Every situation is different, everyone is different. There's never been anything "pedo-ish" in my relationships as I already explained in my previous posts, and for many other people relationships with age gaps have been wonderful. Not overlooking the fact that for some, it is not lived as something healthy and is sometimes traumatizing. But, can't stress this enough, every situation is different. 

[alecks 744]

5 hours ago, FunkYou said:

On some levels today I relate more to people younger than me, whereas when I was 16 I related more to people older than me.It's all a journey.

Do you think it’s possible being a 16 year old dating a 37 year old and (incorrectly) believing you were on the same level affected this?

As much as you state otherwise, it is undeniable that you are in a different place at 16 and 37. They were 21 when you were making your way out of the birth canal!

There is a fascination with “youth” in the gay community and now you’re in a cycle of that and can’t even see it. You’re 25 and doing the same thing - interested in teens. Even 17 is too young for a 25 year old. Why is no one your age good enough? And where do you draw the line of what’s too young? We’re comparing someone in high school to someone who is in grad school. 
 

If you can’t be trusted to make financial decisions until 18, what makes you think you’re able to make sexual decisions that will impact you (consciously or subconsciously) for the rest of your life?

[Stephen 30,423]

6 hours ago, FunkYou said:

I totally disagree with everybody saying a 16 year old is DEFINITELY taken advantage of when in a relationship with let's say, a 25 year old. Sure, it happens, but the opposite happens too. When I was 16 I had a relationship with a 37 year old. I knew damn right what I was doing, and I was the one completely in charge of what was happening. In the end, I broke his heart, unfortunately. Now today, I'm 25 in a few days, just got my heart inhumanely wrecked to pieces by a 17 year old. Never did I take advantage of him. In fact, looking back, everybody says he took advantage of me and love blinded me. And I'm baffled some people would call that pedophilia. it's not like you suddenly transform like a Sim when you turn 18. Every situation is different, we all go through life differently. And my previous ex was 16 when I was 23 and he was extremely intelligent and interesting. He lacked some emotional intelligence yes, but we all have our flaws and we all have things to learn. I've learned a lot from him and he's learned a lot from me. We're friends today and it's all good.

I also look much younger than my age, and I don't live a "regular" life. On some levels today I relate more to people younger than me, whereas when I was 16 I related more to people older than me.It's a journey.

I can't believe I'm reading this  

Leave children alone. You're a grown man.

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I’m annoyed at having to bump this thread even further but seriously tho if is there a way to mute his name on this site please let me know cause I’m not here for this sort of “content” and I’m so not in the mood.

for your attention, thank you.

[alecks 744]

10 minutes ago, Stephen said:

I can't believe I'm reading this  

Leave children alone. You're a grown man.

This. 
 

I understand people may like the “young” look and not think of it as an issue, but part of being an adult is identifying things that are toxic and problematic and making a decision not to act on them. Even when they look appealing. 
 

A relationship between a grown ass man and a child unable to make legal decisions for themself is toxic. PeriodT. 
 

Many people do and defend things that are toxic just because they enjoy them, but that doesn’t make it right. Imagine having a loved one who doesn’t see their drug abuse as an issue simply because they enjoy it. Do you just say “ok cool keep doing what you love” or do you try to reason with them and explain that it’s a slippery slope that could mess up their futures?

[FunkYou 352]

3 minutes ago, alecks said:

Do you think it’s possible being a 16 year old dating a 37 year old and (incorrectly) believing you were on the same level affected this?

As much as you state otherwise, it is undeniable that you are in a different place at 16 and 37. They were 21 when you were making your way out of the birth canal!

There is a fascination with “youth” in the gay community and now you’re in a cycle of that and can’t even see it. You’re 25 and doing the same thing - interested in teens. Even 17 is too young for a 25 year old. Why is no one your age good enough? And where do you draw the line of what’s too young? We’re comparing someone in high school to someone who is in grad school. 
 

If you can’t be trusted to make financial decisions until 18, what makes you think you’re able to make sexual decisions that will impact you (consciously or subconsciously) for the rest of your life?

I was already out of school at 16. So was my ex. Life is not the same for everyone, as I said. And it also has to do with your cultural upbringing. It never seemed weird to me or the people I know.

I'm absolutely not against dating someone my age, it happened. It just also happened I fell in love with a teenager. We're good friends today. The circumstances of where and how we first met also made it that we felt on the same level.

