Have you ever felt jealous/envious of Gaga?

[Bad Bromance 5,809]

That is a very positive way of thinking but I do think that certain careers, especially artistic/entertainment ones, are very challenging.  There are tons of people who are actors or singers and they make enough money to support just themselves and have to live with roommates. This type of lifestyle is ok when you are in your teens and twenties. Eventually though, people get married and have kids. Then, the career that allowed you to just get by before, would have to be abandoned. You essentially have to make it pretty big in the artistic world in order to have enough money to support a family (and I don't even mean being super famous) In order for this to happen, you have to be born very talented, then you have to know what you want at a pretty young age so you can refine your talents as you grow into an adult, then you have to be at the right place at the right time. Its just seems so impossible.

Nothing's impossible in this world if you set your mind to it.  You just have to be willing to work extremely hard and have a lot of doors slammed in your face before you make it big.  Also, whomever wants to make it in show business has to be really talented.  If you work hard and are super talented, the good opportunities will eventually come knocking on your door.

[Shaney 5,515]

Yes, she does everything I would love to do, I feel worthless compared to someone who has as much power as she does, to be quite honest. Ok, maybe i'm being a lil dramatic. It just bothers me because i have crippling anxiety that holds me back from doing the things I want (theatre, and singing like Gaga) and I can't get rid of it, and here she is, a confident chanteuse... but who am I? Her quote, "At some point you have to stop crying and go kick some ass" inspires me on a day to day basis. I really do love her, though. 

I wanted to post a thread like this earlier today but I figured I would get bashed. You summed my thoughts up in a way that I couldn't have expressed!

[swordstalker 1,829]

Its not that im jealous of her work ethic. I am jealous of the fact that she has a place to put her passion and energy. I have a good work ethic too, I just don't have a way of using it the way she does if that makes sense.

I completely understand. My comment wasn't directed towards you, it was just some much-needed introspection. I feel like that too. I feel like I'm an intelligent person (I think??? lol), but I hate not having a goal or something I love, because I don't have much drive to do anything. I wish I had something I really loved, so I guess you could say that I'm envious that Gaga has such a strong passion for something.

(and yes I realize I just paraphrased your first post haha)

[mic 1,415]

I can feel you actually. I think it's because we all 'met' her for the first time when she used to be young, rebellious and lonely - just like us (at least the teen fans back then).

now her life has changed and she is truly happy. I am so glad for her being like this and finally finding solace, but the connection doesn't feel as strong anymore. It's natural.

regarding her being hard worker and her career - I also tend to compare myself to her a lot (for example even when i am very lazy about going to uni classes, I decide to attend because I know she would do it). 

And what you said about luck is very true. I love her talent, her artistic background and all, but let's face it - there were many factors which contributed to her success that majority of people don't have. She has super rich parents, she grew up on Manhattan, attended expensive private school, had extra art classes plus piano and all (in big cities it costs loads of money). So overall she was just blessed to had possibility to develop her potential, step into the underground music scene of possibly most significant city in the world. Get inspired on everyday basis from variety of different people gathered in New York City.

i do not deny her hard work, but you shouldn't feel so sad because the way she developed does not define the way you can. Everybody would love to be famous superstar but there are so many different kinds of beauty you can find in life. Gaga said herself that this world is so artificial and the only thing you have is your talent. Dont feel bad for being confused, keep exploring :) what she achieved is not the ultimate happiness scenario you can find.

[Katie14 4,828]

I completely understand. My comment wasn't directed towards you, it was just some much-needed introspection. I feel like that too. I feel like I'm an intelligent person (I think??? lol), but I hate not having a goal or something I love, because I don't have much drive to do anything. I wish I had something I really loved, so I guess you could say that I'm envious that Gaga has such a strong passion for something.

(and yes I realize I just paraphrased your first post haha)

I wish I knew exactly what I wanted from such a young age like her. Since she knew what she wanted, her whole life catered around that and she had such a huge head start. The earlier you have a specific focus, the earlier you can specialize and learn and get experience. I graduated college a year ago and I still don't know what I want. I keep changing my mind. I am passionate about some areas but honestly I am the most passionate about Gaga herself. I feel like nothing is as interesting as her. Too bad we can't make careers out of being Gaga fans....

