Have you ever felt jealous/envious of Gaga?

[Twitter 14]

Nope  I work hard, make money, wear leathers, and deal with critics daily. Practically her life minus the singing, awards, etc. Plus envy is a sin   

[vanus 6,083]

not kind of jealous but i wish i could do stuff as her

[Schwerk 7,243]

This is gonna be a long read, sorry.

I just wanna give you a big hug because it's like you read my mind! I'm one year older than Gaga and have been dealing with these feelings for pretty much all the six years I've been a fan, but never as strongly as recently. I feel like I'm too old to make a change. Plus I'm still single and a love like Gaga and Taylor have seems so unobtainable. 

Let me start be a quote that really hit me when I read the book #Girlboss last week:

“I don't want you to look up, #Girlboss, because all that looking up can keep you down. The energy you'll expend focusing on someone else's life is better spent working on your own. Just be your own idol.” - Sophia Amoruso, #GIRLBOSS

I'm on the brink of a big carreer change. Now I work for tv and I have been for 9 years. I even quit college to get this carreer, but my heart was never truly in it. It's just something I'm good at, something that pays the bills. Plus I can find a challenge in anything. But if I listen to my heart, I need to explore other things. I can go to the top if I want, but it doesn't feel right cause I don't feel that passion burning inside.

When I create things I do, but the spectrum of what I create is so immensely broad, I can't focus on just one thing, with the result that I don't get anything done at all.

Gaga has already been a great help in me finding my path. Without going in to too much detail cause I could go on forever: Multiple times I thought of things and instantly knew she'd love it. So when I knew I was going to her concert, I would have no excuse not to make it for her. And she noticed. She saw my creativity and when I thanked her for it with all my heart, by posting a note to her on LM.com for example, she thanked me back. She even wrote my mantra on my arm and told me to go for it. But this still wasn't enough for me to truly believe in myself. Because it's scary. But now, slowly, I finally feel a change coming and I accept it's going slow and it won't be easy.

 

Gaga is ridiculously hard-working and dedicated and I am extremely happy for all of her success. She truly deserves everything that she has.

I have never felt any type of jealously towards her until recently. I hate this feeling because I think jealously is a disgusting and self destructive emotion to have. I think I feel this way because Im at a point in my life where I am confused about what to do next career wise. My path is very uncertain and ambiguous while Gaga seems to be on top of the world right now. She knows, and always knew, exactly what kind of career she wanted, was born with the talent to be successful, and had the confidence and fearlessness to pursue her dreams. I also think Im feeling this way now because I kind of would like to be an actress, but I know that type of career is so unrealistic for me. Maybe just seeing her do all these things that I would like to do is kind of frustrating because I know its not possible for me.

She is such a hard worker and I feel like I could be a hard worker too. I just don't have anywhere to channel my energy. I don't even know how to explain this. I just feel like I am wasting my potential while she is digging so deep and using every ounce of hers.  I just can't help but compare myself to her because she is such an inspiration and big part of my life. I feel like my existence is pathetic and useless compared to hers though I know its silly to compare myself to her. She is 1 in a million. I guess I just feel close to her in a way. Like if one of your friends gets a part in a movie, you would feel like its possible for you too. It doesn't seem so far fetched anymore. She just makes it seem like if you work hard enough, you can achieve whatever you want because she did it. In reality, that is so far from the truth. There is so much competition in this world and everything has to fall in place perfectly to get your dream job or dream life. There is a huge amount of luck involved and I don't think she has every acknowledged that.

I truly am happy for her and I probably sound so whiny. We really only see the glamorous and exciting side to her life. We do not get to see the hours of tedious rehearsal, the lack of sleep, the pressure, the mismanagement, ect. So I am probably thinking that her life is way different from how it truly is.  I know she has had a lot of struggles in her personal life and career. Its not like her life has been this perfect rosy experience. But, at least she has something to show for it. I feel like I don't.

This is just how I feel and I wish I didn't feel this way because I am disgusted with myself. Im kind of embarrassed to even post this...

Anyway, have you ever felt this way?

You say:

Like if one of your friends gets a part in a movie, you would feel like its possible for you too. It doesn't seem so far fetched anymore. She just makes it seem like if you work hard enough, you can achieve whatever you want because she did it. In reality, that is so far from the truth.

