Have you ever been a victim of sexual assault/harrassment?

[SarahYuko 1,002]

35 minutes ago, AyaKara said:

I'm crying because of this thread. I am so sorry, everyone. For those of you whom haven't told anyone, this thread is evidence that you're not alone. Please get all of the help you can get. If someone rejects you or denies your claim, then **** it. There are support groups for things like this and you always have your friends.

On Thursday, my best friend died of AIDS. He was raped when he was 14 by his mom's friend, and his mom knew and tried to hide it. He never got psychological or medical help, even as an adult, because of the stigma. And now he's gone at 25. I didn't know any of this until I received the phone call, and we had been friends and neighbors since we were 8 years old.

Please, please get all of the help that is available to you. If there are no resources in the community, there are definitely resources online such as here, forums, sites like Reddit, and anonymous hotlines. Please don't bottle it up. Gaga and Diane made TIHTY for this very reason. Please take care of yourselves. :hug:

I second this! It's so important to speak out when you or someone you know needs help!

[VOLANTIS 16,406]

I was 12 years old and there was this man I had no way of avoiding. He'd touch me inappropriately and at first although I felt uncomfortable I didn't say anything. Now that I think about it I should have told someone then and there. I just told him to stop. Things started escalating day by day and his talks became disgustingly vulgar. Again know that I did ask him to stop putting me in these uncomfortable situations. He'd call me disgusting things. And one day he demanded I follow him and perform certain sexual acts with him. That's when I finally had enough and told my Sister. And I was freed of that man. I know this isn't a rape story. But my life changed drastically during this stage of my life. My Grades dropped so bad and I wanted to kill myself everyday because it meant that I could finally not come into contact with him. And even today I can never spend a second alone with another strange man. Just today during my Computer classes I was the last to finish so I was alone with my Teacher. And I know my Teacher is a good man and he's not going to harm me. But I was nauseous and felt sick to my stomach and I was slightly trembling. I can't let anyone hold my wrist not even someone I love and trust. I just want to feel normal and erase this person from my memories and I find myself unable to do so. 

[DiscoHeaven23 35,007]

Yup,

That's why i make sure to respect those who make accusations

 

[Alfonso 1,550]

No, but I'm really sorry for the ones who had to suffer this, it must be awful . Be strong and never be afraid to look out for help or tell anyone if you have been sexually assaulted because they will help and support you 

 

[DiscoHeaven23 35,007]

I'm so sorry to all on here who have experienced that. The majority of you seem younger than me and that breaks my heart. They say the majority of people who are raped or sexually assaulted have it done by someone they know, and I think this thread is proof of that. I was "fortunate" enough to be 21, when it happened and I was able to get away. I say fortunate because I can't imagine having it continuously done to me as a kid. 

My story was that I was at a bar and my best friend (who's a girl) and we started talking with this guy and he seemed really into my friend. Well, when my friend left he stayed to talk with me and asked to buy me a drink. I was so excited inside cuz this guy was buff and defined himself as straight. That excitement got the best of me and we ended up in the back of my SUV. I told him I just wanted to make out, but then he got on top of me and over powered me and wouldn't left me get up. Thankfully I saw my keys, grabbed them and held them to his throat, and said get off of me. So he did. 

[artRaver 3,188]

Yeah, it happened June 2013, I was only 17. 

I just started exclusively talking to this guy I was friends with for years, He was really cute and had the same taste in music as me so it was nice, whenever I was with him I always felt safe so, obviously this situation completely messed me up really bad - trust issues wise.

One day, he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him since he worked at one and could get us in for free and I said, yeah. From there, he's constantly checking his phone, but I didn't think too much of it at the time and he later tells me how we can't go because he had tickets for a movie that's no longer listed, once again since I knew him for years nothing came to mind and I said okay. 

We drove to get food and just decided to go back to his house, whatever, then from there he offers me something to drink and I said yes because I knew him long enough that I trusted him. From there and out I don't remember anything but I eventually came back to my conscience but not fully, I started crying hysterically because he's laughing about it and texting someone and that's when I knew what happened. 

