Gay men hate femme gay men

[sillynate 6,170]

15 minutes ago, Luk said:

I do know, cause I've been there, and deeply regret it.
I'm not going to waste my time anymore, cause I know nothing will change out of this ****. 
I hate gay community, that's all.
Go back to Sean Cody where you belong.

I'm trying to understand why you think having preferences for one group of people vs being open to anyone is disgusting because maybe, I could be wrong. But all you're doing is calling me names so you're right, nothing's gonna change. Thanks. 

[mightyriverz 2,653]

1 minute ago, sillynate said:

I'm trying to understand why you think having preferences for one group of people vs being open to anyone is disgusting because maybe, I could be wrong. But all you're doing is calling me names so you're right, nothing's gonna change. Thanks. 

Because that is social exclusion. It is superficiality.
That is thinking that, even though the guy is a great person, and he looks good, just for the fact that he's "femme", black, fat, asian, or whatever, it invalidates him as an attractive person.
and people still think that I'd choose to be gay...  Bitch, who in the world would ever consciously choose to be attracted by males? For the past few months, I've developed an unbearable social anxiety, and this is one of the main reasons why. I don't wanna go to parties, or meet guys anymore. I don't even expect to have a relationship, since I've never had any. I just want to stay away from people and from this fake community, which is built over a battle of egos. My sis Sylvia Rivera has been there. There's no hope or empathy left at all. I only hope to die or be killed ASAP.

[Doot 2]

5 minutes ago, Luk said:

Because that is social exclusion. It is superficiality.
That is thinking that, even though the guy is a great person, and he looks good, just for the fact that he's "femme", black, fat, asian, or whatever, it invalidates him as an attractive person.
and people still think that I'd choose to be gay...  Bitch, who in the world would ever consciously choose to be attracted by males? For the past few months, I've developed an unbearable social anxiety, and this is one of the main reasons why. I don't wanna go to parties, or meet guys anymore. I don't even expect to have a relationship, since I've never had any. I just want to stay away from people and from this fake community, which is built over a battle of egos. My sis Sylvia Rivera has been there. There's no hope or empathy left at all. I only hope to die or be killed ASAP.

Are you saying you hope you die or that someone murders you, simply because guys don’t like you due to feminine qualities? 

[mightyriverz 2,653]

20 minutes ago, Doot said:

Are you saying you hope you die or that someone murders you, simply because guys don’t like you due to feminine qualities? 

you call it simply cause you haven't been through being excluded  and alone your whole life LOL
just as I said, there's no empathy left

[PsychicGuru 1,592]

I'm gonna confess, I also did not like feminine gays, but here's why (of course, I eventually realized and I myself turned pretty fem):

I'm MEXICAN. Well, Mex-American. Nod to all you Latino hunties, we know how difficult it was coming out to our dads and explaining how being gay didn't mean we were suddenly women. I feel like homosexuality has been demonized by my culture and putting us down as feminine, weak, and an oddity. I was incredibly insecure when I came out, therefore demonizing those around me who expressed the very qualities I was surpressing. It was not until my fiancé (when I met him three years ago) said:

"Why do you always apologize about being feminine?"
"Well, I don't want you to get freaked out."
"Have you met me?"
"That's true..." 

Our relationship is LITERALLY Trixie and Katya. I'm Katya. He's the witty one.

I am now a healthy mix of masc and fem af. I love everyone, and realized my disapproval was harnessed by years of cultural bigotry and insecurity.

[Fascination 1,130]

14 hours ago, GodofLove said:

I’m a gay man and my preference is manly men. Femme turn me off.. because I’m gay for a reason. I want a MAN. Not a feminine man. 

I'm a gay man, my preference is men. You're disgusting.

[PsychicGuru 1,592]

14 hours ago, The witch said:

Its frankie grande fault tbh.

Frankie isn't fem. He's the unicorn from the Squatty Potty commercial.

 

[HauntingHollow 4,310]

i do not like femme gays because because i want to date a guy, you know, if i wanted to date somebody feminine i would date a girl 

[Doot 2]

27 minutes ago, Luk said:

you call it simply cause you haven't been through being excluded  and alone your whole life LOL
just as I said, there's no empathy left

Yes I have  

if you are feeling suicidal, then I highly recommend reaching out for help. No guy or lack of is worth your life. 