 

Is it really that far from the truth? Look at her friends and the people that work(ed) for her. Pretty much all of them are inspired and 'pushed' by her to follow their own dream. Look at Brandon, she inspired him to be a designer. This way she might loose him, like Nicola for example, because he might grow so big he can't be her stylist anymore, or not in her life as much as before, but she still instilled that believe in him and gave him her full support. And look Bo, her dancer David who's now singing, Starlight. All prove that if someone believes in you, they can inspire you to truly believe in yourself and when you do everything is possible.

You say:

Gaga seems to be on top of the world right now. She knows, and always knew, exactly what kind of career she wanted, was born with the talent to be successful, and had the confidence and fearlessness to pursue her dreams.

She does seem on top of the world and never seemed happier. I understand what your saying, but in a way she makes it seem like she always was determined, talented and fearless. But she wasn't. Gaga too puts on a brave face sometimes. And even though we could see something was wrong, we never got the full scope of her despressions and addictions. And I'm pretty sure her relationship with Taylor was challenged by this. 

I'm gonna look for someone to root for me, like Taylor is for Gaga and is for her friends. Maybe I can be that for you, who knows? First step for me is to be more open to compliments and not be so hard on myself. Share my feelings, ask advice. Then I can truly be my own biggest fan. 

 

 

 

 

[Katie14 4,828]

No. I didnt go to college for acting. I went to a Meisner technique class at a studio called PlayHouse West. Ashley Judd, James Franco, Michelle Pfieffer, Jim Carrey, Chase Crawford, and Heather Morris are just a few of many alumni. Jeff Goldblum actually teaches a class there, but that's the final ongoing level. I was taught by Tracy Aziz, Jim Nieb, and Mark Pellegrino. The classes are probably the cheapest in North Hollywood, or even the whole LA area, and offer a lot! Apart from being a cool studio, having cool class mates, and awesome teachers, I really enjoyed the Meisner technique. Although, the Meisner technique is not for everyone, I recommend finding a technique that is taught in your area to get your feet wet: Strasberg technique (what Gaga studied), the Adler technique, and the Stanislavsky technique, which is the mother of all other three techniques. Of course, if neither technique is right for you, then there is always college acting classes. 

I have taken a few acting classes this past year. Its nothing intensive, they were 6 week courses for about 2-3 hours a week. We learned the Strasberg technique, did some improv, and scenes. How many classes and hours did you have to put in before getting good? I enjoyed the classes a lot and i'm probably going to enroll in another one in a few weeks.

Being realistic, how likely is it to actually make a living as an actor? By make a living I don't mean making just enough to eat and pay rent and I don't mean becoming famous. I mean making enough to not only survive but also  making enough to save money and raise a family later on.  Im not trying to discourage you, I just legitimately want to know.  I think being an actor professionally would be fun, exciting, and rewarding but, is it worth all the risks to try to pursue this? In your experience, have you seen a lot of your peers have steady work? Do you just need to get that one minor role, even if its just two lines in a minor tv show or movie and then are you essentially "in" in the industry? Basically what I want to know, is this career ever steady and consistent? Or are you constantly against the odds for every singe audition even after getting small roles in the past?

I feel like this is the story for so many people even the ones who are extremely talented; They go to acting school and then get a menial job like bartending while auditioning during the day. They do this for many years and get a few small roles here and there. They wake up one day and are 40 years old and have no money saved up. Then they probably end up going back to school to get a more secure job and have to start at square one again, while all their friends have 15 years of work experience in their fields.

Again Im not trying to give advice to you or persuade you in any way. I really am just curious about why you decided to pursue such a seemingly risky career. I feel like there is such a huge chance that you could put in years and years of time, money, and effort into this, and spend your entire youth chasing this dream and then get nothing back in return. By return, I don't mean enjoying life now, I mean actually having a sustainable lifelong career. When you are in your teens and twenties its fun to live in an apartment with other actors. You don't mind the waiter job because you are young and cynicism hasn't dawned on you yet. But then by your late twenties/early thirties people your age start to get married and have kids. I want to have a family one day. How is the pursuit of an acting career compatible with raising a family?

