RAMROD 117,121 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 In relationship/marriage, conflict is inevitable. Even the happiest couples argue. And research shows they tend to argue about the same topics as unhappy couples: children, money, in-laws, intimacy. So, what distinguishes happy couples? According to “What are the Marital Problems of Happy Couples? A Multi-method, Two-Sample Investigation,” a study published this August in Family Process, it is the way happy couples argue that may make a difference. “Happy couples tend to take a solution-oriented approach to conflict, and this is clear even in the topics that they choose to discuss,” said lead author Amy Rauer, associate professor of child and family studies and director of the Relationships and Development Lab in the College of Education, Health, and Human Sciences. Full article at Source: https://news.utk.edu/2019/09/16/new-research-sheds-light-on-how-happy-couples-argue/ (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ✧*:･ﾟ ᶠʳᵒⁿᵗ ᵗᵒʷᵃʳᵈ ᵉⁿᵉᵐʸ (*´艸｀*) ♡♡♡ Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Conservative Mom 655 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 they flirt and having sex is the solution to the argument Suburban Dweller, Property Owner, Petrol Consumer and Range Shooting Enjoyer Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
SharkmanthaC 115,047 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 My husband and I have never had an argument like I think what is thought of as arguing. We talk to each other. If something is bothering us we are open about it and talk about it. Find out how we can make it better or work together to support the other person make a change. We both had previous relationships where arguments were horrible yelling matches. Not something either of us want to relive. she/her/hers Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ANTI WP 19,828 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 1 hour ago, MissWing said: they flirt and having sex is the solution to the argument Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
PunkTheFunk 125,703 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 1 hour ago, RAMROD said: Happy couples tend to take a solution-oriented approach to conflict My parents take the "who can scream the loudest" approach Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 3 hours ago, RAMROD said: they tend to argue about the same topics as unhappy couples: children, money, in-laws, intimacy. Really? My parents since a small kid always argued over who put the leftovers in the trash, who washed the dishes in a sloppy way, and things like "why the hell are you cutting the apple that way you know THAT KNIFE IS NOT MEANT FOR CUTTING FRUITS IVE TOD HRIGRH" Ive never heard them argue about money or children Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RAMROD 117,121 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Share Posted October 29, 2019 1 hour ago, kyanewest said: Really? My parents since a small kid always argued over who put the leftovers in the trash, who washed the dishes in a sloppy way, and things like "why the hell are you cutting the apple that way you know THAT KNIFE IS NOT MEANT FOR CUTTING FRUITS IVE TOD HRIGRH" Ive never heard them argue about money or children Maybe you are in comfortable caste of society (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ✧*:･ﾟ ᶠʳᵒⁿᵗ ᵗᵒʷᵃʳᵈ ᵉⁿᵉᵐʸ (*´艸｀*) ♡♡♡ Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
River 127,553 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 We are a happy couple, but I have a short fuse, so I can go loco in a second and my husband just sits there a laughs and say that I'm cute when I'm angry so it makes me wanna punch him in the face even more. We're usually finds the compromise and the solution, but the hardest things is to maintain this compromise/solution, it's not that easy. We had out lowest point 3 years into the relationship where we fought every day but one day it just stopped, during a wedding of our straight friends But we live a crazy life in some sense, so I don't see us as a regular couple with a regular problems.. So sploosh your juice all over me you Riverboy Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sepsami 20,977 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 Happy relationship? Never heard of it I don't know that emotion Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red 99,113 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 So they’re saying the recipe for a perfect marriage is being a rich only child, married to an only child, have sex everyday and not have children, sounds good to me If you see me posting like crazy, I'm either bored or procrastinating. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Economy 52,861 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 10 hours ago, SamanthaC said: My husband and I have never had an argument like I think what is thought of as arguing. We talk to each other. If something is bothering us we are open about it and talk about it. Find out how we can make it better or work together to support the other person make a change. We both had previous relationships where arguments were horrible yelling matches. Not something either of us want to relive. Im not surprised i never met u personally but u strike me as the kind of person who would be very reasonable and considerate of your partners feelings and point of view in a relationship if he is like that too then it helps even more if both are! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
NT78 1,234 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 8 hours ago, kyanewest said: Ive never heard them argue about money or children You just don't hear those arguments. Those happen when you're not around. Trust me. The stuff you mentioned is nagging, not real arguing. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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