Have you ever been a victim of sexual assault/harrassment?

[SarahYuko 1,002]

I was 5 years old when a neighbour, who was a teenager at the time, started to "touch" me every day for two years. It was only last year when I was 15 that I went to a therapist and learnt to be at peace with what happened to me. I've never had a boyfriend, never kissed, hardly ever hug anyone. It gave me nightmares for a decade and I am still in the process of recovering and learning to trust again. I wish it hadn't happened.

TIHTY really made me emotional and feel empowered. I became more aware that a whole lot of other girls and women have faced the same battles as myself. Even boys and men. I wish things were different in the world, but then again, who doesn't?

I'm making this thread because a few monsters here have mentioned being able to share and strengthen each other, and I thought, why not make a thread? If you don't want to share, it's alright. Just know that you're not alone. If any of you want someone to talk to, I'm here as well as a number of other monsters.

We don't have to go through this alone. I hope and pray that for those of us who have faced sexual assault, or who may face it in the future, we may find strength knowing that there are always people out there willing to help us. Life can get better, one step at a time.

[Iwontell 7,312]

Yeah...but I'm a "dude", so no one really cared about what happened, despite the lasting psychological effects it had in me...besides, she was a minor as well (she was 16 and I was 8), so there wasn't much that could be done legally back then...

[Diamond Heart 4,400]

Yes, but its something i dont like discussing.

Im sorry about your situation 

[Duella Dvil 10,514]

Yes, it was in the summer of my 4th grade year, which made me eleven.

I was camping with my troop and some other guy from a different campsite much MUCH older. Found me when I was alone using the restroom and I was walking back to camp.

He forced me off of the trail and because I struggled he beat me in my chest and bounced my head off the ground then he just took me. I was crying so hard. I had to be silent but everything hurt. After he finished I passed out, when I woke up (because of what time it was) no one had even known I was gone. I had a small cut behind my ear and bruising under my shirt which I let no one see. I thought, oh it only happened to me, I just should have been careful. I blamed it on me. It still wakes me up in the middle of the night.

Because I was in scouting, and had before that incident known about my sexual identity. I said nothing. I didn't want to lose scouting. I thought I would have to come out and ruin my familys life. So I just ruined mine.

I still haven't told anyone in my family, I don't think I ever will.

[PartySick 160,394]

10 minutes ago, Iwontell said:

Yeah...but I'm a "dude", so no one really cared about what happened, despite the lasting psychological effects it had in me...besides, she was a minor as well (she was 16 and I was 8), so there wasn't much that could be done legally back then...

Same, except it was my first boyfriend. 

We were both in the closet and you mix in drugs, alcohol, and his change in scenery and friends and it was a pretty horrific year or so of physical abuse and being raped/felt up. To make it worse, the relationship was great in the beginning so it's left some pretty deep trust issues and confusion that I still haven't gotten over.

*sigh* I don't understand why people hurt each other.

[mmm 879]

23 minutes ago, Iwontell said:

Yeah...but I'm a "dude", so no one really cared about what happened, despite the lasting psychological effects it had in me...besides, she was a minor as well (she was 16 and I was 8), so there wasn't much that could be done legally back then...

Do you know that male rape did not even exist in law until 2013? and im sorry about what happened to you.

[Lextyr97 19,958]

I've been fortunate enough to not have experienced something like that, but honestly, those stories made me cry. I'm so sorry that all of you had to go through that. I can't even begin to imagine the horror behind those kinds of experiences. Thank you for sharing your stories. All of you, keep your heads held high. You were brave enough to get through it, so I believe you're brave enough to rise above it as well.

[duskball 498]

Yeah I'm a guy. When I was about 11 to 14. My aunts boyfriend was living with us and one night when my family went to church and I decided to stay home and play video games I remember he sat next to me and started touching me. That same night he raped me. It went on for years. On my 14th bday my aunt found out and she told him she better tell my parents I asked him for it all to happen. And he did then fled the country. My family for a while blamed me for it. And apparently my aunt is still with that asshole.. I'm 23 now and I'm at peace and I can talk about it no problem. I learn to overcome it.

[MelbHawker 6,583]

I have, once. I don't wish to go into detail - but it wasn't nice. It shocked me. To have someone do something to you without consent and then try and do it again after you've said 'no' is one of the most demoralising and anger-inducing things that could happen to someone.

I have suffered any damage at all, fortunately. It's a shame these sort of assault happens so frequently. It's disgusting.

[Farron 257]

When I was 12-14, my mothers boyfriend sexually assaulted me for two years almost every day. He even raped me once. I remember being so scared I might be pregnant I actually imagined having all the symptoms. I didn't tell my mom until last year because it was my worst fear. I have suffered severe psychological damages (not only from that though, but it probably made it worse). I'm 18 now and I'm currently in therapy.

[AyaKara 2,281]

I'm crying because of this thread. I am so sorry, everyone. For those of you whom haven't told anyone, this thread is evidence that you're not alone. Please get all of the help you can get. If someone rejects you or denies your claim, then **** it. There are support groups for things like this and you always have your friends.

On Thursday, my best friend died of AIDS. He was raped when he was 14 by his mom's friend, and his mom knew and tried to hide it. He never got psychological or medical help, even as an adult, because of the stigma. And now he's gone at 25. I didn't know any of this until I received the phone call, and we had been friends and neighbors since we were 8 years old.

Please, please get all of the help that is available to you. If there are no resources in the community, there are definitely resources online such as here, forums, sites like Reddit, and anonymous hotlines. Please don't bottle it up. Gaga and Diane made TIHTY for this very reason. Please take care of yourselves. :hug:

[SarahYuko 1,002]

It's difficult replying to every one of you individually but I honestly didn't expect anyone to reply. Thank you for sharing your stories. I hope things get better and you overcome your difficulties; everyone of you. And I wish you endless happiness. Thank you so much!

[ShockPop 7,747]

I did write a huge post but apparently I can't submit posts on this site.

[Flippy 12,892]

Yes, as well as people really close to me which hurts every day. Listening to TIHTY I felt really understood and cried for a while. It's a very touchy subject

[Clip 5,100]

I have never been sexually assaulted (fortunately) but once, while I was on a club, a guy took me to the toilet and tried to rape me. Thank god he was super drunk, so I managed to escape.