Then I start to wonder, there are so many people hustling in the acting world despite all the odds. There must be a good reason. Is it worth the risk if you literally cannot picture yourself being happy in any other line of work? (Though I don't think this justification is rational  because I believe everyone has multiple interests, acting may just be the prime interest.) The only way pursuit of this career makes sense to me is if you either; start seriously taking classes and acting as a child, if you have connections in the industry, are extremely naturally talented (like 1 in a million genius level), or are extremely attractive. In either of these scenarios, you have a big advantage over everyone else. Otherwise, it seems to me that there is like a 90% chance of not ever making a living as an actor.

Im sorry this is so long and I hope I didn't offend you. I am just very curious about your perspective.

[Katie14 4,828]

This is gonna be a long read, sorry.

I just wanna give you a big hug because it's like you read my mind! I'm one year older than Gaga and have been dealing with these feelings for pretty much all the six years I've been a fan, but never as strongly as recently. I feel like I'm too old to make a change. Plus I'm still single and a love like Gaga and Taylor have seems so unobtainable.

Let me start be a quote that really hit me when I read the book #Girlboss last week:

“I don't want you to look up, #Girlboss, because all that looking up can keep you down. The energy you'll expend focusing on someone else's life is better spent working on your own. Just be your own idol.” - Sophia Amoruso, #GIRLBOSS

I'm on the brink of a big carreer change. Now I work for tv and I have been for 9 years. I even quit college to get this carreer, but my heart was never truly in it. It's just something I'm good at, something that pays the bills. Plus I can find a challenge in anything. But if I listen to my heart, I need to explore other things. I can go to the top if I want, but it doesn't feel right cause I don't feel that passion burning inside.

When I create things I do, but the spectrum of what I create is so immensely broad, I can't focus on just one thing, with the result that I don't get anything done at all.

Gaga has already been a great help in me finding my path. Without going in to too much detail cause I could go on forever: Multiple times I thought of things and instantly knew she'd love it. So when I knew I was going to her concert, I would have no excuse not to make it for her. And she noticed. She saw my creativity and when I thanked her for it with all my heart, by posting a note to her on LM.com for example, she thanked me back. She even wrote my mantra on my arm and told me to go for it. But this still wasn't enough for me to truly believe in myself. Because it's scary. But now, slowly, I finally feel a change coming and I accept it's going slow and it won't be easy.

 

You say:

Like if one of your friends gets a part in a movie, you would feel like its possible for you too. It doesn't seem so far fetched anymore. She just makes it seem like if you work hard enough, you can achieve whatever you want because she did it. In reality, that is so far from the truth.

 

Is it really that far from the truth? Look at her friends and the people that work(ed) for her. Pretty much all of them are inspired and 'pushed' by her to follow their own dream. Look at Brandon, she inspired him to be a designer. This way she might loose him, like Nicola for example, because he might grow so big he can't be her stylist anymore, or not in her life as much as before, but she still instilled that believe in him and gave him her full support. And look Bo, her dancer David who's now singing, Starlight. All prove that if someone believes in you, they can inspire you to truly believe in yourself and when you do everything is possible.

You say:

Gaga seems to be on top of the world right now. She knows, and always knew, exactly what kind of career she wanted, was born with the talent to be successful, and had the confidence and fearlessness to pursue her dreams.

She does seem on top of the world and never seemed happier. I understand what your saying, but in a way she makes it seem like she always was determined, talented and fearless. But she wasn't. Gaga too puts on a brave face sometimes. And even though we could see something was wrong, we never got the full scope of her despressions and addictions. And I'm pretty sure her relationship with Taylor was challenged by this. 

I'm gonna look for someone to root for me, like Taylor is for Gaga and is for her friends. Maybe I can be that for you, who knows? First step for me is to be more open to compliments and not be so hard on myself. Share my feelings, ask advice. Then I can truly be my own biggest fan. 

 

 

 

 

I enjoyed reading you post but I am too realistic to try out a risky career. I have too much anxiety about falling behind my peers.  Im curious, what kind of career do you want to pursue?

