Harry Styles dragged for hypocrite behavior

[Guest]

He owes nobody nothing and that’s all there is to it

[RahrahWitch 6,985]

His sexuality is his own, he owes nobody a label or an answer.

That said, It is a little strange that he's so open about everything including his sexual attraction towards women but is suddenly as ambiguous as possible when it comes to an attraction to men.

He's either queerbaiting for profit or is genuinely not ready to say it out loud. 

[Future Lovers 6,901]

It never ceases to amaze me how people in one breath can say “express yourself” and in the next say “but only in a way that I think is correct”. He’s not being a hypocrite, everyone who is attempting to shame him into labelling himself when he clearly doesn’t want to is. 

I understand that coming out is powerful for so many, but in today’s day and age it is not necessary to formally come out as anything if that isn’t what you want. Assigning a label to one’s self is never for the benefit of the individual, but for the benefit of others. If you want to come out and announce a label, then by all means do it, but don’t shame someone else for not wanting to. 

He would rather just show instead of tell, and that’s absolutely his prerogative. He doesn’t owe me, you, or anyone else a thing, especially not a label. 

Our community is in need of representation, I agree wholeheartedly. But we cannot gatekeep sexuality to the point that we’re trying to force someone out of the closet. 

[Neroneau 1,016]

I think he’s straight, but that he identifies with LGBT cuz he’s not gender conforming himself.. I mean .. Meghan fox has a son who likes dresses, she’s aware of the possibility that he may later come out as transgender or related but she also keeps in mind he may just like dresses and that’s that.

[Wolf 1,328]

He can, by all means, profit off of his ambiguous sexuality. And he doesn't owe anyone any explanation.

At the same time, it feels f*cking weird because he capitalizes on the queer community to an extent. 

[AkariGaga 1,105]

10 minutes ago, Mr Mendes said:

Assigning a label to one’s self is never for the benefit of the individual, but for the benefit of others. 

Labels aren’t  just boxes.They are a way to figure out who you are deep down in your soul.And I came out as gay labeling myself as gay and I can assure you it is for the benefit of my own ,not for the benefit of others.

[Dawson 9,485]

It's not about pressuring him to come out and label his sexuality, it's calling him out for saying it doesn't matter about being visibly queer when our rights are being rolled back.

His entire image is heavily queer orientated and the fact he can't align himself as queer while he's heavily pandering to us comes off as him just profiting off of the community while keeping his straight fans happy 

[Stephen 30,423]

For me, I would listen to his music either way. He's a great artist and ad the very least an outspoken ally of the community. So his coming out or not doesn't affect my support of him or my experience with his music 

But at the same I do agree with this as well: 

1 hour ago, Frank Potion said:

No, his sexuality doesn't matter. And that's why it shouldn't need to be some closely guarded secret. It's extremely privileged to dismiss coming out as obsolete.  

 

[Future Lovers 6,901]

3 minutes ago, AkariGaga said:

Labels aren’t  just boxes.They are a way to figure out who you are deep down in your soul.And I came out as gay labeling myself as gay and I can assure you it is for the benefit of my own ,not for the benefit of others.

And you know what, that’s very fair. You’re right. I shouldn’t say a label never benefits the person they’re about, that’s not always true. 

Maybe I should rephrase the point I was attempting to make: 

I don’t think that one’s identity has to be tied to a label in order for their identity to have meaning and power. The power doesn’t come from the word itself, it comes from the expression of the identity that one assigns to the word. That to me means that that same expression and identity can be there without having to tie it to a word like gay or straight or tall or short or Christian or Muslim or anything like that. 

If using a specific word to call it is a part of that identity, then by all means say it and wear it with pride. What my problem with the Harry Styles discourse is that so many people seem to be of the mind that he can only express and have an identity if he tells us what to call it and I think that is so, so, so regressive. 

[NichuuB 43,788]

I think people demanding him to assume his sexuality are wrong.

My point was, i dont think it's cool that he's capitalizing on the community by queerbaiting, and there's no excuse to this as it's really obvious he odes

[lavender blonde 650]

In my humble opinion he's just a Bowie/Mercury/Jagger wannabe and that's why he's not "labelling himself", because he wants media to speculate about his sexuality just like they did with them all.

Look, I'm not a part of LGBTQ+ community, so I don't wanna sound like a know-it-all or something, but if he's bisexual and he's public and open about his relationships with women, but he can't do the same with his relationships with men then it seems to me like he thinks same-sex relationships are somehow worse than straight ones and it just doesn't sit right with me

[TheFame Monster 8,924]

I don’t get how people say that people should be able to wear whatever they want, not say an item of clothing, a color, an activity etc, should not be associated with one gender and then when it is assumed that a straight person is wearing or doing said thing, they are queerbating. It’s exhausting at this point. 
 

People who argue against gatekeeping and then argue for gatekeeping are hypocrites. I see this as a case of being so progressive that you end up conservative. 

[elijahfan 26,074]

3 hours ago, Nathan said:

I don’t think it matters…. BUT I agree, you can’t wave pride flags around constantly and then say it doesn’t matter.

If it doesn’t matter to him (which is great) he sure does like making a big deal about sexuality. I understand you can see this as support for the community, but it’s literally constant. I think if you are that uncomfortable with sharing your own sexuality publicly then it’s a strange move. 
 

I think the realty is that he is indeed straight, and is just great at marketing. Nothing wrong with that, but you can see why he wouldn’t want to just state he is straight due to blowback. 

A lot of straight artists do perfectly fine without trying hard with the LGBT community - look at Justin Bieber. Unless what y’all seem to think, queerness isn’t particularly helpful with charts. The guy could’ve hurt his career really bad by showing up in dresses and waving pride flags, and yet he did.

He’s already doing a lot for the community and non gender-confirming people, so asserting loudly that he likes sucking **** from time to time literally wouldn’t make any difference.

[LOVEDRUG 10,649]

2 hours ago, Luv u Sum said:

when will people just learn to leave other people ALONE when it comes to sexuality. the fact that you’re forced to come out or that your sexuality gets picked apart and speculated is disgusting and happens mostly by gay men. Shawn Mendez continues to say he’s straight and that being called otherwise makes him uncomfortable and it gets pushed and pushed. Harry has been asked about his sexuality from the beginning and imo he’s been very open about being attracted to both men and women but just don’t feel comfortable attaching a label which is something i very much relate to because it’s exhausting. great he held a pride flag at his show… a thing a lot of people do many of which who are not even queer. but attacking him for it when he is queer but you just don’t like the way he talked about it is idiotic. this should not even be a thread 

learn to leave people alone 

shawn mendes hasn't made a brand out of being 'maybe queer, maybe not', that's the difference.

[KORG 4,756]

How desperate and fickle are these twitter gays? A label is as important as the length of his middle toe... ie its nobody's damn business.