Have You Ever Faced Racism or Homophobia?

[Kayla 7,595]

As a white woman who's been in heterosexual relationships, I haven't faced any racism or homophobia. But I've seen it happen to other people and have heard stories about it from people I am close to. 

Lemme just list it out.

- A woman adopted a black child with autism- a man more or less in her backyard working on the cable saw him through the window and assumed he was an adult home invader. He called the police, who went to the woman's front door and informed her there was in "intruder" in her house and went in to get the kid. Thankfully, the 10 year old child is well-known by police (the parent purposefully introduced the kid to as many people on the force as she could and frequently attended police-sponsored events and volunteer opportunities with him) so when they saw who it was they were frustrated by the guys mistake and asked him to apologize to the parent. 
TL;DR - A ten year old black kid was seen in a home and someone called the police, reporting him as an adult home invader. 

- When I was very young my great grandmother was reading a book to me in which she was pointing out, "This is a black baby, and this is a white baby."

- During a baby shower for a family friend, a black man approached the porch where my aunt and great grandmother were smoking. He smiled, said "Hey, how y'all doing?" My family members did not respond- just stared him down and pulled their purses closer. Fun Fact: He was the husband of the woman we were having a baby shower for. It was his porch.

- As a child my dad tried to convince me that blacks and whites marrying was "wrong."
(I still have an uncle who feels this way, despite the fact his first wife was Mexican and his current wife is Macedonian- it's specifically black people marrying white people he has an issue with. But he's "not racist" because he "doesn't have a problem with black people.")
(My stepmom's mom also expressed disdain for blacks and whites marrying. I pointed out that's racist, she's said she's "not racist" because she "used to eat lunch with a black person at work almost every day)

- Growing up my dad and stepmom's entire families would make fun of black people, joke about them being poor, etc. etc. and encouraged their kids to do the same.

- While watching America's Next Top Model my dad pointed out that Tyra banks is very attractive. My stepmom looked at him, disgusted, and said, "Ugh, would you actually have sex with a black girl?" His response? He laughed and joked "They're all pink on the inside!"

- That stepmom was manager at a kids clothing store. She informed me one day while I was visiting her in the shop that "You have to keep an eye on black people when they come into the store. They're almost always here to steal," I challenged her on this, and her 'evidence' for it was "Well, when black people buy clothes for their kids they get Tommy Hilfiger or FUBU. If they're in here it's to steal our merchandise to sell online."

- Recently a family member tried to argue that there's nothing wrong with white supremacy and the recent prominence of "white nationalism" is "in response to groups like NAACP and Black Lives Matter," implying that pro-black groups are negative and incite violence from whites.

- A friend of a cousin referred to black people as "niggers" on multiple occasions in a conversation (then claimed he wasn't racist).

- Multiple family members have indicated how some black workers they worked with "only got their job because they're colored," and talked about how "unfair" it was when a person was fired for calling one of those people a "******."

- A biracial friend of mine has pointed out that when he goes out to dinner with his black family they are treated differently than when he goes out to dinner with his white family.

- A black friend of mine shared stories of when he was stopped by police and handcuffed when merely walking through a neighborhood - other black friends were present in the conversation and shared their own stories. But specifically, my friend pointing out MULTIPLE times he was just walking down the sidewalk when a police cruiser stopped, the officers got out, asked him what he was doing, and handcuffed him for no reason. He's also said majority of the times he's been pulled over for things like a taillight being out, speeding, etc. he was also handcuffed despite handing everything over to the officer as asked. 

So yeah, whenever people are like "Racism does exist!" "Microaggressions aren't real!" it just indicates how delusional and ignorant that person is. 

This huge post is just the **** I can remember. 

[Luc 4,775]

I was once shouted at from a car to 'GET OUT OF THIS NEIGHBOURHOOD, HOMO'. His gaydar is on point  most straight men don't see it that quickly

[Gardevoir 9,823]

Well I was being bullied really hard in my whole junior highschool period. it started at the end of elementary school, just because I was practising ballroom dancing, someone started a rumour that I'm a "f4ggot" (it's true that I'm gay but I think I came to that conclusion a little bit later). In junior highschool I was being called f4ggot simply everyday, by people from my classes and also from people from another classes. it was a whole school thing. it was popular to bully me I think. It was hard to the point that when I was going to school at the morning I was praying and hoping to not be called that again, usually it was happening anyway. I think it really got into my mind and pretty much affected my self-esteem. I have strong social anxiety after all.

 

And I was attacked two times thid year, just because I'm gay. I even made a thread about it in here few months ago.

[Borislshere 53,084]

33 minutes ago, donutellha said:

 bc cant handle the seasoning on french fries

[Letmelivemylife 8,715]

18 minutes ago, AlexanderLevi2 said:

I don't get why people care!!!

It just fabric on your body! Why do we assign genders to it, ugh?!?

Exactly!!!!! I get questioned all the time about why I let her use the mens bathroom sometimes and it's like "the line to use the women's is too long and until businesses start building 2 women's restrooms to cope with the lines, she's just gotta use the men's." 