Is it really that far from the truth? Look at her friends and the people that work(ed) for her. Pretty much all of them are inspired and 'pushed' by her to follow their own dream. Look at Brandon, she inspired him to be a designer. This way she might loose him, like Nicola for example, because he might grow so big he can't be her stylist anymore, or not in her life as much as before, but she still instilled that believe in him and gave him her full support. And look Bo, her dancer David who's now singing, Starlight. All prove that if someone believes in you, they can inspire you to truly believe in yourself and when you do everything is possible.

its all about connections.

In Brandon's case, he was already her assistant stylist before creating his own fashion line.  I don't think it was so much her support of him that gave him the drive to do this. He knew making his own line would be possible because he has connections through Gaga. Its the same situation with Starlight and Bo and David. Gaga is their connection and connections are key in creative/artistic type careers. Do you think Starlight would be opening for Gaga if she wasn't her friend or would Bo be interviewed about her restaurant if she wasn't involved in Gaga's life? Im sure Gaga gave Bo the job of being her personal chef so Bo could put that on her resume. Gaga helps her friends and this is very admirable of her. Im just saying that people who don't have connections have a much much harder time.  

[GreekGod 1,085]

I'm not jealous because of her money, fame, successful career or anything.

I just want to have a s-x scene with Matt Bomer , lol 

[Schwerk 7,243]

I too am painfully rational and realistic to try out a risky carreer, that's why I havent. I always played it safe and stuck to the thing people said I was good at, which is editing and writing. Now I wonder why I wasted so much time when I see my friends that are in their early twenties, a pastry chef, a fashion designer, dancer, photographer, make-up artist, they work so hard but at least they do it with love so they are happy, unlike me.

To give you an idea of the things I could persue:

Inferior decorating, directing, acting, singing, Writing a musical based on a children's book, making a documentary, concepts for a restaurant, a club...

But the things that I very recently decided to focus on is costumize fashion and accessories and hair pieces that I wanna sell in my own webshop. I don't even know how to sew but I'm ready to learn and I don't care how long it takes.

I enjoyed reading you post but I am too realistic to try out a risky career. I have too much anxiety about falling behind my peers.  Im curious, what kind of career do you want to pursue?

Is it really that far from the truth? Look at her friends and the people that work(ed) for her. Pretty much all of them are inspired and 'pushed' by her to follow their own dream. Look at Brandon, she inspired him to be a designer. This way she might loose him, like Nicola for example, because he might grow so big he can't be her stylist anymore, or not in her life as much as before, but she still instilled that believe in him and gave him her full support. And look Bo, her dancer David who's now singing, Starlight. All prove that if someone believes in you, they can inspire you to truly believe in yourself and when you do everything is possible.

its all about connections.

In Brandon's case, he was already her assistant stylist before creating his own fashion line.  I don't think it was so much her support of him that gave him the drive to do this. He knew making his own line would be possible because he has connections through Gaga. Its the same situation with Starlight and Bo and David. Gaga is their connection and connections are key in creative/artistic type careers. Do you think Starlight would be opening for Gaga if she wasn't her friend or would Bo be interviewed about her restaurant if she wasn't involved in Gaga's life? Im sure Gaga gave Bo the job of being her personal chef so Bo could put that on her resume. Gaga helps her friends and this is very admirable of her. Im just saying that people who don't have connections have a much much harder time.  

I think all her friends would've found their path, cause they were well on their way, but it might have taken longer without her. What makes you think you won't have connections?  These days with social media it's so much easier to find like minded people and work on your own projects together. The best connections you don't even plan, they just happen like in Gagas case. She saw potential in her friends and the assistants of her staff and gave them that extra boost of confidence to own their talent, even before she had succes. 

This old Gagavision is very telling: (start at 1.20 min)

Brandon was a stylist, and maybe dreamt about being a designer as kid, but it wasn't untill Gaga pushed him he took the plunge:

vmagazine.com/site/content/4899/lady-gaga-and-brandon-maxwell-an-intimate-interview

I don't know how old you are and what choices you have, but you don't have to choose one thing straight away. Maybe just try acting as a really serious hobby first and work on the side, just like pretty much every musician does. If you truly love acting you'll make the time because it gives you so much joy. You don't have to earn a living with it to call yourself an actress. If it's a passion, who cares if you're not the biggest star? You are doing what you love and that is the best thing you can get from life, not succes. And who knows one day all the puzzlepieces fall in place and you become a succes after all. Don't expect it, but believe in it and work for it.

