Blaire White on her experience with the Trans Community

[Chic 20,830]

I don't like her pretentious attitude but she's partially right. She failed to explain some of the darker aspects of the trans community. There are trans people who deliberately out stealth transwomen out of jealousy or the false notion that they're "betraying the community". She hates almost everything so I wouldn't doubt that she exacerbated personal experiences to come to this view.

I don't respect her for speaking her mind. Niche equals rich. There's a market for any "shock abnormality" in the world. I'm sure she wants to be the sooper speshul exception.

Elitism is also a problem in the trans community. Her candy coated explanation about how she doesn't see herself as above anyone else doesn't fool me.

[CautiousLurker 19,430]

2 hours ago, StrawberryBlond said:

What she means is that she probably has issues with being friends with someone who thinks it's ok to degrade and give themselves away for money, make themselves open to STDs and pregnancy from strangers, doesn't care about having sex with people who are potentially involved with someone else and puts themselves in danger with their job. By saying that their lifestyle is incompatible with hers, Blaire is essentially saying that she can't connect with people who want to live such a sexual, promiscuous life and make it their job and identity. She's said before that she's very shy in real life and that she's against the overt sexuality that goes on in the LGBT community and doesn't think it achieves anything, it just makes stereotypes worse.

I am anti-sex industry because it destroys people's lives. That includes the workers, the patrons, the families of patrons and society at large. I can't be friends with anyone in that business because it would tear me up inside to know that they were doing a job that carries a lot of risk and is potentially making them unhappy, even if they say otherwise. I'm all for helping people get out the business but I couldn't associate with anyone who is in the business and has no intention of leaving it because it would just make me feel too sad.

Pretty much nothing you've said here is backed by science or statistics... Being a sex worker is not degrading, sex workers are perfectly capable of managing their own health and probably know more about STD than the common folk, and it's not promiscuity that ruins families, but insincerity and inability to communicate... Insincerity that's caused by stigma around sex btw... Your sadness is the result of your own prejudice, not coherent reasoning...

[StrawberryBlond 14,862]

18 hours ago, Chic said:

I don't like her pretentious attitude but she's partially right. She failed to explain some of the darker aspects of the trans community. There are trans people who deliberately out stealth transwomen out of jealousy or the false notion that they're "betraying the community". She hates almost everything so I wouldn't doubt that she exacerbated personal experiences to come to this view.

I don't respect her for speaking her mind. Niche equals rich. There's a market for any "shock abnormality" in the world. I'm sure she wants to be the sooper speshul exception.

Elitism is also a problem in the trans community. Her candy coated explanation about how she doesn't see herself as above anyone else doesn't fool me.

I really get what you're trying to say. Blaire is clearly aware of her place in the world at a time when PC SJW culture is at its highest. She knows there's a backlash to it all and she's happy to be the antidote to all the annoyance that many people are feeling right now. I have no doubt that Blaire does indeed see herself as above certain people. Most of us think we are above certain types of people who don't think the way we do, subconsciously or not. But she struggles to feel shame for this feeling like some of us do. Her quirk of stroking/flicking/teasing her hair when she says a lot of things is a habit that really betrays her inner feelings. This is a common behaviour women exhibit when they have contempt for others or the situation as hand. It's even more commonly associated with the 'dumb white woman' stereotype and she certainly emits that visual stereotype when she does this. Every time I see her do it, I think: "And she has the audacity to accuse some other people of looking like a stereotype..." Her old intro of her as a cartoon holding a lollipop and with the other hand running through her hair certainly suggests that she is aware of this quirk and possibly uses it for effect.

I think some of her points are definitely true but at the same time, I do feel kinda sad for her that she's got a bit of internalised hatred for herself, which is a huge part of the trans community. The fact that she doesn't seem to realise that she masks this self-hatred with confidence is even sadder. Some of the most seemingly confident people can be a quivering wreck inside.

17 hours ago, CautiousLurker said:

Pretty much nothing you've said here is backed by science or statistics... Being a sex worker is not degrading, sex workers are perfectly capable of managing their own health and probably know more about STD than the common folk, and it's not promiscuity that ruins families, but insincerity and inability to communicate... Insincerity that's caused by stigma around sex btw... Your sadness is the result of your own prejudice, not coherent reasoning...

That's because what I say is fuelled by compassion and emotion. You can't scientifically prove that something is degrading or not because it's an emotion, it works differently for everyone. And there is statistics out there that show that so many people in the sex industry are in serious danger and do not enjoy their experience. I think actually researching ex-workers provides you with the best insight into that. I'm really tired of hearing the excuse of "they probably know more about STDs than the average person who judges them." If they were truly knowledgeable, they wouldn't be in the industry at all because they'd know that...condoms are 98% effective, condoms don't protect against all STDs, pregnancy is still possible even when using multiple forms of protection correctly, the more sexual partners you have increases your chances of STDs and HIV/AIDS, almost all p*rn stars will contract herpes at some point in their career, bodily fluids getting into certain un-protected areas of the body can cause STDs that even the healthcare system isn't sure how to deal with because it's never been seen before...and the list goes on. Being in the sex industry can be like playing Russian Roulette with your reproductive health, general health and even life. There was a p*rnstar who caught HIV within just 3 months of working in the industry because condoms still aren't mandatory even today. Even some p*rnstars are against them, thinking that they leave you more open to infection as opposed to protected. The solution to that isn't to not use them, the solution is to stop making p*rn sex so focused on roughness and multiple partners, or even better, not doing it at all. To have sex without a condom, especially when it involves multiple partners, is madness but it goes on.

And seriously, now? Promiscuity doesn't ruin families, the insincerity and the ability to communicate is the problem? Why to slip the point and dodge the accusation. That utterly disrespects all those families whose parents split up because their dad was caught up to be having sex with prostitutes and he gave his wife an STD and his wife was totally devastated and had no choice but to end the relationship, leaving the children without a father figure in their lives, leaving her a single mother and a lot poorer and the children resenting their father and potentially having problems later in life as a result of that. Is the man the biggest one to blame? Yes, but I'm sick of it never being the prostitute's responsibility whatsoever, that they just operate under a realm that is completely free of judgement when the reality is, if there wasn't women offering these services, none of this would have happened. I can't respect someone who thinks it's ok to sleep with married men, sorry. It's not prejudiced to feel resentment for those who think it's fine to ruin other people's lives. For you to think it's prejudiced is just typical of where we are in society where anything that isn't 100% adoration for everyone, good or bad, is considered close-minded. Open your eyes and find the many ways in which you are prejudiced, in that case. According to your logic, you are being prejudiced to me right now. My reasoning is partly based on fact and research, it's completely coherent, therefore, how dare you suggest that I'm unintelligent, and it's also partly based on my natural human compassion. Something I think everyone could do with an extra-strength dose of.