I collected my things and grabbed my car keys, I didn't know how I was going to get out of there but I just knew I had to go. I called the police and told them the situation so they told me to drive slowly and go to the closest convenience store because that's where they were waiting. From there the paramedics check me out and decide I have to go to the hospital because I kept blacking out, had low blood pressure and slurred speech. (Which matches up with a lot of date rape drugs symptoms) 

I tried to tell the police what happened while they were asking me but before I got sent off to the hospital I just remember them laughing about it like it was a joke and me crying, trying to beg them to listen/test me.

A few minutes later I woke up on a stretcher as they were wheeling me into the hospital and I had to stay there by myself for 5-6 hours until I was in stable again.

 

It ****ed me up trust issue wise, mentally, physically, I can't even go out anymore because we live in the same area and I'm scared to see him.. but when she (Gaga) played Swine at Swinefest then later on released TIHTY I started to somewhat heal, but I don't think I'll ever heal properly because I haven't got counselling for it..

[Sizzily 14,543]

No but my sister was assaulted before Halloween 2 years ago at a college party. She never told me the details, just a general "this happened to me" sort of thing.

[Quartz 12,535]

Yeah. And it ****ed me up bad. From what I can see, there are two possible outcomes of being abused: You will hate people who are like your abuser or you will develop a weird sexual tendency that stemmed from that experience. Unfortunately, I became the second one. I became overly sexual from a young age (still am to this day) and I have done things I really regret. In my sickest fantasies, I want to be abused and looking back, the initial incident really was the cause. I'm not mad, I just maybe want to know how my life would have been if I never went through with that experience.

[SarahYuko 1,002]

5 minutes ago, artRaver said:

Yeah, it happened June 2013, I was only 17. 

I just started exclusively talking to this guy I was friends with for years, He was really cute and had the same taste in music as me so it was nice, whenever I was with him I always felt safe so, obviously this situation completely messed me up really bad - trust issues wise.

One day, he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him since he worked at one and could get us in for free and I said, yeah. From there, he's constantly checking his phone, but I didn't think too much of it at the time and he later tells me how we can't go because he had tickets for a movie that's no longer listed, once again since I knew him for years nothing came to mind and I said okay. 

We drove to get food and just decided to go back to his house, whatever, then from there he offers me something to drink and I said yes because I knew him long enough that I trusted him. From there and out I don't remember anything but I eventually came back to my conscience but not fully, I started crying hysterically because he's laughing about it and texting someone and that's when I knew what happened. 

I collected my things and grabbed my car keys, I didn't know how I was going to get out of there but I just knew I had to go. I called the police and told them the situation so they told me to drive slowly and go to the closest convenience store because that's where they were waiting. From there the paramedics check me out and decide I have to go to the hospital because I kept blacking out, had low blood pressure and slurred speech. (Which matches up with a lot of date rape drugs symptoms) 

I tried to tell the police what happened while they were asking me but before I got sent off to the hospital I just remember them laughing about it like it was a joke and me crying, trying to beg them to listen/test me.

A few minutes later I woke up on a stretcher as they were wheeling me into the hospital and I had to stay there by myself for 5-6 hours until I was in stable again.

 

It ****ed me up trust issue wise, mentally, physically, I can't even go out anymore because we live in the same area and I'm scared to see him.. but when she played Swine at Swinefest then later on released TIHTY I started to somewhat heal, but I don't think I'll ever heal properly because I haven't got counselling for it..

You really ought to seek professional al help. I was skeptical too, but when I finally dragged myself to the counsellor's clinic, I healed really well, slowly but surely. I'm so sorry tha this happened to you, and I can't imagine how terrible it must have been. You deserve better than to be haunted all your life by someone else'd act of violating your safety. If you decide to get therapy/councelling, I'm sure you'll heal really well. I wish you the best of luck and hope this never happens to you again. I pray for your safety and mental as well as emotional recovery. Stay Strong!