I always remind myself of those moments when I wanted Gaga to notice me and she didn't, and always when I least expected she did. Believe in yourself, not the result.

 

[Kulture Kiari 3,433]

1.) I have taken a few acting classes this past year. Its nothing intensive, they were 6 week courses for about 2-3 hours a week. We learned the Strasberg technique, did some improv, and scenes. How many classes and hours did you have to put in before getting good? I enjoyed the classes a lot and i'm probably going to enroll in another one in a few weeks.

2. Being realistic, how likely is it to actually make a living as an actor? By make a living I don't mean making just enough to eat and pay rent and I don't mean becoming famous. I mean making enough to not only survive but also  making enough to save money and raise a family later on.  Im not trying to discourage you, I just legitimately want to know.  I think being an actor professionally would be fun, exciting, and rewarding but, is it worth all the risks to try to pursue this? In your experience, have you seen a lot of your peers have steady work? Do you just need to get that one minor role, even if its just two lines in a minor tv show or movie and then are you essentially "in" in the industry? Basically what I want to know, is this career ever steady and consistent? Or are you constantly against the odds for every singe audition even after getting small roles in the past?

3. I feel like this is the story for so many people even the ones who are extremely talented; They go to acting school and then get a menial job like bartending while auditioning during the day. They do this for many years and get a few small roles here and there. They wake up one day and are 40 years old and have no money saved up. Then they probably end up going back to school to get a more secure job and have to start at square one again, while all their friends have 15 years of work experience in their fields.

4. Again Im not trying to give advice to you or persuade you in any way. I really am just curious about why you decided to pursue such a seemingly risky career. I feel like there is such a huge chance that you could put in years and years of time, money, and effort into this, and spend your entire youth chasing this dream and then get nothing back in return. By return, I don't mean enjoying life now, I mean actually having a sustainable lifelong career. When you are in your teens and twenties its fun to live in an apartment with other actors. You don't mind the waiter job because you are young and cynicism hasn't dawned on you yet. But then by your late twenties/early thirties people your age start to get married and have kids. I want to have a family one day. How is the pursuit of an acting career compatible with raising a family?

5. Then I start to wonder, there are so many people hustling in the acting world despite all the odds. There must be a good reason. Is it worth the risk if you literally cannot picture yourself being happy in any other line of work? (Though I don't think this justification is rational  because I believe everyone has multiple interests, acting may just be the prime interest.) The only way pursuit of this career makes sense to me is if you either; start seriously taking classes and acting as a child, if you have connections in the industry, are extremely naturally talented (like 1 in a million genius level), or are extremely attractive. In either of these scenarios, you have a big advantage over everyone else. Otherwise, it seems to me that there is like a 90% chance of not ever making a living as an actor.

Im sorry this is so long and I hope I didn't offend you. I am just very curious about your perspective.

Honestly, when I got to Hollywood, I sucked big time as an actor. I was close to getting kicked out of the class because the teachers were losing faith in me. But it took me half a year to become ok. And another half to sort of master it. I mean, I would never stop taking acting classes. And yeah, go for it, take more acting classes. Some people think that with one month theyre already gods gift to earth.

2. Hmm. This is a tough one. Well, I started my career in 2012, didnt quite focus on it because I fell in love and became engaged, twice. But theres a thing called residuals and royalties, I did a local commercial, and apparently my contract included that, so for half a year I was receiving about $6 a month lol. I know it's not a lot, but think about those actors that do many commercials and small tv show and movie appearances. And we are talking about big budget projects, not a small local commercial. All that adds up, so in a way, it can lead to a steady income if you are a working actor. I got back into acting January of this year, doing small projects, I was doing really good that I was able to quit my night job because I was earning about $1000 a month, enough to survive and also give me nights free to work on more projects. Now those projects did not include residuals or royalties in my contracts, so when I signed with my agent and I got locked in, I had no means of making income, so theres always that risk. Theres also two other things. My classmate started her career the same month as me, but unlike me, she worked hard and never gave up, and just last month I find out she is working on some tv shows and has starred in some major production movies and she is getting residuals off of that. And the other thing, looks for me mean nothing. I had a classmate that started three months before me, and has worked hard, he is very hot, but has never landed a gig. He gets many auditions, but has only landed one extra gig on glee, and anyone can pretty much land extra work. So to answer your question, it is never steady. I mean look at Robin Williams, on his last days, he struggled finding jobs. 