[Solitaire 902]

Gaga is ridiculously hard-working and dedicated and I am extremely happy for all of her success. She truly deserves everything that she has.

I have never felt any type of jealously towards her until recently. I hate this feeling because I think jealously is a disgusting and self destructive emotion to have. I think I feel this way because Im at a point in my life where I am confused about what to do next career wise. My path is very uncertain and ambiguous while Gaga seems to be on top of the world right now. She knows, and always knew, exactly what kind of career she wanted, was born with the talent to be successful, and had the confidence and fearlessness to pursue her dreams. I also think Im feeling this way now because I kind of would like to be an actress, but I know that type of career is so unrealistic for me. Maybe just seeing her do all these things that I would like to do is kind of frustrating because I know its not possible for me.

She is such a hard worker and I feel like I could be a hard worker too. I just don't have anywhere to channel my energy. I don't even know how to explain this. I just feel like I am wasting my potential while she is digging so deep and using every ounce of hers.  I just can't help but compare myself to her because she is such an inspiration and big part of my life. I feel like my existence is pathetic and useless compared to hers though I know its silly to compare myself to her. She is 1 in a million. I guess I just feel close to her in a way. Like if one of your friends gets a part in a movie, you would feel like its possible for you too. It doesn't seem so far fetched anymore. She just makes it seem like if you work hard enough, you can achieve whatever you want because she did it. In reality, that is so far from the truth. There is so much competition in this world and everything has to fall in place perfectly to get your dream job or dream life. There is a huge amount of luck involved and I don't think she has every acknowledged that.

I truly am happy for her and I probably sound so whiny. We really only see the glamorous and exciting side to her life. We do not get to see the hours of tedious rehearsal, the lack of sleep, the pressure, the mismanagement, ect. So I am probably thinking that her life is way different from how it truly is.  I know she has had a lot of struggles in her personal life and career. Its not like her life has been this perfect rosy experience. But, at least she has something to show for it. I feel like I don't.

This is just how I feel and I wish I didn't feel this way because I am disgusted with myself. Im kind of embarrassed to even post this...

Anyway, have you ever felt this way?

I identify with this part very much actually. Lately I've been second guessing where I'm headed career wise, and while I can be passionate about my work, I don't have a clear channel to direct it into right now and it's a very very strange feeling.

[Sister 9,907]

You can get where you want to be if you just believe and try hard enough.

I have admired Gaga since I have found her on myspace, but I have never felt jealousy, more like a rooting for that girl, like a sibling. She feels a lot like me and like a sister or something. I believe in her and her dreams and talents and do not put myself up to competition with her. I guess it has just made me happy to see someone like her make it so strongly in this unbelievable world.

[Kulture Kiari 3,433]

Oh honey, no. Gaga was not magically born with talent. She was taught and practiced at a very young age and continued without giving up. Putting everything on the side and determined to achieve her goal. I mean look at her, even at 21 she was not your average girl. She had her heart broken, but continued on trying to get noticed. Even today, she took months of vocal classes to sing as good as she did at the Oscars, I believe for six months prior to the Oscars, and she is taking pointers from her boyfriend, Taylor Kinney.

From my part, I am not jealous of her. I thank her tbh! I lived in Arizona, and in 2011, at age 18, with nowhere to go, I got inspired by Gaga to move to Hollywood and pursue my dreams of being an actor. While there, I took acting classes and had the best experience that no one can ever take away from me. Unlike Gaga tho, when the perks of being an actor started popping up, I decided to play around instead of focusing on my goal while ultimately getting locked up in a messy contract. That is no one's fault but mine. I mean literally, regardless of the career or where you live, you just have to work hard, truly want to achieve your goal and let nothing, relationships, stress, parties, etc. get in the way of your goal! 

[Shadow 6,625]

Everything has its pros and cons. I used to want a life like hers, but I could see how stressful it could be and how much she has to do perfectly enough to impress the world. 

Jealousy and envy... The problem with comparing ourselves to other people, is that we are so different and trying to achieve commonalities, talent and success wise as someone like her doesn't get at the root of the problem. 

