Would you date Brad Pitt?

[HermioneT 1,998]

No, I'd rather date Angelina. But yes, he is an undeniable good looking and hella attractive man. 

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20 minutes ago, JoeMo said:

I am attracted to guys with short hair. Is that a feature of toxic masculinity?

Yes. Because for people who are obsessed with masculinity, long hair is usually looked at as something not masculine.

Not saying you're necessarily that type of people. But it'd be better if you don't judge people based on the length of their hair. Imagine if your BF decides to have a longer haircut, are you gonna be like "cut that hair or i'm breaking up with you"?

There's a lot more to look at in a person than just their hair. 

 

[Sumeet 456]

1 hour ago, Chickens in Malibu said:

If you land in the hospital one day because of your obsession with big penises you'll learn that they're more dangerous than sexy. (not that it happened to me because I'm not obsessed with size anyway)

I was kidding honey I'm not even bottom. 🙄

[Beethoven 576]

Would Brad date with any of us?  no

[Economy 49,747]

1 hour ago, Chickens in Malibu said:

Yes. Because for people who are obsessed with masculinity, long hair is usually looked at as something not masculine.

Not saying you're necessarily that type of people. But it'd be better if you don't judge people based on the length of their hair. Imagine if your BF decides to have a longer haircut, are you gonna be like "cut that hair or i'm breaking up with you"?

There's a lot more to look at in a person than just their hair. 

 

First of all attraction has a gender aspect to it for many ppl. I don't see the problem if someone prefers a masc look.

 

If everyone has to like every feature on every gender then who cares about masculinity or femininity? We might as well all be bisexual then

 

Secondly it's a preference on looks

 

Long hair in some styles can be "masculine" too. For example in Quebec in Canada and Montreal man buns are extremely popular and a lot of masculine guys have them. I don't see them as feminine at all so it's not even about that. I still don't like the look personally 

 

For example I usually hate blond on most males (a few pull it off in my opinion but not many). For example I hate it on Justin Bieber and Maluma

 

But it's not because I think males can't die their hair and females can cuz there's other colours I'm fine with. I just don't like blond on most guys

 

Just as I don't really care for long hair on most guys either.

 

Not being attracted does not mean that I'm judging or saying they can't or shouldn't have long hair. I just don't personally like it. What is the problem?

 

 

[JoeMo 3,861]

1 hour ago, Chickens in Malibu said:

Yes. Because for people who are obsessed with masculinity, long hair is usually looked at as something not masculine.

Not saying you're necessarily that type of people. But it'd be better if you don't judge people based on the length of their hair. Imagine if your BF decides to have a longer haircut, are you gonna be like "cut that hair or i'm breaking up with you"?

There's a lot more to look at in a person than just their hair. 

 

Okay well you’re backtracking now a little bit, you literally just said - I bet you are the type of person who writes masc4masc on Grindr. 
 

And what makes you think I would break up with my boyfriend if he grew his hair? Of course I wouldn’t, I will love him regardless of what he looks like. It’s a bit presumptuous of you to assume I’m a shallow person based on my response, you don’t even know me. I generally like guys to have short hair, that’s what I’m initially ATTRACTED to. That’s no different than someone saying they like a blonde haired girl or a taller guy. 

Like I said, if I said that Brad Pitt looks more feminine with long hair and he needs to cut his hair to be more masculine - you’re quite right that is a problem. That WOULD be judgemental.. but don’t go assuming that my harmless comment is related to “toxic masculinity” when you know absolutely nothing about me. 

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4 minutes ago, JoeMo said:

but don’t go assuming that my harmless comment is related to “toxic masculinity” when you know absolutely nothing about me. 

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@Economy Well I understand when it comes to dying your hair blond. Some people go out of their way to make themselves look worse. But I am not talking about that.

I am talking about the more natural aspects of a person, like hair for example. I wouldn't say "oh no i'm only dating people who have hair shorter than 1 inch". It's such a blanket rule that's so stupid.

I'd rather look at the person as a whole. That's all I was saying.

[Clarence 1,444]

if it was 90s brad pitt then yes 

[Economy 49,747]

1 minute ago, Chickens in Malibu said:

@Economy Well I understand when it comes to dying your hair blond. Some people go out of their way to make themselves look worse. But I am not talking about that.

I am talking about the more natural aspects of a person, like hair for example. I wouldn't say "oh no i'm only dating people who have hair shorter than 1 inch". It's such a blanket rule that's so stupid.

I'd rather look at the person as a whole. That's all I was saying.

Look I agree with u it's shallow to make a deal breaker over a detail like someone hair

 

But I also think it's fair to have a preference.

 

I don't think that automatically has to be seen as toxic masculinity

 

If it's on the basis of something like "men aren't supposed to have long hair, or I have femme guys that's gross etc" I would say that's toxic masculinity

 

But if it's a matter of preference I don't think so

 

Again I'm not a big fan of men with long hair either and I don't like the look all that much and don't find it attractive. It's not because I think men can't, aren't supposed to or that I'd judge them for it. I just don't personally like it

 

I also have other preferences based on gender. I like body hair on men. I don't like it on women. Of course if a woman chooses not to shave, that is her right and nobody else's right to criticize. It doesn't mean I have to find it attractive tho

 

It is a double standard admitedly. But attraction is a bit discriminating by nature. Ppl like some things and not others and gender and masculinity vs feminity has a big role in attraction for most ppl. Hence sexual orientations

 

Gays often like men because they are attracted to masculinity so it's not surprising "femme" gays are often less desired than "masc" gays but at the end of the day attraction is not something u just reprogram at will. If it was that easy to just decide what u like we wouldn't have the whole born this way message

 

As a side point I'm curious on what women on GGD think about double standards like say body hair.

 

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Yes

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Yessss

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@Economy well I agree on some points, but for me I feel it's toxic masculinity when somebody's masculinity is measured by the length of their hair or whether they have facial hair.

I could be wrong, but that's how I look at it. I am 100% gay and a bottom, and some of the guys I've been attracted to barely have any facial hair or body hair. And it doesn't make them less attractive in my opinion.

I think that's a far cry from saying this standard applies to femme gays. Again, I am talking about the natural aspects of someone (who don't even wear make-up or try to make themselves look feminine in anyway). If somebody for example genetically speaking doesn't grow a beard (some blondes are like that), I'd still be into them if overall they're nice.

 

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11 hours ago, Sumeet said:

For me size matters and I've heard he has a tiny one. So no. 

SORry bUT ANYtHing sMAlLER ThAN 14 inChes IS SMaLl FOR mE i dOn't lIke TInY penIs guYs i'm TOO COoL FOr ThAt 14 anD uP oNlY!

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5 minutes ago, Chickens in Malibu said:

@Economy well I agree on some points, but for me I feel it's toxic masculinity when somebody's masculinity is measured by the length of their hair or whether they have facial hair.

I could be wrong, but that's how I look at it. I am 100% gay and a bottom, and some of the guys I've been attracted to barely have any facial hair or body hair. And it doesn't make them less attractive in my opinion.

I think that's a far cry from saying this standard applies to femme gays. Again, I am talking about the natural aspects of someone (who don't even wear make-up or try to make themselves look feminine in anyway). If somebody for example genetically speaking doesn't grow a beard (some blondes are like that), I'd still be into them if overall they're nice.

 

Well on the body hair or facial hair I wasn't saying they have to have it necessarily. I'm just saying I find them attractive