3. To be honest, just like any career, not a job, you have to be in it because you truly love it, not for the money. What good is it to have a job that pays a good amount, when you hate 40 hours of your life per week? Look, Ive always said this, even before i got my first acting gig. The pay was $350 for three hours plus residuals (remember the $6 a month? Lol), but I remember saying IDGF if im 40, sharing an apartment in LA, working a minimum wage night job, as long as im working in what I love doing; acting. I remember when I found out I was locked in with my contract and could act for a whole year, I layed on my bed and began crying while I drank my whiskey. 

4. I chose this career because Ive always wanted to be an actor since I was 4, and didnt know how to tell anyone. I can not picture myself in anything but acting. And it's not because of the money. Literally, when APPLAUSE came out, I felt like I was understood. I did a local play for kids back in 2013. It was a non paid gig. And I remember after the play was over, when we came out again to get applaud, I looked out to the audience, and saw many kids, handicapped, regular, parents, clapping and smiling. At least for that half hour, they forgot their problems being bullied, etc. and I almost started crying because it reminded me of why I wanted to be an actor. When I was a kid, my family was dead broke. We lived in a bad area in AZ full of prostitutes, gangsters, d--g dealers, in a run down apartment with cockroaches, mice, and a ceiling that was decaying, yet my parents still didnt make enough to live a happy life. We lived paycheck to paycheck, always hearing them, talking in private of how they were gonna make ends meet to pay the apartment. But it was when I sat with my mom to see telenovelas (soap operas) or we sat as a family ate together while watching a movie that I would see them laugh and forget about their problems. When things got better, my parents finally had enough to pay for us to go to the movie theatres as a family. The movie was The Flintstones Movie, and although my parents could understand English, the reaction was the same; smiling, laughing, forgetting their problems. So I dont do acting for the movie, I do it for the self happiness I receive after seeing people foret their problems while I act for them. In regards to having a family. Been there, done that TWICE. Did the engagemet thing, trying to start a family, and both were horrible experiences. So I never want to be with someone or start a family. Acting is the only lover I plan to have. And if, in any case, I fall in love with someone, and that person doesnt agree with my career: "Well honey, dont let the door hit you in the butt when you leave."

5. Yes. It's worth the risk. With acting, it can lead you to many other ventures as well: screenwriting, directing, editkng, teach acting, it opens so many doors if you really push yourself. And you are right with that percentage, but it's a "risk" im willing to happily take. :)

Sorry for the long reply. 

[Katie14 4,828]

I too am painfully rational and realistic to try out a risky carreer, that's why I havent. I always played it safe and stuck to the thing people said I was good at, which is editing and writing. Now I wonder why I wasted so much time when I see my friends that are in their early twenties, a pastry chef, a fashion designer, dancer, photographer, make-up artist, they work so hard but at least they do it with love so they are happy, unlike me.

To give you an idea of the things I could persue:

Inferior decorating, directing, acting, singing, Writing a musical based on a children's book, making a documentary, concepts for a restaurant, a club...

But the things that I very recently decided to focus on is costumize fashion and accessories and hair pieces that I wanna sell in my own webshop. I don't even know how to sew but I'm ready to learn and I don't care how long it takes.

I think all her friends would've found their path, cause they were well on their way, but it might have taken longer without her. What makes you think you won't have connections?  These days with social media it's so much easier to find like minded people and work on your own projects together. The best connections you don't even plan, they just happen like in Gagas case. She saw potential in her friends and the assistants of her staff and gave them that extra boost of confidence to own their talent, even before she had succes. 

This old Gagavision is very telling: (start at 1.20 min)

Brandon was a stylist, and maybe dreamt about being a designer as kid, but it wasn't untill Gaga pushed him he took the plunge:

vmagazine.com/site/content/4899/lady-gaga-and-brandon-maxwell-an-intimate-interview

I don't know how old you are and what choices you have, but you don't have to choose one thing straight away. Maybe just try acting as a really serious hobby first and work on the side, just like pretty much every musician does. If you truly love acting you'll make the time because it gives you so much joy. You don't have to earn a living with it to call yourself an actress. If it's a passion, who cares if you're not the biggest star? You are doing what you love and that is the best thing you can get from life, not succes. And who knows one day all the puzzlepieces fall in place and you become a succes after all. Don't expect it, but believe in it and work for it.