[The Fame Joanne 5,985]

No not really, but I recently found out that a guy who I was friends with (not that close tho) when I went to school, deleted me as a friend on facebook after my coming out 

[Werk 13,166]

Idk about racism but people especially annoying pre-teens have been disrespectful acting like they know my nationality saying "Ni Hao" on the streets and it doesn't help when people say ching chong. I always feel like severely killing someone when I hear something like that. 

[RAMROD 109,714]

There are extended family from my mother side who doesn't like Caucasian. They never agree to my mom's marriage with my dad. Always called my Dad all kinds of slurs. But we have distanced ourselves from them. By that, I mean we did cut contact altogether now.

Then it complicates things a bit when it comes to me cos I am half asian and half caucasian. When I was younger, sometimes there are moments where people make me feel that I don't truly belong in each group. But to say the truth, there are more people from my Dad's side who are more welcoming than people from my mother's side. I find Asians tend to be more close minded about interracial marriage still, also I hate it everytime when they asked "Your dad is white? You're rich then?" 😵

Like, yes, my parents are loaded, but not because of their race, they worked hard for it, besides, that is wrong mindset to have. There are no one race that wealthier than the other on the get go. Things like this always bugs me to no end.

 

As for homophobia, never really experience that cos I know how to carry myself. Always see the situation, if it is ok to be flaming or is it better to be discreet. When I worked in Middle East, it'd be foolish thing to do to be so open about it, so I was quiet about it and find dates discreetly, this is not driven by fear, just common sense.

And as for travel, me and my lover already blacklisted few places to visit cos it is too risky to go there as a couple. It's not worth the trouble.

[Morphine Prince 106,214]

I'm Hispanic. 

I was at the store with my mother. We were paying and my mother started speaking Spanish to the Hispanic cashier. This white woman started telling the cashier "You should not be speaking in Spanish. This is America." 

The racist bitch assumed my mother didn't speak English. To her surprise my mother turned around and told her "This is America, and I can speak whatever language I want" 

The racist trash was SHOOK. She didn't respond a word. 

I'm 100% sure she's ecstatic Trump won. 

This is more of a xenophobic event. 

[AlexanderLevi2 5,849]

1 hour ago, Letmelivemylife said:

Exactly!!!!! I get questioned all the time about why I let her use the mens bathroom sometimes and it's like "the line to use the women's is too long and until businesses start building 2 women's restrooms to cope with the lines, she's just gotta use the men's." 

Yes!

Honestly they should just build individuals stalls and then have one community sink area. We just want to go to the bathroom and move on!

[NickiMinajStan 6,893]

As a kid, I faced both  

I'm not black, but I'm mildly dark-skinned (like Jessica Alba, sometimes she looks white, sometimes she looks "latina", I'm kinda like that), and in Argentina, at least when I was a kid, that's enough to be considered "black" and being discriminated as such. 

It was not a huge deal, it was mostly one of my cousins, who "bullied" me for that, and maybe some random kids at parties, or whatever, but that was it. 

Like, it did not stained me, nor it left a mark on me, but I know how it is to be treated differently because of your skin color. 

Regarding homophobia, never faced it at all until I turned 16. 

There was a group of guys in my classroom who were literally OBSESSED with me, and my sexuality. 

They made loud comments about... like everyday and they tried their hardest to make me feel ashamed for being the way I was (which I didn't, and that's what pissed them off the most I think). 

To be completely honest, not all of them, but I think some of them hated on me because they were attracted to me, and were conflicted about it  

In any case, it didn't lasted long: the guy who sat next to me got tired of their comments about me, waited for them before class and literally kicked their *sses (they were LITERALLY shook  he was my hero that day, LMAO ).  They "respected" me afterwards cause they were scared of him

And that's kinda it, as an adult I face no discrimination at all (I suppose that, since I look like a female, and I'm hot, I get a pass with straight males, but I'm well aware that if I were not attractive, I'd face hell everyday, I'm not stupid). 

So yes, I do know how it is to be a victim of bullying. But I never, EVER felt ashamed, never. 

So to those of you who still face discrimination: love yourselves, everyone else can go to hell, don't care what they have to say  

[Hadrian 654]

All the time (being Hispanic), but a stare-down usually gets the bastards to leave me alone.

Fairly innocuous but actually even more ****ing annoying are the "micro-aggressions" because I get them more often and people have no idea how stupid they're being.

I get...
•Girls asking me if I'll shop for clothes with them, when, honestly, I don't care for fashion and I hate shopping for clothes. Yes, it's ironic that I love Gaga.
•Girls asking me how their nails look. I either don't care or I probably think they're ugly.
•People asking me "where are you from?" because I'm "ambiguously brown".
I'm from California.
"no no, where are you REALLY from?"
My parents are from California. My grandparents are from California. Not every brown person is from Mexico, jackass.
•Straights asking me "so who's the girl in your relationship?"
•Straight men asking me if I want to become a woman. I'm 6'0" big hairy mother****er who can bench press his weight; how the **** do you even get to this logic? I have a beard and an undercut for crying out ****ing loud.
•White people calling me "Juan" or "Jose" purely by accident. For some reason, it offends me more when it's accidental, as if they think we all have the same ****ing name like Pokemon. Worse still is when they think my last name is Sanchez or Gonzalez. My surname is actually [a Spanish adjective] so I don't even know how they come up with these other names. It ends with an O.

