TSUNAMI 21,021 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 So my boyfriend asked if I want to go see JWT on 24th, February in Berlin (2 days before my bday) and I said no because he wants to pay for it all and he works so much and I can't make him spend so much money on me and my desires, also, we should pay for accomodation and everything and I feel bad when someone is spending on me. But I deserve to be spent on But I feel so sorry to say No. I so wanted to say Yes. Baby tell me yes. I feel so bummed now. Please cheer me up, last concert I saw was TMBT in 2011 in Croatia and this one was a dream. Pardon my Carrie Bradshaw moment. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haroon 49,685 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 Has The Cure taught you NOTHING? "So baby tell me yes" Just say yes and pay him back later or make it up to him for his birthday or something. If someone's offered then you can accept Also you can force your way into paying for some stuff, he won't know what's coming After JWT is over it won't ever happen again Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
andy232000 11,675 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 If it bothers you that much why dont you tell him he can pay for everything and then you´ll pay him back after? or if he is one of those "dont worry you dont have to pay me back" guys then pretend you are fine with it and then drop some bucks on him without him knowing later on Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bradley 59,173 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 But the Joanne World Tour is so amazing to witness live. I believe you two will have a good time there, and memories like that can't be replicated anytime soon. You two should have fun there. Money can be earned later, opportunities like this do not arise on a daily basis. Gaga is having a residency show soon and it'll be some time before she tours again. I appreciate how much you love your boyfriend though, and being considerate towards him, but I believe the two of you should go. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
TSUNAMI 21,021 Posted January 6, 2018 Author Share Posted January 6, 2018 18 minutes ago, Haroon said: Has The Cure taught you NOTHING? "So baby tell me yes" Just say yes and pay him back later or make it up to him for his birthday or something. If someone's offered then you can accept Also you can force your way into paying for some stuff, he won't know what's coming After JWT is over it won't ever happen again Well, the thing is that we live together and he's already earning more than me and basically he's paying for food and everything 10 last days of the month. He provides so much already and only thing he bought for himself were 2 fishtanks and 20 fishes. I'm not sure if I could ever pay him back that amount because I'm currently struggling with finances. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
andy232000 11,675 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 14 minutes ago, Parach said: Well, the thing is that we live together and he's already earning more than me and basically he's paying for food and everything 10 last days of the month. He provides so much already and only thing he bought for himself were 2 fishtanks and 20 fishes. I'm not sure if I could ever pay him back that amount because I'm currently struggling with finances. im sure he´ll be ok if you pay him by bits and pieces. You dont have to pay him the whole trip and tickets all at once. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duella Dvil 10,517 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 7 minutes ago, Parach said: Well, the thing is that we live together and he's already earning more than me and basically he's paying for food and everything 10 last days of the month. He provides so much already and only thing he bought for himself were 2 fishtanks and 20 fishes. I'm not sure if I could ever pay him back that amount because I'm currently struggling with finances. Here's the thing. I have been in this spot before. He understands. If you're BOTH in it for the Long haul, you will pay him back. Your current situation is not the final destination. Your reaction in and of itself will pay him back. My boyfriend bought me tickets to The Rebel Heart Tour. Madonna. He saw me in one of my happiest moments and we fell so deeply in love that night. BUT that doesn't mean you have no obligation to pay him back. Make him know, no matter what he says, that you will return the favor (the following year, that's right a year later) I bought us Gaga tickets for his birthday when I started to get my finances on track. Promise you'll always be there. In a relationship there's more than your financial economy. There's an emotional economy. Remember that. www.instagram.com/theduella666 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
LordEnigma 11,313 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 Well if he is offering to pay for you - then he wants to do it. Not quite sure how hard that is to understand. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie 2,518 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 It's your b-day...let him spoil you a little and if he wants to pay your ticket you have to at least pay him a dinner or give him a good sucky sucky so you don't feel bad about it What if tomorrow I see you again? Should I say that I used to love you? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashley 9,518 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 Since it was his idea he probably just wants you to have a nice birthday and make you happy. Just go! You’ll regret it if you don’t. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shav33l 1,241 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 3 hours ago, Bradley said: But the Joanne World Tour is so amazing than witness live. Red wine, cheap perfume and a filthy pout. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bradley 59,173 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 13 minutes ago, Aquamarine said: I thought it was my typo but then Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haroon 49,685 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 4 hours ago, Parach said: Well, the thing is that we live together and he's already earning more than me and basically he's paying for food and everything 10 last days of the month. He provides so much already and only thing he bought for himself were 2 fishtanks and 20 fishes. I'm not sure if I could ever pay him back that amount because I'm currently struggling with finances. Yeah I can't imagine it being easy when someone offers something and there's so much going on in your lives already financially The thing is if he's offering out of genuine care and stuff then it won't be an issue down the line, you won't need to pay him back in money, but maybe you can pay him back in experience and happiness, like do nice stuff for him like how he's doing for you That way it's not about the money, it's about what you're doing for each other out of care and consideration It's up to you at the end of the day and personally I don't let people pay for me in most situations because in my mind I'm always like "I owe them " even if that person couldn't care less about having something back That's a fault on my part though because not everything has to be a transaction and people do do good things out of their heart and don't expect anything back in equal amount (money specifically I mean). But then there's the cynic in me that thinks that one day they'll bring it up as a way to get back at me like "remember that time I bought you that? " and it'll just ruin it all You two seem in a good place and he seems like a nice guy too, and I keep thinking back to how a concert is like a limited thing, once it's over it's over, she'll move onto a different tour and JWT can't be revisited. You still have to like think about your relationship and if this is something that can or can't come up in the future as something against you because the last thing anyone needs are regrets I'm hoping it all turns out well though, whether you go to JWT or not Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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