Now, when I was 16 and dated a 37 year old, it was mostly physical on my end, not on his though. He wanted to get really serious and I didn't. And from that I've learned a lot and became much more aware of other people's feelings. We've had fascinating conversations that elevated the both of us when we were seeing each other. It was not meant to be but what if it had been? Today I'd be 25 dating a 46 year old. What's the issue? 

 

I thought of the "issue" a lot and I do think you're raising an interesting point with the youth fascination, but don't mix everything. 

[alecks 744]

23 minutes ago, FunkYou said:

And it also has to do with your cultural upbringing. It never seemed weird to me or the people I know.

This is also concerning. I’m not sure where you’re from but some eyebrows definitely SHOULD have been raised. There are many cultural things we reflect on now as being outdated or outright dangerous. I understand culture impacts your viewpoint but don’t make the false assumption that because something has been done “culturally” that it is “right.” We have countries where it is still “culturally ok” to stone gay men to death. 

23 minutes ago, FunkYou said:

Today I'd be 25 dating a 46 year old. What's the issue? 

I still see this as an issue tbh.

There is no switch that “makes you an adult” and I honestly wouldn’t say everyone above 18 is mentally an adult, even. There is a reason people typically associate with people in their general age bracket, they share similar life experiences and mindsets that shaped them. Just because you’re over 18 or believe you’re an adult doesn’t mean you know everything a 40 year old does. 

One way of looking at it is playing a game for the first time that someone else has spent years playing. They were your age YEARS ago and have had time to reflect on that and know how to take advantage of it. You don’t think a 37 year old approaching a 16 year old already knows how he expects the convo to go and how to steer it?

My favorite thing about aging is looking back on all the times I thought it was so grown earlier life and see that I was just a kid who knew nothing.  

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26 minutes ago, FunkYou said:

I'm absolutely not against dating someone my age, it happened. It just also happened I fell in love with a teenager.

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29 minutes ago, FunkYou said:

Now, when I was 16 and dated a 37 year old, it was mostly physical on my end, not on his though. He wanted to get really serious and I didn't. And from that I've learned a lot and became much more aware of other people's feelings. We've had fascinating conversations that elevated the both of us when we were seeing each other. It was not meant to be but what if it had been? Today I'd be 25 dating a 46 year old. What's the issue? 

I think you've been damaged by this relationship with this 37 year old man, which would explain why you keep dating young teens and think it is normal. I would advise seeing a therapist, not saying this with any intention to mock you or be mean to you but something is not right in your reasoning

[alecks 744]

1 minute ago, KyaneWest said:

I think you've been damaged by this relationship with this 37 year old man, which would explain why you keep dating young teens and think it is normal. I would advise seeing a therapist, not saying this with any intention to mock you or be mean to you but something is not right in your reasoning

Exactly. You also need to ask yourself why a 37 year old man would want MORE than a physical relationship with a 16 year old. There’s clearly more than just liking the look of a young body there. 
You may have been a very intelligent 16 year old but I promise you a 37 year old isn’t interested in your studying for the driving test or applying for jobs unless he’s your father. 

[Stephen 30,423]

48 minutes ago, FunkYou said:

I was already out of school at 16. So was my ex. Life is not the same for everyone, as I said. And it also has to do with your cultural upbringing. It never seemed weird to me or the people I know.

I'm absolutely not against dating someone my age, it happened. It just also happened I fell in love with a teenager. We're good friends today. The circumstances of where and how we first met also made it that we felt on the same level.

Now, when I was 16 and dated a 37 year old, it was mostly physical on my end, not on his though. He wanted to get really serious and I didn't. And from that I've learned a lot and became much more aware of other people's feelings. We've had fascinating conversations that elevated the both of us when we were seeing each other. It was not meant to be but what if it had been? Today I'd be 25 dating a 46 year old. What's the issue? 

 

I thought of the "issue" a lot and I do think you're raising an interesting point with the youth fascination, but don't mix everything. 

Your ideas are extremely clouded and misguided. It's worrying not only for yourself but those you interact with. 

I have no issue with age gaps between two adults. I mean at that point both are fully grown and can make their own decisions. Obviously a 20 year age gap will most likely bring about problems but that's the choice of both people.

But a child cannot consent to that relationship. When you were 16 you were not emotionally developed as you think you were. You were taken advantage of by that man, even if you THINK you wanted it. It was predatory, full stop. Please don't continue this cycle. I also agree with @KyaneWest

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