Also because I'm "ambiguously brown" like I mentioned above, people sometimes call me the n-word or the various slurs for middle-eastern folk.

I hate people.

[monsterdino 31,997]

11 hours ago, Kayla said:

- As a child my dad tried to convince me that blacks and whites marrying was "wrong."
(I still have an uncle who feels this way, despite the fact his first wife was Mexican and his current wife is Macedonian- it's specifically black people marrying white people he has an issue with. But he's "not racist" because he "doesn't have a problem with black people.")
(My stepmom's mom also expressed disdain for blacks and whites marrying. I pointed out that's racist, she's said she's "not racist" because she "used to eat lunch with a black person at work almost every day)

@MaryJaneHolland oh wow

[monsterdino 31,997]

11 hours ago, Kayla said:

- While watching America's Next Top Model my dad pointed out that Tyra banks is very attractive. My stepmom looked at him, disgusted, and said, "Ugh, would you actually have sex with a black girl?" His response? He laughed and joked "They're all pink on the inside!"

[monsterdino 31,997]

11 hours ago, Kayla said:

Spoiler

 

As a white woman who's been in heterosexual relationships, I haven't faced any racism or homophobia. But I've seen it happen to other people and have heard stories about it from people I am close to. 

Lemme just list it out.

- A woman adopted a black child with autism- a man more or less in her backyard working on the cable saw him through the window and assumed he was an adult home invader. He called the police, who went to the woman's front door and informed her there was in "intruder" in her house and went in to get the kid. Thankfully, the 10 year old child is well-known by police (the parent purposefully introduced the kid to as many people on the force as she could and frequently attended police-sponsored events and volunteer opportunities with him) so when they saw who it was they were frustrated by the guys mistake and asked him to apologize to the parent. 
TL;DR - A ten year old black kid was seen in a home and someone called the police, reporting him as an adult home invader. 

- When I was very young my great grandmother was reading a book to me in which she was pointing out, "This is a black baby, and this is a white baby."

- During a baby shower for a family friend, a black man approached the porch where my aunt and great grandmother were smoking. He smiled, said "Hey, how y'all doing?" My family members did not respond- just stared him down and pulled their purses closer. Fun Fact: He was the husband of the woman we were having a baby shower for. It was his porch.

- As a child my dad tried to convince me that blacks and whites marrying was "wrong."
(I still have an uncle who feels this way, despite the fact his first wife was Mexican and his current wife is Macedonian- it's specifically black people marrying white people he has an issue with. But he's "not racist" because he "doesn't have a problem with black people.")
(My stepmom's mom also expressed disdain for blacks and whites marrying. I pointed out that's racist, she's said she's "not racist" because she "used to eat lunch with a black person at work almost every day)

- Growing up my dad and stepmom's entire families would make fun of black people, joke about them being poor, etc. etc. and encouraged their kids to do the same.

- While watching America's Next Top Model my dad pointed out that Tyra banks is very attractive. My stepmom looked at him, disgusted, and said, "Ugh, would you actually have sex with a black girl?" His response? He laughed and joked "They're all pink on the inside!"

- That stepmom was manager at a kids clothing store. She informed me one day while I was visiting her in the shop that "You have to keep an eye on black people when they come into the store. They're almost always here to steal," I challenged her on this, and her 'evidence' for it was "Well, when black people buy clothes for their kids they get Tommy Hilfiger or FUBU. If they're in here it's to steal our merchandise to sell online."

- Recently a family member tried to argue that there's nothing wrong with white supremacy and the recent prominence of "white nationalism" is "in response to groups like NAACP and Black Lives Matter," implying that pro-black groups are negative and incite violence from whites.

- A friend of a cousin referred to black people as "niggers" on multiple occasions in a conversation (then claimed he wasn't racist).

- Multiple family members have indicated how some black workers they worked with "only got their job because they're colored," and talked about how "unfair" it was when a person was fired for calling one of those people a "******."

- A biracial friend of mine has pointed out that when he goes out to dinner with his black family they are treated differently than when he goes out to dinner with his white family.

- A black friend of mine shared stories of when he was stopped by police and handcuffed when merely walking through a neighborhood - other black friends were present in the conversation and shared their own stories. But specifically, my friend pointing out MULTIPLE times he was just walking down the sidewalk when a police cruiser stopped, the officers got out, asked him what he was doing, and handcuffed him for no reason. He's also said majority of the times he's been pulled over for things like a taillight being out, speeding, etc. he was also handcuffed despite handing everything over to the officer as asked. 

So yeah, whenever people are like "Racism does exist!" "Microaggressions aren't real!" it just indicates how delusional and ignorant that person is. 

This huge post is just the **** I can remember. 

 

 

Omg you are surrounded by racist white ppl, please when someone says something racist in your presence point it out and if they deny it or agree that that's ok then fight back. This is definitely not ok, not at all