I always remind myself of those moments when I wanted Gaga to notice me and she didn't, and always when I least expected she did. Believe in yourself, not the result.

 

That's awesome that you decided to make jewelry and clothes. You should get a webstore on Etsy.com. I am actually considering selling bracelets on that site.

I still think that the reason why some of friends are successful is because she was able to reel them in to her fame and help them to reap some of the benefits. She certainty did encourage them but its a lot easier to pursue a risky career when you know that you have a famous friend who will help you to get connections and opportunities along the way. Its not like going in completely blind.

This is the process:

Gaga's friends got the opportunity to work for her because she wanted them to, out of the goodness of her heart.

They got experience and credentials for working with such a huge pop star. (Brandon Maxwell started at this step)

Now, they are able to pursue their own endeavors. You often need experience before embarking on a more advanced career.

Gaga also gives them exposure for these projects, for example by wearing Brandon's clothes.

 

I think for me, an artistic career is like a beautiful unrealistic ridiculous fantasy. I don’t even know exactly what it is about acting that draws me to it. I think I just like the ability to be able to control your emotions instead of having the control you.  Its very fascinating to become someone else, someone who you could never be in real life. There is a lot of psychology involved in acting. You have to understand why characters act in a certain way and how they perceive and understand the world. But I also think there is a possibility that I want to act because I want attention or validation.

 

 I keep thinking about the past and I wish I would have known that acting is an interest for me way sooner. I just feel like its too late now.  I feel like you have to know that this is what you want at least at the age of 18 and either go to theater school or go to a liberal arts school and double major in theater an then something else (as a backup). Im 23 years old and I graduated from college with a degree in Biology. If I actually wanted to fully pursue acting as a career, I would at the very least need to go to a consortium for a full time 2- year program. So, by the time I would apply and everything, I wouldn’t be able to start my career until around 26. My prime age for roles would already be gone. There are many actresses who get work thought all their decades, but you need to build up a reputation (meaning, get some decent roles) before age 30.

 Im just thinking, I could spend the entire rest of my youth training to be an actress and then auditioning, and there is a huge chance that I will never build up the proper reputation to have a more stable career. Im not even talking about becoming famous. The chances of that are like .01%. Im talking about being a working actor and getting consistent enough roles to be able to make a lower middle-middle class living and enough money to raise kids. I would say that the vast majority of aspiring actors barely make enough money to take care of themselves because the work is so inconsistent. Unless you have a really good reputation in the industry, you have to audition for every role you want. Its like trying to find a new job every 3 weeks and having to keep going through the application and interview process over and over again. It is true that landing even small roles here and there leads to connections and increases your chances. But, you could still spend most of your time searching for roles and not actually acting for years and years. I do not want to wake up one day and be 40 years old and have no life savings and no family and then have to go back to school and restart my career.

Meanwhile, I could have spent my twenties and thirties in grad school and then pursuing another one of my passions. I am interested in “the helping field” and becoming either a Dietician, some type of counselor or working in Psychology related research. Maybe those careers will not make me as happy as being an actress but they are so much more stable and stability makes me happy.

What I got out of a--lyzing my situation to death is this; if there is another career that can make me happy and is way more stable, it probably will not make sense to pursue a risky artistic type career. I am thinking my best bet is to continue taking acting classes and audition for community theater as a hobby.

 

 

[Schwerk 7,243]

That's awesome that you decided to make jewelry and clothes. You should get a webstore on Etsy.com. I am actually considering selling bracelets on that site.

I still think that the reason why some of friends are successful is because she was able to reel them in to her fame and help them to reap some of the benefits. She certainty did encourage them but its a lot easier to pursue a risky career when you know that you have a famous friend who will help you to get connections and opportunities along the way. Its not like going in completely blind.

This is the process:

Gaga's friends got the opportunity to work for her because she wanted them to, out of the goodness of her heart.

