Why I Call Gaga "Mom"

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

Yes I realize that some may consider it creepy that I call her "mom" but until you've walked a mile in my shoes and know my story, keep an open mind. I was born into a very dis functional family. My dad was a workaholic and my mother was emotionally distant. In all honesty, idk why this woman even had children. She couldn't provide for my sisters and I. She's literally incapable of giving/receiving affection and being there for people. It was like the more my sisters and I clung to her in desperate attempts for affection, the more my mother pulled away. Yeah she came to our ballet recitals and school plays but she wasn't emotionally there. You could just tell she would've rather been at home. All I ever wanted was a mom who baked cookies for the school bake sale and helped me pick out a prom dress. I wanted a mom who said "I love you" just because she did. I wanted a mom that held me when I had a nightmare or when I broke up with someone. I wanted a mom that told me "you're perfect just the way you are and I love you to the moon and back". I never had those things. My mother was incapable of them. I've realized that it's not fair for me to expect something from her that she can't physically give. I know I need to forgive her no matter how much it hurts because it isn't her fault she's like that. In all honesty, I just feel so incredibly sad for her. Something horrible must have happened to her to make her the way she is. What an incredibly lonely life that must be. When I first started listen to Gaga, it was like I finally had someone who was there for me. She represented everything that my mother wasn't and yeah I guess I latched on in a desperate attempt to feel loved. She did everything my mother was "supposed"to do so while you may consider it creepy that I call her Mom, it's very natural to me because she is a substitute "mom" for me. Or those of you who have loving biological moms, thank god everyday for them. You're so incredibly lucky. 

 

 

 

 

[Dramatica 13,690]

Honey, thanks for pouring your heart out.

If you ever feel like talking to someone I would be here for you. 

[PartySick 159,822]

You are just the sweetest thing omg 

I feel the same as you in a way except that my mother was totally absent. I was blessed with an amazing grandma, but I have to stay distant with most family members 'cause they're Christians and wouldn't approve of my gayness  Once Gaga dedicated Hair to Jamey Rodemeyer, I started to look to her as sort of a surrogate mother figure in a way. The whole Born This Way era was full of support, kindness, tolerance, stuff that I needed more of in my life, especially at that time.

I'm so glad Monsters like this are still thriving  whether she's a jazz queen or a rock goddess, she's still Mother Monster to us 

[Monster Voices 1,024]

It's not creepy! Its beautiful!!! Gaga IS out Mother monster.Whoever is ashamed of calling her that or thinks it's uncool has just not needed her to be that. But many of us have. *sends hug*

[darkchylde 14,857]

in some way, she's our virgin mary, someone we look after and looks after us. i identify with your post. even though my relationship with my "actual" mother is not bad, i can't be myself around her or my family, not entirely, so there's gaga.

someone who took us in, who tattooed us on her skin again and again, called us her children, herself our mother. so when people think it's something shallow, i laugh, it's not at all about the joke of calling a celebrity your mom, which like, i get. but the thing is, this is something else

[Ophelia 4,736]

inb4 "Why I call Mark Ronson "daddy"

 

jk, hope you don't mind some humor in this thread. Thank you for sharing your story. I live in a dysfunctional family as well and can relate to why Gaga seems like a mother to you. It's not creepy or stupid, I'm happy you've found an outlet for your fears in her. Even though our situations are completely different, I did the same and it's quite odd how a person you'll never be in contact with can make you feel safer. Much love 

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

3 minutes ago, PartySick said:

You are just the sweetest thing omg 

I feel the same as you in a way except that my mother was totally absent. I was blessed with an amazing grandma, but I have to stay distant with most family members 'cause they're Christians and wouldn't approve of my gayness  Once Gaga dedicated Hair to Jamey Rodemeyer, I started to look to her as sort of a surrogate mother figure in a way. The whole Born This Way era was full of support, kindness, tolerance, stuff that I needed more of in my life, especially at that time.

