Dr Fudge 8,635 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 So awhile back I mentioned to my boyfriend that someday I want to frame the Gaga Candy Magazine cover (won’t post cuz of nudity but look it up as it’s an amazing shot). He surprised me with it for Christmas and it’s so awesome! It’s in a floating frame so imagine the shot is just suspended in air around a black frame. Importantly, it’s not the actual cover itself, but rather a high resolution print of the cover. There’s only one issue. It was cropped so that the top and bottom of the pic don’t have the magazine issue details and the word “Candy” is slightly cropped as well. My boyfriend isn’t into Gaga basically at all. He’ll occasionally indulge in Gaga related things to make me happy. So knowing him, he’ll most likely never look at the photo ever again. That said, I’m thinking of ordering the print again and making sure it’s not cropped so that it’s the cover in it’s entirety. My interest in the image is that I see her posing naked as the magazine’s cover as something prolific and important about it as a piece of art, if that makes sense. So that brings us to the question- is it bad of me for essentially taking his gift that I like and replacing it with something I’d love more? I don’t think he would ever notice nor do I need to tell him. From a sentimental point of view the gesture meant a lot to me. From a cost perspective, the print couldn’t have cost more than $10-15 and I’d still use his frame. Been a cuff touple, a puff bupple, a tough couple of years. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anderson123 38,184 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 I think your boyfriend was so nice to go through all of that because you wanted it. I think you should just leave it as it is, it's a special gift. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucas 26,708 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 Tough one. I would say unless you are 100% sure that it won't hurt his feelings if he notices that you changed it, leave it as it is Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
PartySick 159,824 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 I would just leave it tbh. It's super nice of him to pay attention and get you something like that 🌸Flourishing and vibrant🌼 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
GerMonsterNotta 1,407 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 That’s so lovely. Leave it as it is and spend the energy spreading love and kindness back to your boyfriend/other loved ones and put this worry to bed🙂 and no you aren’t a bad person for considering this, that’s a bit much! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhantomOfTheDance 13,794 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 So many things can be imperfect but I think the act of kindness from your boyfriend is beyond, so why not return it with a feeling of appreciation and leave it Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fusel 1,109 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 I don't see an issue with re-printing it The gesture from your bf is exactly that, a gesture, so it's not tied to the print itself. I actually don't think you're disrespecting him or his gesture in any way. If it makes an important difference to you, then go print it correctly! I know I would not be hurt. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitsch 499 Posted December 26, 2021 Share Posted December 26, 2021 Leave it as it is, you’re not a bad person and perhaps he might not care, but it was a thoughtful gift and it might be a small ‘error’ in the printing, it also can make it unique in a way. And perhaps, if he’ll notice that you swapped it, he might think that you were not satisfied with the gift and might be a bit hurt about it. Think of it as this way; things don’t have to be perfect, he gave you something thoughtful. Cherish it. My ex-boyfriends gave me gifts which seemed to be not very thoughtful, and it disappointed me as I go through lengths in order to buy gifts which are thoughtful and useful. And that kind of sucks, if you know what I mean. majkl > kitsch Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chlorine 47,976 Posted December 27, 2021 Share Posted December 27, 2021 If you are going to do it definitely mention it to him. I think it would be worse if you did it secretly thinking he won’t notice because then you’re kind of insulting his intelligence. If you explain your reasoning like you did here, I’d understand if I were him and I’d want you to love it, that was the point of him getting it for you. I think the real gift is the effort and the thought, which is still intact with a new print. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
hELXIG 42,954 Posted December 27, 2021 Share Posted December 27, 2021 This is why I hate sentimental gifts, or gifts in general tbh... If it's something you've been dreaming of having done in a specific way, then receiving this gift just puts you in an awkward position. This is why I always tell everyone please don't ever buy me gifts. I can understand because the item has significance to you, the cover as a whole, the artistry behind the image, and so of course you want to see it in it's entirety. Idk what you should do, you're stuck now between a rock and a hard place idk how to get out of those situations either I'll be myself until they fūcking close the coffin. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa 19,643 Posted December 27, 2021 Share Posted December 27, 2021 I would totally reprint it and never say anything. I don't see an issue with that at all. The nice thought and gesture remain the same, and you can still think your boyfriends did a lovely thing even if you tweak the print a bit. Now, if on the tiny chance he does notice I do think you'll have to tell the truth, gaslighting him like, 'what do you mean, it's the same blah blah', would not be right. But if you're willing to take the slight risk, I'd reprint with no guilt at all! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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