Gaga: I suffer from PTSD

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19 minutes ago, Katie14 said:

http://pagesix.com/2016/12/05/lady-gaga-reveals-struggle-with-ptsd/

 

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I see what she said in the article, thank You! <3 

 

[Lady Palutena 3,147]

Not to put my own personal business out there but I know where Gaga is coming from because I was sexually assaulted when I was younger and now, even at 26 years old, I still feel the effects, one of which being PTSD, in my case, if a man unknown to me comes within 3 feet of me, my body freezes up and my heart begins pounding in my chest, I also lose the ability to audibly speak until the man either speaks enough for me to know that he's not a threat or until he passes, it sucks. 

[FlyingF 485]

4 hours ago, Katie14 said:

I remember Gaga said in an interview last year that the person who raped her doesn't even know that he raped her. It makes me feel so sick and angry that a 15 minute act of power dominance, impulsivity, whatever it was, has caused Gaga so much physical, mental, and emotional pain and this guy has no idea he even did anything wrong. How is that even possible?

Also, im sure her knowing that he doesn't know must makes it so much harder for her to move on. It invalidates her. She blamed herself for so long because she doubted whether or not it really happened. 

This makes me think it was more like where she didnt want to but she didnt vocalise that to him. Not saying it changes anything, im just saying i think the picture thats been painted is of the very worst kind, if that makes sense. Maybe the guy didnt even intend to 'rape' her, even though he did? Am i making sense?

[Katie14 4,828]

1 minute ago, FlyingF said:

This makes me think it was more like where she didnt want to but she didnt vocalise that to him. Not saying it changes anything, im just saying i think the picture thats been painted is of the very worst kind, if that makes sense. Maybe the guy didnt even intend to 'rape' her, even though he did? Am i making sense?

I agree with you. I don't want to speculate too much because we obviously don't have enough information to know what really happened. But, based on everything she said, it seems like she was coerced into having sex (instead of being physically forced) thinking she had to do it for the sake of her career. That is still a form of rape though, especially since there was a power difference between the two of them. I actually think this form may be more traumatizing long term because it would probably be very difficult for the victim to feel like it wasn't their fault. 

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9 hours ago, duskball said:

im gonna write this here cause i know damn well theres going to be some idiots here who are gonna **** on her for this. i believe that she suffers from ptsd.

i was raped when i was 11. im 24 now and it still affects me.

 

 

9 hours ago, VANTABLACK said:

Same I was 12, now 22 it still affects me to this day and I don't think it will never not , til it happens to you you don't know how it feels  

In what way does it affect you? Do you think someone will rape you again or what its PTSD from gettin rape? Seriously concerned.

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10 minutes ago, Indeciso said:

 

In what way does it affect you? Do you think someone will rape you again or what its PTSD from gettin rape? Seriously concerned.

It's like a domino effect it grows and changes many aspects of ur life expecially if it happens when u are young and vulnerable , it shapes the rest of your life. It's very complicated , it's different for everyone . But one thing I can tell u is I've experience 99% of these Symptons of ptsd that are caused by rape, many still affect me to this day :

 

Repeated and distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions. Unable to distinguish between past events and reality. Such incidents are often called "flashbacks".

Distressing and or frightening dreams about the event.

Associating various words, happenings, or "triggers" to the actual event which then causes a "flashback".

Avoidance of anything that may "trigger" a flashback including not talking about the attack itself.

Pretending it never happened and an inability to recall anything about the attack, "denial".

A feeling of numbness, detachment or "unrealness" about everything.

A lack of emotion or inability to feel love or care about anything. 

A feeling of depression and isolation.

A change in sleep patterns. More often or not the ability to sleep or stay asleep for any length of time.

A lack of concentration.

Avoidance of being touched, and shying away from loved ones. Sudden movements may startle.

A lack of trust in anyone, even close family or partners.

More irritable than usual. Outbursts of anger and crying. Mood swings.

A feeling of low self esteem and confidence.

A feeling of being dirty, or disgusting.

Deep embarrassment or shame. Sometimes self blame for events.

Bitterness and morbid hatred of the perpetrator, with a preoccupation of how to harm or humiliate them.

Loss of appetite or a change in eating patterns.

Chronic Body pain , headaches, 

[Juanjo 2,139]

Stay strong, Gaga! You are a Godsend to so many, and you have so much to give! 

[LostBoyfriend 1,119]

1 hour ago, VANTABLACK said:

It's like a domino effect it grows and changes many aspects of ur life expecially if it happens when u are young and vulnerable , it shapes the rest of your life. It's very complicated , it's different for everyone . But one thing I can tell u is I've experience 99% of these Symptons of ptsd that are caused by rape, many still affect me to this day :

 

Repeated and distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions. Unable to distinguish between past events and reality. Such incidents are often called "flashbacks".

Distressing and or frightening dreams about the event.

Associating various words, happenings, or "triggers" to the actual event which then causes a "flashback".