I'm so glad Monsters like this are still thriving  whether she's a jazz queen or a rock goddess, she's still Mother Monster to us 

Exactly. She'll always be "mom" to me. There was a video of her in Berlin and the first thing she did after getting out of the car was to run over and give us hugs and kisses. We're so incredibly loved haha. I've gotten my head ripped off for calling her "mom" and the monsters my family. They just don't understand. She is "mom" to me and monsters are my family. DNA doesn't make you family. It's a privlege that's EARNED by always being there when you're needed the most

[crisTEAne 21,059]

i feel you. when i say to my friends that "without gagz, i wouldn't be here," i can see that they still don't entirely get it. i explained my bond with her to them many times in detail, but yeah... it's not that easy to understand. *sending you hugs*  

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

11 minutes ago, Gaga of Time said:

Honey, thanks for pouring your heart out.

If you ever feel like talking to someone I would be here for you. 

Awww thanks babes. I've had people criticize me for calling monsters my "family" but they don't understand that you guys are my family. People think that the "mother monster/little monster" phase of gagas life is over but it's just not true. 

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

10 minutes ago, Monster Voices said:

It's not creepy! Its beautiful!!! Gaga IS out Mother monster.Whoever is ashamed of calling her that or thinks it's uncool has just not needed her to be that. But many of us have. *sends hug*

There's a movie called "Babe" about a talking pig that was taken away from his biological mother and sent to a farm where he was taken care of by a border collie dog. There's one scene where babe (the pig) asks fly (the dog) "can I call you Mom?". That scene always makes me cry because I can relate

[littlepotter 74,941]

This is beautiful. Sometimes we give people a hard time without thinking twice about it  You're really sweet. We are your family

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

5 minutes ago, T E A said:

i feel you. when i say to my friends that "without gagz, i wouldn't be here," i can see that they still don't entirely get it. i explained my bond with her to them many times in detail, but yeah... it's not that easy to understand. *sending you hugs*  

So many people have said that the whole "mother monster/paws up/my fans are my life" phase of gagas life is done. So not true. She still wears her "mother monster" necklace and she still showers us in hugs and kisses when she sees us. There was a video of her in Berlin a few days ago and the first thing she did after she got out of the car was run over to the waiting monsters and give them hugs and kisses. She'll a,ways love us

[crisTEAne 21,059]

Just now, Letmelivemylife said:

So many people have said that the whole "mother monster/paws up/my fans are my life" phase of gagas life is done. So not true. She still wears her "mother monster" necklace and she still showers us in hugs and kisses when she sees us. There was a video of her in Berlin a few days ago and the first thing she did after she got out of the car was run over to the waiting monsters and give them hugs and kisses. She'll a,ways love us

monsters and gagz are FOREVER.  

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

19 minutes ago, VenusOddity said:

in some way, she's our virgin mary, someone we look after and looks after us. i identify with your post. even though my relationship with my "actual" mother is not bad, i can't be myself around her or my family, not entirely, so there's gaga.

someone who took us in, who tattooed us on her skin again and again, called us her children, herself our mother. so when people think it's something shallow, i laugh, it's not at all about the joke of calling a celebrity your mom, which like, i get. but the thing is, this is something else

So many people have said that the whole "mama monster/paws up/my fans are my life" phase is done. So not true. She still wears her "mama monster" necklace and showers us in affection/tells us she loves us when she sees us. That wasn't just a "phase" to her

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

20 minutes ago, Ophelia said:

inb4 "Why I call Mark Ronson "daddy"

 

jk, hope you don't mind some humor in this thread. Thank you for sharing your story. I live in a dysfunctional family as well and can relate to why Gaga seems like a mother to you. It's not creepy or stupid, I'm happy you've found an outlet for your fears in her. Even though our situations are completely different, I did the same and it's quite odd how a person you'll never be in contact with can make you feel safer. Much love 

Love ya too. So many people have said that the whole "mother monster/my fans are my life" was just a ploy to sell more records. So not true. She still wears her mama monster necklace and showers us in affection when she meets us.