NY Post:Rihanna’s modesty claim is her biggest shocker yet

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Rihanna is a prude.

At least that’s what she wants us to think. In an interview in this month’s issue of Vanity Fair, the singer/songwriter gets intimate and tries to clarify what the magazine calls the “chasm between her reality and her reputation.”

The writer questions Rihanna about her “bad-girl reputation,” and queries whether her life is, “just one big, long, s-xy night out on the town.”

“Given that she’s supposed to be so freewheeling, can’t she just have s-x for fun?” wonders her interviewer.

Rihanna’s response is surprisingly traditional: “If I wanted to I would completely do that. I am going to do what makes me feel happy, what I feel like doing. But that would be empty for me; that to me is a hollow move. I would wake up the next day feeling like s -  -  t.”

Rihanna elaborated: “I don’t want to wake up the next day feeling guilty. I mean I get horny, I’m human, I’m a woman, I want to have s-x. But what am I going to do — just find the first random cute dude that I think is going to be a great ride for the night and then tomorrow I wake up feeling empty and hollow? He has a great story and I’m like . . . what am I doing? I can’t do it to myself. I cannot. It has a little bit to do with fame and a lot to do with the woman that I am. And that saves me.”

I have to admit I was refreshingly surprised by the stand Rihanna took. And I wonder if her words might signal a shift away from — or at least a healthy new skepticism about — the hook-up culture.

If someone like Rihanna is so strongly denouncing the degradation women often feel after casual s-x, things might be changing.

What Rihanna describes, namely finding a “random cute dude” to be a “great ride for the night,” might sound foreign to some people, but it is in fact common.

Forty percent of women under age 30 have had a one-night stand while traveling, for example.

A Match.com survey found that nearly half of all adults have had a one-night stand. The Daily Mail just ran a story featuring post-one-night-stand snapchats. In one, a man posted a picture of a woman running across the street barefoot in a skimpy dress with the words “Dropped her off . . . #runofshame.”

Elite Daily even has an article walking men through the steps to getting a woman from “Hello” to s-x in one night. The article, “Guys, Here’s How to Land a One-Night Stand,” is filed under “dating,” suggesting the two have become completely conflated.

The “article,” if it can be called that, mentions body language. Look for the come-hither body language, not for the women who seem “closed off” and “reserved,” the author advises.

Which brings us back to Rihanna and Vanity Fair. In every single photo in the magazine spread, Rihanna is captured looking like an advertisement for a one-night stand.

The photo of her completely naked on a bed with sparkly heels and parted red lips and the one where she is falling off of a table with her legs spread open and her head back are designed to conjure thoughts of casual, lusty — or “empty and hollow,” to borrow her words — s-x.

The spread sums up a fatal flaw in modern thinking about s-x: that you can get away from the shame and degradation of casual s-x while dressing like that’s exactly what you’re looking for.

You can’t use yourself to advertise meaningless s-x while proclaiming to be a champion of self-respect. Earning respect from a man or a woman requires some modesty; photos like those of Rihanna in Vanity Fair send a confusing cultural message.

Rihanna might be confused herself. The interview starts out by noting, “Rihanna is firmly in control of her life and career — but not her image.”

The implication here is that a woman’s image still counts for something, and a celebrity as closely followed as Rihanna knows this already. Rihanna’s thoughtful response about casual s-x is a welcome addition to our cultural conversation.

But if she really wants to promote a healthier image for women, she should start by getting dressed.

 

http://nypost.com/2015/10/23/rihannas-modesty-claim-is-her-biggest-shocker-yet/

 

Disgusting hypocrites

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[craig 680]

Plenty of models, singers, and actresses take racy photos, but I wouldn't assume they were into casual s-x. Conversely a girl can get casual s-x in jeans and a t-shirt.

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"S&M" says hello

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I'm never up for casual s-x because there are too many risks involved, and let's face it, most people that would want to hook up would see me as nothing more than a bragging point for their douchy friends (the guy who took the "walk of shame" photo is disgusting - yeah I'd be ashamed for sleeping with that loser too, don't blame her). Rihanna is a very s-xy, s-xual woman. No shame in that. She likes to have s-x, probably rough s-x (if her music is anything to go by). This is perfectly normal or natural. But she's smart and knows the risks involved, especially if you are a famous woman. Good for her!

And no, NYPost, she doesn't need to "cover up." If she wants to express her s-xuality and liberation in photo-shoots she has damn near every right to do so. She's made it clear how she feels about the topic of casual s-x. She has nothing further to say. I just wonder if NYPost would be saying anything similar to male singers that pose with their pants unzipped and their shirts off or do photo-shoots with s-xy models in bed? Do they even bother to ask how they feel?