Meruk Holland 2,358 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 11 hours ago, GodofLove said: I’m a gay man and my preference is manly men. Femme turn me off.. because I’m gay for a reason. I want a MAN. Not a feminine man. EDIT: not that I’m saying femme men aren’t men, they are the bravest people I know. It’s just a preference of mine. It's your phrasing that's problematic. You basically said "I don't like feminine guys because I'm gay" as if that's the definition of gay. Gender and sex are two different things, and sexuality does not care about gender, only sex. Personal preference can deal with gender, you're right about that. But to say that being gay is the reason feminine qualities turn you off is downright toxic. Make no mistake, regardless of your intent, that is what you conveyed. I'm not attracted to feminine guys either, so I know what you mean to say, but be aware that how you say it is important. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daenerys 6,274 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 14 minutes ago, Meruk Holland said: It's your phrasing that's problematic. You basically said "I don't like feminine guys because I'm gay" as if that's the definition of gay. Gender and sex are two different things, and sexuality does not care about gender, only sex. Personal preference can deal with gender, you're right about that. But to say that being gay is the reason feminine qualities turn you off is downright toxic. Make no mistake, regardless of your intent, that is what you conveyed. I'm not attracted to feminine guys either, so I know what you mean to say, but be aware that how you say it is important. All I was tryna say was a nice thick man with a beard and a deep voice make me DIC when I lay around to pass the time i completely agree with you. It was my phrasing and it WAS problematic. And I’ve learned my lesson to think before I say anything. Daenerys of the House Targaryen, the First of Her Name, The Unburnt, Queen of the Andals, the Rhoynar and the First Men, Queen of Meereen Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giorno Giovanna 3,178 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 i don't get the hate for feminine men, like ...hate actually? my pesonal preference is masculine men, that's just what turns me on. but gladly i noticed there are a lot of super masculine men who actually want a feminine man/boyfriend. probably has to do with "opposites attract each other". このジョルノジョヴァンナ夢がある Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
mightyriverz 2,653 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 7 hours ago, sillynate said: How is that bad though? If I were to say I'm only attracted to feminine men, would that be okay or would you still be as upset? But since I'm attracted to masculine men, I guess I must be a horrible person to you. another thing being discussed here is how feminine men give the gheys™ a bad rep. THAT is bad. What makes us amazing as a group of people is that we're all different. Just like the colors on a rainbow yes, I would. excluding people based on their stereotypical behavior and calling it a preference is disgusting. + you don't know me, so don't come for me, darling. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
mightyriverz 2,653 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 lol reading through this topic just makes me even more sure that there's no man in this world that I'd relate to is it too late, or am I still able to go back in the closet? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
mightyriverz 2,653 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 3 hours ago, berlinforme said: SJWs on here don't even get my point, lol. there's gay people here using that term??? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mythos 3,199 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 4 hours ago, calmar said: I definitely think it's more noticeable in the US than in Europe. When there's a famous song about it (from the movie Legally Blonde called "Gay or European") then you know something's up I don't know, most of my straight friends are way gayer than i am, but nobody cares here. USA... what is happening to you. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jed 7,716 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 i love femme guys now. Not like, ladyboy but if someones a sissy and they're cute im down for it, Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
sillynate 6,170 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 1 hour ago, Luk said: yes, I would. excluding people based on their stereotypical behavior and calling it a preference is disgusting. + you don't know me, so don't come for me, darling. And why is it "disgusting" You don't know everyone with preferences yet you're coming for them by calling them disgusting... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
juju 18,907 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 it's like saying they have a taste for McDonalds but not pan-seared filet mignon with garlic and herb butter. Spoiler But yes, it's a huge and divisive issue in the gay community, one that's *tried* to effect me, but I just won't allow it. I behave and present myself 100% how I want, and no percentage of men who deem me unworthy will ever change that. Hope they learn to find beauty in people outside of some fake binary bullshit that society has force-fed us for millennia, because in all, people are way more complex than just "masculine" and "feminine". ❤ x ❤ Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
CakeLikeLG 6,275 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I think some gay people wrongly associate femininity with being flamboyant, bitchy and shallow. Not every feminine gay guy is like that live each day like Gaga might drop an album Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokeandhush 992 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 13 hours ago, GodofLove said: I’m a gay man and my preference is manly men. Femme turn me off.. because I’m gay for a reason. I want a MAN. Not a feminine man. EDIT: not that I’m saying femme men aren’t men, they are the bravest people I know. It’s just a preference of mine. Femme gays turn you off and you want manly men because you're femme. and there's nothing wrong with that Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
juju 18,907 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 1 minute ago, CakeLikeLG said: I think some gay people wrongly associate femininity with being flamboyant, bitchy and shallow. Not every feminine gay guy is like that It's more nuanced than being "girly" or "catty", exactly. I just think a majority of gay men who think like this are simpletons, only able to see in black and white, totally missing the shades that each person possesses. ❤ x ❤ Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
mightyriverz 2,653 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 9 minutes ago, sillynate said: And why is it "disgusting" You don't know everyone with preferences yet you're coming for them by calling them disgusting... I do know, cause I've been there, and deeply regret it. I'm not going to waste my time anymore, cause I know nothing will change out of this ****. I hate gay community, that's all. Go back to Sean Cody where you belong. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doot 2 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 This entire thread is a mess. People defending “feminine” gay men by simply being nasty, vice versa. Yall need to stop. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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