Avoidance of anything that may "trigger" a flashback including not talking about the attack itself.

Pretending it never happened and an inability to recall anything about the attack, "denial".

A feeling of numbness, detachment or "unrealness" about everything.

A lack of emotion or inability to feel love or care about anything. 

A feeling of depression and isolation.

A change in sleep patterns. More often or not the ability to sleep or stay asleep for any length of time.

A lack of concentration.

Avoidance of being touched, and shying away from loved ones. Sudden movements may startle.

A lack of trust in anyone, even close family or partners.

More irritable than usual. Outbursts of anger and crying. Mood swings.

A feeling of low self esteem and confidence.

A feeling of being dirty, or disgusting.

Deep embarrassment or shame. Sometimes self blame for events.

Bitterness and morbid hatred of the perpetrator, with a preoccupation of how to harm or humiliate them.

Loss of appetite or a change in eating patterns.

Chronic Body pain , headaches, 

wow, i didn't knew this, but thanks, something similar happened to me when i was young and I can relate to some points in that.

[HausAlly 799]

This just reminds me of why i love gaga so much, regardless of her own pain she wants to help others, and i just love that so much about her, she has literally been through hell and back but instead of dwelling on it she uses it to her advantage to help others, I've been feeling really down this year I'm not a survivor of abuse but it's still comforting to see that I'm not alone only especially with gaga.

also to all the abuse survivors in this thread, thank you for your courage and please keep going and healing, you guys are truly superstars 

[AyaKara 2,281]

8 hours ago, Katie14 said:

 

Gaga also once said that she was told 'this is what adults do'. It's terrible to think about.

I was proud at steps like Monster, MTN, and Swine, but I'm even more proud now that we're post-TIHTY. Sexual assault and abuse is one of the most traumatic experiences in the lives of men and women, yet one of the most ignored. I'm glad we have someone with influence bringing it to the forefront.

[SilkSpectre0 547]

6 hours ago, FlyingF said:

This makes me think it was more like where she didnt want to but she didnt vocalise that to him. Not saying it changes anything, im just saying i think the picture thats been painted is of the very worst kind, if that makes sense. Maybe the guy didnt even intend to 'rape' her, even though he did? Am i making sense?

We don't need to put trauma in a competition scale though. No need to say one persons attack was worse than another's as that's what stops people speaking out. "Well what happened was bad but it wasn't the worst it should be so I shouldn't complain". If someone doesn't vocalise that they WANT to do it, no one should be trying to have sex with them. I get what you're saying though it's a common myth people have that most rapes are a stranger jumping out in an dark alley and violent,y attacking you. What people don't realise though is that the trauma imprinted in your body when someone you trust attacks you is just as damaging. 

[SilkSpectre0 547]

I'm so glad gaga has opened up about this, I've had PTSD since I was raped and I never talk about it because people think PTSD only occurs in men who have been to war forgetting that there has been a war of violence of women and children for ****ing ever. The trauma literally gets stuck in your body Hopefully people can stop joking about triggers now on a forum for a woman who has PTSD.

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12 hours ago, Katie14 said:

I remember Gaga said in an interview last year that the person who raped her doesn't even know that he raped her. It makes me feel so sick and angry that a 15 minute act of power dominance, impulsivity, whatever it was, has caused Gaga so much physical, mental, and emotional pain and this guy has no idea he even did anything wrong. How is that even possible?

Also, im sure her knowing that he doesn't know must makes it so much harder for her to move on. It invalidates her. She blamed herself for so long because she doubted whether or not it really happened. 

I'm not familiar with this story. How did he not know he had raped her? 

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17 hours ago, duskball said:

im gonna write this here cause i know damn well theres going to be some idiots here who are gonna **** on her for this. i believe that she suffers from ptsd.

i was raped when i was 11. im 24 now and it still affects me.

 

 

It happened to me when I was 14 and 17, I've successfully recovered with the help of cognitive therapy. You should try it!

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16 hours ago, Bebe said:

Sexual assault is considered a form of torture, I think sometimes people fail to recognise how much it really can affect a person.

There has been some discussion lately about whether Gaga likes to 'play the victim' and stuff like that. I think this puts a lot of things into perspective. I recall one popular argument was that Gaga likes to be a victim and seeks out harm despite being smart enough to know better.

One of the symptoms of PTSD is reckless or self-destructive behaviour.
(https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/types-of-anxiety/ptsd)

We know she suffers, or at least used to suffer, from some very intense nightmares. She has talked about triggers and that sometimes she feels like she is going to get attacked again when people are surrounding her and trying to grab her and take her picture. We know about her intense depression. It's not really that surprising.

I hope she takes care of herself.

 

 

Yes, I know all about that self-destruction and people need to realise that it's a real thing. It's like you're loosing all control and someone else takes over you mind and body. The inner you don't want to do it, but the force that takes over is often too strong to control.