Sam Smith about people messing up their pronouns

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Sam Smith was among the first major music stars to adopt they/them pronouns. But if you still catch ourself mistakenly referring to the “Stay with Me” singer as “he,” don’t worry about it — Sam says they mess up pronouns all the time as well.

Speaking to Zane Lowe on Apple Music 1, Sam explains, “I just want to create a safe space for everyone. But also, we’re all learning together. The pronoun thing is interesting, because mistakes happen. Even me, I make mistakes quite a lot, and it’s an uncomfortable feeling making a mistake.”

“Editing yourself is great, but I think it’s really good for people to see you mess up and then correct yourself,” Sam continues. “Because that’s what we’ve got to get used to, because changes in language, they take time to change. We need to lean into the uncomfortable feeling of being wrong sometimes, because it’s okay.”

The Oscar-winnner goes on to say, “Famously, the incredible Laverne Cox said that to so many people, this is a culture war. But it’s not a culture war. This is life and death for people, and I think that we all just need to remember that.”

Sam notes that they just want to “spread the love,” noting, “If I lived a life where I was just getting upset every time someone used the wrong pronoun, I would be very sad, and I’m done with being sad.”

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[Blackout19 9,237]

really.. 

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12 minutes ago, Blackout19 said:

really.. 

What?

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I agree, everyone is still learning and language takes time to learn but the most important thing is how we correct ourselves and do better the next time. Pronouns are also a great filter to finding allies  

[Tinnitus15 48,421]

They way if I wana talk to a non-binary person on my langauge will be a complete mess 

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6 minutes ago, Rocketno10 said:

This was beautifully said, I’m very happy for him about his outlooks in life and I think it’s great that he has so much love and patience to give, not just to other people, to himself but also to the necessary process of changing of people’s language habit, let’s break gender down one step at a time!!!!!!

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13 minutes ago, Rocketno10 said:

This was beautifully said, I’m very happy for him about his outlooks in life and I think it’s great that he has so much love and patience to give, not just to other people, to himself but also to the necessary process of changing of people’s language habit, let’s break gender down one step at a time!!!!!!

Girl, really 

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Tbh, I keep on forgetting the pronouns people use not unless it is directly next to their name or under their icon. I forgot that they dont even use "he."

They need to have reminders  cause people won't remember. I guess this article is a reminder. I might have said he in a previous thread about them. 

But short on wearing a name tag with pronouns, it is hard to NOT make mistakes.

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As we're transitioning into a more inclusive environment, I think it's human to assume a gender by mistake. Just be (politely) corrected and now you know. It's like calling someone by the wrong name. 

Publications and outlets should have more accountability for sure. If you're going to look up the celebrities' age or what designer outfit they're wearing, you can see what pronouns they go by as well. 

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Take notes everybody

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59 minutes ago, Rocketno10 said:

This was beautifully said, I’m very happy for him about his outlooks in life and I think it’s great that he has so much love and patience to give, not just to other people, to himself but also to the necessary process of changing of people’s language habit, let’s break gender down one step at a time!!!!!!

I hope you get what you deserve

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Just a reminder that not using someone’s preferred pronouns when clearly stated (especially on purpose) will result in a warning. 

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1 hour ago, Tinnitus15 said:

They way if I wana talk to a non-binary person on my langauge will be a complete mess 

The way there is only one pronoun for all genders even animals, objects etc. in my language 

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That post looked so sweet and affirmative on first read 

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26 minutes ago, thisguyN said:

The way there is only one pronoun for all genders even animals, objects etc. in my language