You need to get to the root of you.

If today was your last day, what part of your life would you feel would be unfulfilled? Think of Gaga's quote tattooed to her arm by Rainer Maria Rilke. If you were to write, ask yourself, "why must I write." If you were to pursue acting, ask yourself why must you act. The answer must come from you.

You can always learn the what, the how, the when, and the where, but the why is crucial to get you to that driven state. It is the drive that will push you passed the odds, the failures, the doubts, the criticisms, and everything in this life that would come against you. Your first obstacle to your goals like anyone else, including me and many others here, is ourselves.

Once we find the why within ourselves to motivate and believe in us and what we have to offer, we won't take no for an answer. We'd find a way like someone like Lady Gaga. She got plenty of s--t in the beginning before she got noticed and signed to a label and she still deals with s--t in a number of ways, but she manages. We have to be willing to deal with the s--t of the world to get to the good stuff.

[Katie14 4,828]

Oh honey, no. Gaga was not magically born with talent. She was taught and practiced at a very young age and continued without giving up. Putting everything on the side and determined to achieve her goal. I mean look at her, even at 21 she was not your average girl. She had her heart broken, but continued on trying to get noticed. Even today, she took months of vocal classes to sing as good as she did at the Oscars, I believe for six months prior to the Oscars, and she is taking pointers from her boyfriend, Taylor Kinney.

From my part, I am not jealous of her. I thank her tbh! I lived in Arizona, and in 2011, at age 18, with nowhere to go, I got inspired by Gaga to move to Hollywood and pursue my dreams of being an actor. While there, I took acting classes and had the best experience that no one can ever take away from me. Unlike Gaga tho, when the perks of being an actor started popping up, I decided to play around instead of focusing on my goal while ultimately getting locked up in a messy contract. That is no one's fault but mine. I mean literally, regardless of the career or where you live, you just have to work hard, truly want to achieve your goal and let nothing, relationships, stress, parties, etc. get in the way of your goal!

Im happy she inspired you! That's really great. Im curious, did you go to college for acting? What type of classes did you take?

[Kulture Kiari 3,433]

Im happy she inspired you! That's really great. Im curious, did you go to college for acting? What type of classes did you take?

No. I didnt go to college for acting. I went to a Meisner technique class at a studio called PlayHouse West. Ashley Judd, James Franco, Michelle Pfieffer, Jim Carrey, Chase Crawford, and Heather Morris are just a few of many alumni. Jeff Goldblum actually teaches a class there, but that's the final ongoing level. I was taught by Tracy Aziz, Jim Nieb, and Mark Pellegrino. The classes are probably the cheapest in North Hollywood, or even the whole LA area, and offer a lot! Apart from being a cool studio, having cool class mates, and awesome teachers, I really enjoyed the Meisner technique. Although, the Meisner technique is not for everyone, I recommend finding a technique that is taught in your area to get your feet wet: Strasberg technique (what Gaga studied), the Adler technique, and the Stanislavsky technique, which is the mother of all other three techniques. Of course, if neither technique is right for you, then there is always college acting classes. 

[Puddin 1,207]

I'm not gonna lie, I do sometimes feel jealous of her BUT then I remember that if I set my mind on a goal, I can be just like her as well. I am very proud of the work ethic and discipline I have, especially when it comes to me pursuing the career I want. I feel jealousy is normal, but we also have to remind ourselves that we are great and can achieve high as well. 

[Katie14 4,828]

I'm not gonna lie, I do sometimes feel jealous of her BUT then I remember that if I set my mind on a goal, I can be just like her as well. I am very proud of the work ethic and discipline I have, especially when it comes to me pursuing the career I want. I feel jealousy is normal, but we also have to remind ourselves that we are great and can achieve high as well. 

what career do you want to do?

[Puddin 1,207]

what career do you want to do?

cosmetology! But I'd love to be a pop star/diva/actress/musician/fashion icon/performer as well ;P

[TimisaMonster 31,073]

Am I jealous or envious of Gaga...no

I do wonder sometimes what its like to be in her position and getting to make music, influence the world, etc

But I would never want it...too much commitment and there are more important things in the world