'Younger' Actor Nico T on Polygamous Relationship with Lesbian Partner

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It’s nobody’s business but your own who you love and how your relationship is, but Younger star Nico Tortorella, 28, and his partner Bethany Meyers decided to tell their story anyway. They opened up for the Sept. issue of The Advocate on July 11 to talk about their unconventional, queer, beautiful relationship. Though Nico is a bisexual man and Bethany is a lesbian woman, they’ve managed to fall in love and make it work, even with bringing other people into their “family”!

 

“So many people have this idea that if you can love this, you cannot love this… And I don’t understand, because I do,” explained Bethany. “I can have feelings for two people. There are different kinds of feelings, they fulfill different needs. I don’t find it very realistic to think that I’m going to get everything I need out of Nico.” Nico totally understands that, and for the most part, jealousy isn’t a problem in their evolved relationship. However, there is one scenario that would bother him.

“I think if you’re dating another woman and you talk about adopting a kid, or using [my semen] to have a kid, outside of us, yeah, I totally can get behind that,” Nico explains of his partner’s other relationships. “But the thought of you getting pregnant from another dude that you were dating, I don’t know, it hurts in a different way.” We can totally understand that! Meanwhile, Nico longs for that responsibility. I “would give it all up, everything in my life, to be able to carry a child myself,” he said.

“We’re still figuring out the best way we can bring other people into our relationship,” says Nico. “I think we’re in the best place now [that] we’ve ever been, but we’re definitely still on an amateur level.” He even asks for experts and more advanced couples to give him advice about this lifestyle. For now, their biggest issue is struggling to fit other people into their overwhelming love. “[Past partners] didn’t fully realize and understand who we are and what we mean to each other,” says Nico. “Like, ‘OK, you have Bethany, [but] where do I fit into the puzzle?’ ‘Am I ever going to be as important as Bethany is?’ And what’s the answer to that? How do I best answer that question?”

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This is so amazing. Especially for people like me who identify as bisexual/pansexual. I always find it weird when someone says that you can't fall in love with more than one person, it's absolutely possible and I've been there. There are so many gay idols in the entertainment industry and that's an amazing thing but it's kinda hard for people like me becuase there's little to no exposure when it comes to bisexuality. Bisexuality is often looked down upon in the straight community and the gay community. People call us untrustworthy and 'confused' which is not true at all. I hope this changes in the near future This is an amazing start 

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Why does she call herself lesbian if she's in love with a man?

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Wonderful  Me as bisexual am amazed by this. Relationships like these should be more brought into the light, and although I would never be in one, I understand and heavily support polygamous relationships, so good luck to them on their journey 

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He's so f*cking hot 

 

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i'm sweating

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4 minutes ago, littlepotter said:

Why does she call herself lesbian if she's in love with a man?

She identifies as a lesbian but is in love with a guy. At the end of the day, it's her choice and I don't see anything wrong with that at all 

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1 minute ago, ZiggyZiggs said:

She identifies as a lesbian but is in love with a guy. At the end of the day, it's her choice and I don't see anything wrong with that at all 

Uh where did I say it's wrong  I just don't get the logic. If a guy identified as straight and is in love with another guy, no one would say he's straight.

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20 minutes ago, ZiggyZiggs said:

This is so amazing. Especially for people like me who identify as bisexual/pansexual. I always find it weird when someone says that you can't fall in love with more than one person, it's absolutely possible and I've been there. There are so many gay idols in the entertainment industry and that's an amazing thing but it's kinda hard for people like me becuase there's little to no exposure when it comes to bisexuality. Bisexuality is often looked down upon in the straight community and the gay community. People call us untrustworthy and 'confused' which is not true at all. I hope this changes in the near future This is an amazing start 

I'm sorry but how is this good representation for bisexuals or pansexuals? Bisexuality means being attracted to both males and females. Pansexuality is when the gender of your partner doesn't matter to you. But neither of those  things have anything to do with polygamous relationships. If anything this couple only confirms the cliché that bi/pansexual people can't decide and have to date multiple people. Isn't that what always makes them upset? 

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1 minute ago, littlepotter said:

Uh where did I say it's wrong  I just don't get the logic. If a guy identified as straight and is in love with another guy, no one would say he's straight.

let me correct myself 'I don't find weird at all'.  

He can identify as straight if he wants to but be in love with another man lol why not? you didn't say it's wrong sure then what's your ultimate point? what are you trying to say? 

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2 minutes ago, ZiggyZiggs said:

let me correct myself 'I don't find weird at all'.  

He can identify as straight if he wants to but be in love with another man lol why not? you didn't say it's wrong sure then what's your ultimate point? what are you trying to say? 

Let's calm down with the questioning, your honor  

What I'm saying isn't rocket science: how can someone be lesbian and be in love with men? That's the definition of pan/bisexual. 

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1 minute ago, DelusionalGaga said:

I'm sorry but how is this good representation for bisexuals or pansexuals? Bisexuality means being attracted to both males and females. Pansexuality is when the gender of your partner doesn't matter to you. But neither of those  things have anything to do with polygamous relationships. If anything this couple only confirms the cliché that bi/pansexual people can't decide and have to date multiple people. Isn't that what always makes them upset? 

he's bisexual. I'm bisexual and poly amorous. The number of openly bisexual men in the industry is literally so scarce. whoever talked about a 'good representation' and running away from cliches? it's representation for people like me and @Eclipsa nonetheless and that's HUGE for us.

sorry but the 'isn't that what always makes them upset?' comment makes you look a bit ignorant no offense

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6 minutes ago, littlepotter said:

Let's calm down with the questioning, your honor  

What I'm saying isn't rocket science: how can someone be lesbian and be in love with men? That's the definition of pan/bisexual. 

dude u don't need to be shady and overuse '' as if what I'm saying is 'stupid' or 'cringey'

nop its isn't the definition of bi/pan , 

She is attracted to girls and identifies as lesbian. and she isn't in love with men, she is in love with a man and that does not make her bi/pan. It's not rocket science  she's in love with Nico not him

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I don't get it but slay I guess  do whatever you want

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I like the way this guy rolls.

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2 minutes ago, ZiggyZiggs said:

dude u don't need to be shady and overuse '' as if what I'm saying is 'stupid' or 'cringey'

nop its isn't the definition of bi/pan , 

She is attracted to girls and identifies as lesbian. and she isn't in love with men, she is in love with a man and that does not make her bi/pan. It's not rocket science 

But shouldn't that make her pansexual? The definition of 'pansexuality' is the ability to love someone regardless of their gender identity or biological sex, which means that she doesn't fall in love because of his genitals/sex, but the person himself.