They got experience and credentials for working with such a huge pop star. (Brandon Maxwell started at this step)

Now, they are able to pursue their own endeavors. You often need experience before embarking on a more advanced career.

Gaga also gives them exposure for these projects, for example by wearing Brandon's clothes.

 

I think for me, an artistic career is like a beautiful unrealistic ridiculous fantasy. I don’t even know exactly what it is about acting that draws me to it. I think I just like the ability to be able to control your emotions instead of having the control you.  Its very fascinating to become someone else, someone who you could never be in real life. There is a lot of psychology involved in acting. You have to understand why characters act in a certain way and how they perceive and understand the world. But I also think there is a possibility that I want to act because I want attention or validation.

 

 I keep thinking about the past and I wish I would have known that acting is an interest for me way sooner. I just feel like its too late now.  I feel like you have to know that this is what you want at least at the age of 18 and either go to theater school or go to a liberal arts school and double major in theater an then something else (as a backup). Im 23 years old and I graduated from college with a degree in Biology. If I actually wanted to fully pursue acting as a career, I would at the very least need to go to a consortium for a full time 2- year program. So, by the time I would apply and everything, I wouldn’t be able to start my career until around 26. My prime age for roles would already be gone. There are many actresses who get work thought all their decades, but you need to build up a reputation (meaning, get some decent roles) before age 30.

 Im just thinking, I could spend the entire rest of my youth training to be an actress and then auditioning, and there is a huge chance that I will never build up the proper reputation to have a more stable career. Im not even talking about becoming famous. The chances of that are like .01%. Im talking about being a working actor and getting consistent enough roles to be able to make a lower middle-middle class living and enough money to raise kids. I would say that the vast majority of aspiring actors barely make enough money to take care of themselves because the work is so inconsistent. Unless you have a really good reputation in the industry, you have to audition for every role you want. Its like trying to find a new job every 3 weeks and having to keep going through the application and interview process over and over again. It is true that landing even small roles here and there leads to connections and increases your chances. But, you could still spend most of your time searching for roles and not actually acting for years and years. I do not want to wake up one day and be 40 years old and have no life savings and no family and then have to go back to school and restart my career.

Meanwhile, I could have spent my twenties and thirties in grad school and then pursuing another one of my passions. I am interested in “the helping field” and becoming either a Dietician, some type of counselor or working in Psychology related research. Maybe those careers will not make me as happy as being an actress but they are so much more stable and stability makes me happy.

What I got out of a--lyzing my situation to death is this; if there is another career that can make me happy and is way more stable, it probably will not make sense to pursue a risky artistic type career. I am thinking my best bet is to continue taking acting classes and audition for community theater as a hobby.

 

 

This is exactly why I suggested you take on acting as a serious hobby instead of a career. This might be just as fullfilling if it's something you love to do. You don't have to go to Theatre school, you can follow acting lessons in your free time, join a theatre group. If you're talented and passionate it won't take long before this will bring you a lot of joy and it won't cost much. And when you actually meet other actors and theatre or film people, who knows what fun projects will come along?

Compare it too someone playing guitar in a band next to their fulltime job. They greatly enjoy their musicianship, but still have a steady income. They rehearse once a week, maybe play a gig every two weeks. No pressure, pure passion and fun.

Don't be too hard on yourself, you're so young and smart and you seem to know what you want so go for it! Continue your studies that will lead to a nice job in the helping field, and enjoy yourself by taking up acting in your spare time. It might be hard work, but it will pay off.

Don't forget all of Gagas friends have worked their asses off and already had successful careers before she gave them that last little boost. And that boost came around age 30 or over, and not at age 23 ;) You've got plenty of time. And if you work hard you too will find someone to give you that boost. But if you don't believe it simply won't happen.

[SharGaga 2,906]

No. Her hard work inspires me. She's truly one of the hardest working women I know and has earned everything she has by her own talent, hard work and intelligence. 

[arthurhmangum 4,408]

It's a no from me 

I don't really understand the question. Shes gotten everything she deserves. 

[arthurhmangum 4,408]

Plus, I don't know if i could even handle being her for a day. 

Think about it. 

[yASSsss 35,510]

no  

if anything,i'm proud of her