[SarahYuko 1,002]

32 minutes ago, VOLANTIS said:

I was 12 years old and there was this man I had no way of avoiding. He'd touch me inappropriately and at first although I felt uncomfortable I didn't say anything. Now that I think about it I should have told someone then and there. I just told him to stop. Things started escalating day by day and his talks became disgustingly vulgar. Again know that I did ask him to stop putting me in these uncomfortable situations. He'd call me disgusting things. And one day he demanded I follow him and perform certain sexual acts with him. That's when I finally had enough and told my Sister. And I was freed of that man. I know this isn't a rape story. But my life changed drastically during this stage of my life. My Grades dropped so bad and I wanted to kill myself everyday because it meant that I could finally not come into contact with him. And even today I can never spend a second alone with another strange man. Just today during my Computer classes I was the last to finish so I was alone with my Teacher. And I know my Teacher is a good man and he's not going to harm me. But I was nauseous and felt sick to my stomach and I was slightly trembling. I can't let anyone hold my wrist not even someone I love and trust. I just want to feel normal and erase this person from my memories and I find myself unable to do so. 

It may not have been rape, but my situation was not rape exactly either. And yet it took a terrible toll on my both physically and mentally. It only gets worse until you work on healing with help from a professional. I hope you are taking therapy and if not, I advise you to. I don't want you to live your whole life afraid like that. You deserve so much more!

[Goddess Of Love 1,323]

No, but I'm sorry for everyone that has. Uh people are so cruel sometimes... Reading this makes me want to cry

[artRaver 3,188]

24 minutes ago, SarahYuko said:

You really ought to seek professional al help. I was skeptical too, but when I finally dragged myself to the counsellor's clinic, I healed really well, slowly but surely. I'm so sorry tha this happened to you, and I can't imagine how terrible it must have been. You deserve better than to be haunted all your life by someone else'd act of violating your safety. If you decide to get therapy/councelling, I'm sure you'll heal really well. I wish you the best of luck and hope this never happens to you again. I pray for your safety and mental as well as emotional recovery. Stay Strong!

Yeah, I know. I mean I've progressed a lot on my own, but I know I need to get more help. I'm not scared to go out on my own anymore, I don't have vivid dreams about the "missing" details anymore, I'm finally not blaming myself, so I guess that's a start.

Thank you for telling me to stay strong, I really appreciate it. 

[StrawberryBlond 14,869]

Between the ages of 11-12, I was sexually harassed by a boy in my maths class. There was no way he was even attracted to me (I was the most prudish looking schoolgirl you've ever seen, I wouldn't have looked twice at me) - it was all a power play because I was always a quiet, vulnerable person. We were in a very small class (only about 7 of us because we were a remedial class) and it was just me and one other girl. He never went near her, he focused on me, so that made me feel even more alone and afraid. After building up a lot of courage, I finally managed to tell a teacher that I was feeling very uncomfortable in the class and I and the girl got moved to this other class for the rest of the year. The next year, we were in a class with a super strict teacher who kept him in line and he was sitting the opposite side of the room. And after that, we all went to different classes because my maths ability improved. I couldn't bring myself to say "sexual" to a teacher at that age. It was just too daunting, so I danced around it. He never got properly punished for it because I was too vague, but at least I was away from him. I never saw him again after that, but he was expelled down the line for something else. Unbelievably, my friend met him in her place of work one day years later and he admitted that being expelled made him see the light, he'd turned his life around and was treating women with a whole lot more respect. So, that truly was the thing that made me 100% move on and be healed of the whole thing. I've never forgotten it, but it was a learning experience. Now, I'd never be quiet if anything like that happened again and I'll teach any children I have of the same thing.

[James Coopridge 73]

Wow.. I'm shaking right now reading these comments... It's heartbreaking to see how many of you have been sexually assaulted. I'm truly sorry that happened to you guys. 

[LaLuna 12,732]

Never, and I'm extremely grateful for that. I'm so sad and angry that so many of you had to go through this, my heart goes out to you guys.