Billie Eilish opens up about p0rn addiction

[Morphine Prince 106,256]

“As a woman, I think **** is a disgrace, and I used to watch a lot of ****, to be honest. I started watching **** when I was like 11,” Eilish said, per Uproxx. “I didn’t understand why it was a bad thing. I thought that’s how you learned how to have sex. … I was an advocate and I thought I was ‘one of the guys’ and would talk about it and think I was really cool for not having a problem with it and not seeing why it was bad and…I think it really destroyed my brain and I feel incredibly devastated that I was exposed to so much ****.”

As Billie—who just dropped her self-directed video for “Male Fantasy”—became sexually active, she explains that the “abusive BDSM” **** she was watching ended up leading to “problems,” where she “was not saying no to things that were not good.”

“It’s because I thought that that’s what I was supposed to be attracted to,” said Eilish, who turns 20 this week. “I’m so angry that **** is so loved, and I’m so angry at myself for thinking that it was OK. The way that vaginas look in **** is ****ing crazy. No vaginas look like that. Women’s bodies don’t look like that. We don’t come like that…it’s how so many people think they’re supposed to learn.”

 

[Chic 20,830]

I remember learning about the Russian candy cane when I was 11 too 

[Meat 18,962]

There’s plenty of good quality pörn directed by women. We should support that.

[Beanybb 1,235]

Stuff like this will open doors for women to talk about their struggles with **** addiction. I was exposed to p*** at an early age by others and I genuinely believed it screwed something up with my brain.

Good on her 

 

[nATAH 50,024]

wow! this is actually incredibly brave considering how young she is and the fact she's a woman since p*rn is seen as a man thing

p*rn has for sure totally ruined my brain into thinking only hot guys with abs and big swords can have sex which in turn made me feel unworthy of affection or intimacy and i think that's a huge problem within gay culture and gay p*rn... almost any gay related advertising is hunky hairless men

[Fanta 5,019]

I'm with her in being extremely against p*rn. I don't shame anyone for participating in p*rn (no matter what your role is, viewer/sex worker), but I do think it f*cks something up in the brain especially when you're exposed to it at an early age.

I understand it is meant to serve a 'fantasy', but it is so unreal that it really screws with your head and molds your expectations of intimacy into something unrealistic. It's extremely toxic, and I wish kids were able to learn about sex and intimacy in a healthy way that can set them up for a safer sexual experience in the future.

When I was younger I remember being extremely concerned my experiences were nowhere near as close to the ones portrayed in p*rn, and I remember thinking maybe it's something wrong with me or my partners because no matter what I(we) did it never lived up to the p*rn fantasy. I'm so glad I know better now, and for anyone that still feels like it clouds their judgement/experience I would say that if therapy is an option then definitely consider going (:

[DenDenTired 1,126]

3 minutes ago, Fanta said:

I'm with her in being extremely against p*rn. I don't shame anyone for participating in p*rn (no matter what your role is, viewer/sex worker), but I do think it f*cks something up in the brain especially when you're exposed to it at an early age.

I understand it is meant to serve a 'fantasy', but it is so unreal that it really screws with your head and molds your expectations of intimacy into something unrealistic. It's extremely toxic, and I wish kids were able to learn about sex and intimacy in a healthy way that can set them up for a safer sexual experience in the future.

When I was younger I remember being extremely concerned my experiences were nowhere near as close to the ones portrayed in p*rn, and I remember thinking maybe it's something wrong with me or my partners because no matter what I(we) did it never lived up to the p*rn fantasy. I'm so glad I know better now, and for anyone that still feels like it clouds their judgement/experience I would say that if therapy is an option then definitely consider going (:

100%
 

Its mold that consumes you 

[CannaeDrive 3,412]

Good thing she talks about it, showing courage doing this. P*rn is a reality and exists for multiple reasons, there should be an ongoing and open conversation about that reality.

[Wolf 1,328]

I think that **** in itself is not bad per se, but with how you consume it. There's a high tendency that you can get addicted to it, and it hijacks the brain's reward system and releases too much dopamine so you're craving for more each time. 

While it's still better not to watch it at all completely, that may not be possible for everyone. I also think that it's possible to have a healthy relationship with ****-- setting boundaries as to not watching it on a regular basis and not treating it as "real life" sex. Perhaps we can support **** directed by women, depicting a more realistic view on what sex is.

[QUEENH 711]

Bravo. She's absolutely right. So much **** is so degrading and violent towards women and I truly believe it has fed the worst inclinations in men. If I found out my partner was into watching this **** it really would make me sick to my stomach. I don't know if I could get past it if I'm honest but some of the stuff out there is just vile. I seriously think if you need to be violent to your sexual partner to get off you have some serious issues. But I better shut up bc I will probably get in trouble for this opinion too

[Glamourpuss 29,062]

She's right. 

[fishinmyhair 524]

I'm so happy she's talking about this. I think it should be a global conversation.

[Bolkins 4,125]

I can’t remember how old I was when I first watched p0rn, quite young I guess. My earliest memories are watching stuff that had ridiculous themes. In the 90’s there was almost a comedic element to p0rn, it wasn’t rooted in kink or realism it was people having quite normal sex but with OTT production value. In a way I’m sort of grateful, although I was too young to be watching anything like that, it was surrealist rubbish that was clearly detached from reality and not trying to be realistic. 

[Shaney 5,515]

I found po rn in the ****ing 5th grade.

I’m so glad she’s tLking about this

[LastNight 5,935]

Good for her for speaking up about this. P0rn can be so destructive and addictive and can set really, really unrealistic expectations of how you're supposed to look, behave and feel during sex.

It's admirable to take a public stance, particularly when people are so quick to claim you're not being sex-positive or that don't support sex workers or are kink shaming people, which is obviously not the case. There is a way to make and consume **** ethically, but there is a long, long, long way to go to make sure the entire industry operates in that way.

P0rn can be extremely exploitative and often sets (and maintains) unrealistic beauty standards, as well as normalising very questionable dynamics: for example men in their 30s, 40s and 50s sleeping with people who have only just turned 18. Take being a "legal adult" out of it, the teens look incredibly young and the dynamic is almost always depicting them as vulnerable and submissive, often as younger step-siblings, nannys, in school uniforms etc. Often the 'thrill' is them being "barley legal" - it's not directly paedophilic, but it skims way too close and certainly leans in to that as an aesthetic. Very damaging. I always felt that if the legal drinking limit in some countries is 21, then it should be the same for those making adult content.

Of course there is some content that is wonderful and informative, where neither party is objectified and mutual pleasure is celebrated. I can't remember who it was, but there's a famous quote about p0rn should be replaed with erotica. There's nothing wrong with fantasies about domination and submission, costumes etc. but too often women are treated as an object to satisfy the man's needs at any cost.