[mightyriverz 2,653]

2 minutes ago, Doot said:

Yes I have  

if you are feeling suicidal, then I highly recommend reaching out for help. No guy or lack of is worth your life. 

not that simple haha.
it's not ONE guy, it's the society as a whole, and no one cares.
it's the gay community pretending that it's all fine, we can marry now, but "femmes" like me stil struggle to be recognized as somebody and someone who's worth of something such as attraction or whatever.
but transgender people are still getting killed in a daily basis, specially here in Brazil.
but non binary people are mocked of because "that's a tumblr thing".
but bissexuals are invalidated because "they have to pick a side".
anyway, suicide is a lot more affordable than getting help, so..
I'm only waiting till i have the guts to do it.

[God Control 2,181]

14 hours ago, Bebe said:

Yeah, the fact that over 70% of gay men are repulsed by guys that don't adhere to strict gender expectations is a bad thing... That's a pretty clear indication that a vast majority of even gay men (who are unavoidably breaking gender norms and expectations by merely existing) are so ingrained into idolising this cis-sexist heteronormative ideal of what a man should be that they are actually repulsed by people who are either unable to conform or choose not to conform to these harmful societal expectations.

If we lived in an equal society in which gender performance didn't matter then you're right - it wouldn't matter if some guys liked a 'real wild man'. What's problematic is that on an aggregate level femme men are seen as less attractive and as actually somehow 'wrong' and 'harmful'. What's problematic is that we know that these cis-sexist, heteronormative ideals are harmful to the LGBT community and yet even a large percentage of gay men are contributing to this restrictive and harmful culture that pressures men and women to fit into narrow gender roles while punishing and alienating those who do not or cannot conform to these narrow roles.

The reason I don't date femme guys isn't because someone taught me to dislike them nor because I'm ashamed of holding their hands as a couple, it's because they simply don't turn me on. I'm not gonna have sex with you or date you if I don't want to or like it. If that makes me sexist, then yes, I am very sexist, but at least I'm free to choose what I like rather than conform to what you think I should like because preferring otherwise is "cis-sexist".

Besides, there's no such thing as an LGBT community and I don't associate myself with it despite being into men, myself, you know why? because it's full of people like you and them who want to teach others what they should prefer, who are much worse bullies than actual homophobic people. 

[Doot 2]

1 minute ago, Luk said:

not that simple haha.
it's not ONE guy, it's the society as a whole, and no one cares.
it's the gay community pretending that it's all fine, we can marry now, but "femmes" like me stil struggle to be recognized as somebody and someone who's worth of something such as attraction or whatever.
but transgender people are still getting killed in a daily basis, specially here in Brazil.
but non binary people are mocked of because "that's a tumblr thing".
but bissexuals are invalidated because "they have to pick a side".
anyway, suicide is a lot more affordable than getting help, so..
I'm only waiting till i have the guts to do it.

Life is not simple. Life is not easy. But giving up shouldn’t be an option, not ever. You may say now that no one would care, but that’s not true. We would care. We would know that you were in pain and that you reached out. 

Yes, society sucks. No one is denying that. The gay community is not perfect. There is this illusion that once you graduate High School, or move out from your parents, etc, that this big fuzzy community just welcomes you with open arms and guys will be knocking down your door. It doesn’t work like that. Life is not like that. 

Life is fighting. Life is working hard. Life is heartache, and pain, and tears. But life is something we get through, and cherish those happy moments that come in between the hard ****. Losing your life is NOT worth it. 

If someone doesn’t like you being feminine, fcuk them. Let your flame burn bright. Push through the ****, and come out a better person. 

Suicide is never the right choice. 

[mightyriverz 2,653]

9 minutes ago, Doot said:

We would care.  

Suicide is never the right choice. 

I wish

[Brooklyn Knight 108]

24 minutes ago, HauntingHollow said:

i do not like femme gays because because i want to date a guy, you know, if i wanted to date somebody feminine i would date a girl 

Your logic is very problematic, lmao. A feminine man is still a man!! To assume that a man who is feminine is less than a man, or in your eyes is "a girl" is the exact reason why feminine gays are so disrespected and why there is such a stigma. Get it together, sis.

[DeleteMyAccount 11,881]

What is feminine though? Did the survey ever think of giving examples? Because I can think of varying types of feminine men.