Rebecca Black comes out as queer

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1 minute ago, nathantj594 said:

So she likes everyone? Or might be lesbian and just doesn’t want to say so? Isn’t that a front? 

She could like everyone or she could be a lesbian.She could also only like one gender or one presentation type such as feminine, masculine, or androgynous. That's why she, and other people, use queer. They don't have to stick to one definition because gender and sexuality can be fluid. 

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Just now, Brainiac said:

Got it. So Rebecca just prefers to use "queer" as an umbrella term but doesn't want to directly label her sexuality I guess?

Yeah, or she might not know for sure, or none of the labels she knows about really fit how she is.

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Just now, calmar said:

Yeah, or she might not know for sure, or none of the labels she knows about really fit how she is.

Gotcha. Thanks for breaking it down so simply for me. Appreciate it.

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If it helps people understand, I am trans and I used to identify as a lesbian. Gate keepers in the lesbian community don't think I belong because I am trans. I used to fight against it but I gave up. Their transphobia made me not want to be in their community. Because of this I use the word queer. For me it lets people know that I am not a straight man even though I normally look like a boy with a girlfriend. 

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59 minutes ago, PunkTheFunk said:

Love that for her, but why does it feel like everyone is queer these days?

I think its because people are more open about it today, so as a result people feel less alone and that they can come forward and be open about it.  

1 hour ago, Maleficent said:

what does queer mean? is she lesbian or bi?

 

30 minutes ago, nathantj594 said:

Can someone explain queer to me? I’m American but English isn’t first for me 

 

23 minutes ago, Brainiac said:

I'm probably gonna get hate for this but I really don't understand a lot these "new" terms in regards to sexuality and gender identity either (like some others here). What is queer? What is non-binary? There are so many terms now that don't seem to make much sense or really differentiate themselves from the traditional terms (ie, gay, lesbian, bi, trans).

it looks like people on here already explained it.  but yeah queer just means you're anything BUT heterosexual. and heterosexual means you ONLY like the OPPOSITE sex. so if you're male, you like female. if youre female you like male.  being that she is queer, she can like males that identify as a man, a woman, or doesn't identify with any gender, OR she can like females who identify as women, men, or doesn't identify with any gender.  I hope that makes some sense lol 

basically she's saying, im not youre average straight girl and I am open to all ideas of sexuality and gender.

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18 minutes ago, Brainiac said:

Got it. So Rebecca just prefers to use "queer" as an umbrella term but doesn't want to directly label her sexuality I guess?

It also should be noted that Rebecca is 19 years old. She said in the video that she's still trying to figure herself out (like anybody is at age to be honest, and describing yourself as "gay", "bi", "lesbian" or anything specific can feel sort of frightening). So queer is like a good way of expressing "I don't know a lot about myself yet, but I know one thing for sure, and it is that I am not heterosexual." She does mention however, that she tends to date girls predominantly.

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Good for her!

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33 minutes ago, Little Fighter said:

Queer is an umbrella term for being not straight, and sometimes not cisgender. People use it when they are lesbian, gay, bi, pan, trans, nonbinary, and other identities. Some people use queer because they don't connect to the limitations of identity or don't feel the need to put themselves in one box. For them, queer encompasses all of their identities in one word. It's a freedom from absolutes while expressing what they aren't. 

^what you could’ve said (👏👏👏)

51 minutes ago, Bjaf said:

pleaseeeee it does make sense! You shouldn’t be asking "is she lesbian or bi" like those are the only two valid options, especially in a space (this forum) that is highly queer centric

It’s ok if you just don’t know about it but there are plenty of resources out there to help you get that information

^what you actually waste time saying. 

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25 minutes ago, Maleficent said:

^what you could’ve said (👏👏👏)

^what you actually waste time saying. 

Nope. There’s a huge difference between earnest curiosity ("English is not my first language – what does queer mean?") and "Is she bi or lesbian?".

Also, I expressed sincerely in my second comment that there are resources out there for you to get that information if you were genuinely curious. Your first comment felt a bit rude, so I didn’t feel like having that conversation. I don’t think it’s fair to expect that someone do this work for you, although I am glad that other people felt like providing that information!

What it comes down to is, you shouldn’t come for anyone’s identity saying it "doesn’t make sense"! Maybe you didn’t mean any wrong by that, but you really should be careful with that wording.

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My special senses did tell me sumn but I stayed silent 

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43 minutes ago, Supersonic said:

It also should be noted that Rebecca is 19 years old. She said in the video that she's still trying to figure herself out (like anybody is at age to be honest, and describing yourself as "gay", "bi", "lesbian" or anything specific can feel sort of frightening). So queer is like a good way of expressing "I don't know a lot about myself yet, but I know one thing for sure, and it is that I am not heterosexual." She does mention however, that she tends to date girls predominantly.

This so much! When I was younger I used to label myself "gay" but then I realised otherwise and the Queer laber just fits better and it doesn't' put you in a box.

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1 hour ago, Bjaf said:

pleaseeeee it does make sense! You shouldn’t be asking "is she lesbian or bi" like those are the only two valid options, especially in a space (this forum) that is highly queer centric

It’s ok if you just don’t know about it but there are plenty of resources out there to help you get that information

and this is one of those resources. instead of kindly helping them understand that their comment was sightly ignorant, you decided to be condescending. be kind to one another. 

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Serious question: what’s the difference between Queer and bisexual?

OP: Yasss queen slay slay 

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32 minutes ago, Bjaf said:

Nope. There’s a huge difference between earnest curiosity ("English is not my first language – what does queer mean?") and "Is she bi or lesbian?".

Also, I expressed sincerely in my second comment that there are resources out there for you to get that information if you were genuinely curious. Your first comment felt a bit rude, so I didn’t feel like having that conversation. I don’t think it’s fair to expect that someone do this work for you, although I am glad that other people felt like providing that information!

What it comes down to is, you shouldn’t come for anyone’s identity saying it "doesn’t make sense"! Maybe you didn’t mean any wrong by that, but you really should be careful with that wording.

sorry saw this after i had already had commented on your other post. 

again yes no one is responsible for informing someone BUT like you said this is a very queer-centric platform. this would be a great place for them to ask, and they did. whether you interpreted them as being rude is your own business. i didnt feel they were. they seemed innocently ignorant (not always a bad word) so they just used words they knew. 

the statement you finished with would have been a perfect response yet you decided to take a more aggressive route. i hope you dont take any of this as me "coming for you". like i said before, i just think we should be kinder to each other. 

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3 minutes ago, gumzy3000 said:

Serious question: what’s the difference between Queer and bisexual?

OP: Yasss queen slay slay 

queer is more of a blanket label. gay is queer. lesbian is queer. bisexual is queer. so on and so on. bisexual is a more specific term